DP hit me with a slipper!

[SlipperShock]

I've NC for this.

My fiance and I were messing about, 'play fighting' and we were pushing about etc. He stuck his arse out as if he were to fart so I took my slipper off and chased after him. I threw my slippers towards him but missed deliberately. He then threw them back. (All childish I know). Anyway he called it quits. I went to shake his hand, a way we call it quits.

He then smacks my bare arm, full force with the slipper. It really bloody hurt, made me cry and my arm went bright red. He's hit me so hard that he's left the slippers tread imprinted on my arm

He's apologised and I know he's sorry but I'm bloody angry. First of all he called it quits but then to hit me with such force?

I know this is all very childish. But we do play fight often. I'm completely shocked at what he's done.

For "play fighting" read physical abuse you are not allowed to name

Does he have a brother? My DH occasionally gets too over excited and can’t resist doing something like that - I think because he gets all caught up in how he would play with his brother when they were little. He’s grown out of it now after a few bollockings.

That's horrible. He left a mark. I wouldn't expect that to happen when mucking about.

I wonder if you could avoid playfighting in future as I'm worried he might use it as an excuse for actually hurting you. Or if it was unintentional he doesn't know where to draw the line.

Sounds like a game too far to me. He apologised, his intent hardly sounds malicious, I wouldn’t be ‘bloody angry‘

Play fighting... calling quits... sounds like my 13 year old and I always say what driggle said too.

If you enjoy play fighting then you have to accept that you've been tricked into thinking that the fight was over... he probably got caught in the moment and didn't realise how hard he hit you. Although I don't get the whole "play fight" but to each their own.

You both sound very childish! There was a similar thread I remember and general consensus was to stop it if you can't keep it light.

Sounds like it just got a bit out of hand? Perhaps he was still caught up in the fun of the play fighting and didn't realise his force? I'm sure others will come along and say it's abuse but personally, I don't think it is.

Do you think he genuinely was surprised by how hard he hit you?

Normally I’m a “send them packing straight away” with any hint of violence but given that it was during your play fight, if you feel he accidentally hurt you I’d have a talk about where the boundaries are so if never happens again. We’ve both done funny fake “let’s finish the play fight now” and carried on. It depends on what normally happens with you.

Stop play fighting.

Well you know what, when your dad picks you up you should tell your boyfriend on him

That'll show him

Next time you play fight, call it quits then turn around and punch him in the face

Stop dicking about then. Like another poster above, it’ll all end on tears!
He obviously didn’t realise he was going to hurt you so much.

I think if you're happy to playfight then you need to accept that sometimes things can go too far and someone will get hurt.

Sounds to me like he was pretending to call quits and did it to "win", but smacked you a lot harder then he intended.

Kids always end up getting hurt over playfights but I would expect two adults to either accept the risks or grow out of it. Preferably the latter.

I used to work with teenagers and a lot of physical violence was passed off as play fighting. How old is your DP?

Only you can judge why this happened but you need to be crystal clear that this type of thing never, ever happens again. And evaluate your relationship to check for other signs of dominance and abuse. Maybe there is none but on the other hand..

Ffs 'childish' and 'hope you don't breed' what is wrong with you?
Different people have different relationships.
Does sound like game went to far and he got caught up.
Unless he's shown any other signs i'd chalk it up to the game.
Was he sorry?

10thingsIKnowAboutYou

Next time you play fight, call it quits then turn around and punch him in the face

😂😂😂😂

Sounds like the typical trying to get one over, be the winner situation. We used to do it all the time as kids, call it quits whilst looking for the best moment to strike again!

I guess you have two options; stop play fighting or accept he's gunna be a sneaky fucker & try outsmart him.

On a side note, shaking hands to call quits?? I'd be expecting foul play right there!!

Next time you play fight, call it quits then turn around and punch him in the face

Yeah, punching people in the face is hilarious...

I don't see this thread going well

You’ve said all childish I know but yeah, it really is.

Didn’t you grow out of this as a kid? I’m not trying to sound horrible or deliberately provocative but it sounds really odd to me!

Oh for goodness sake. He's done the pretend it's quits and then gets you when you fall for it. He's just done it too hard. I'd assume by mistake.

How old are you both?

He's apologised and if you both stop behaving like children it won 't happen again.