DP hit me with a slipper!

[SlipperShock]

I've NC for this.

My fiance and I were messing about, 'play fighting' and we were pushing about etc. He stuck his arse out as if he were to fart so I took my slipper off and chased after him. I threw my slippers towards him but missed deliberately. He then threw them back. (All childish I know). Anyway he called it quits. I went to shake his hand, a way we call it quits.

He then smacks my bare arm, full force with the slipper. It really bloody hurt, made me cry and my arm went bright red. He's hit me so hard that he's left the slippers tread imprinted on my arm

He's apologised and I know he's sorry but I'm bloody angry. First of all he called it quits but then to hit me with such force?

I know this is all very childish. But we do play fight often. I'm completely shocked at what he's done.

Wow, the twats are out in full force tonight.

Glad all is forgiven op, but do have the conversion about broken trust.

Thing is whacking someone with a slipper is beyond play fighting as it actually hurts.

I'm 5ft1, DP is 6ft4 and I still try and and wrestle him- it's very, very rare one of us gets hurt, but the reality is DP is incredibly careful as even accidentally he could do some real damage.

I'd basically sit on this OP even if he has apologised- if he does it again you'll know he's a twat with violent tendencies. If not- well he was a bit of a dick and needs to reign it in.

Play fighting as an adult is fun exactly because people rarely get hurt- we generally have better control than kids.

If you've never hit someone with a slipper, you wouldn't realise the flex makes it much worse

That's the voice of experience speaking right there (won't delve any deeper into how or why ...)

If you call pax then you expect it to be honoured (unless you are in my family when pax = fight really fucking dirty rather than pax = peace/truce)

You called, @FurCoatFurKnickers?

@Pax

I have no idea why the OP bothered in the first place.
OP: my Dp hit me with a slipper and made me cry
Everyone else: That's awful
OP: No it isn't he's a great guy
Everyone else: ????

Is the slipper Ok?

Why did you nc if you're ok with being hit hard enough to mark your arm, op?

Is the slipper Ok?

No experience, knickers! Just physics, I think. Also DH hurt me early in our relationship. He didn't handle it well. He's not abusive though, just clumsy. On that occasion he took a teaspoon out of his freshly poured tea and tapped it playfully on my neck. Idiot. My completely reasonable reaction upset him so much, i ended up comforting him. He couldn't apologise because he hadn't done it on purpose- I've educated him better now. Mainly.

No interesting research, no.

Hope the takeaway was ok. Not great, just ok.

😐

In my experience (professional) , playfighting is used by those who want to get away with hurting their partner by calling it playing

What a load of crap 😂

I think it's a way for idiots to express themselves, when they don't know how to use words.

I think it’s a way to have fun. You sound like you have a stick up your arse Trashboat. Sorry, but you really do..

That is an unfortunate reprecussion of play fighting. Either stop play fighting or dont get upset if one of you accidently hurts the other.

That can happen especially if your partner is bigger than you, he may end up hurting you. If you dont want that dont act like its a bit of fun. Most men can easily hurt you without realising as they are stronger. You should sit down and agree not to play fight any more if it is now upsetting you.
And I say this as someone who enjoys the odd playfight.

You sound like my youngest child. It’s all fun and games until you lose and then the tears come

Something was irritating me about this thread, the whole tone of it, last night and I couldn’t put my finger on it.
It’s the assuming abuse immediately from OP and many other posters that wound me up. Yes, OPs DP got it wrong, apologised and that should have been it.
Instead it’s all about dominance and overpowering and trust issues.
Fuck off, it was play fighting gone wrong, not abuse.
To make this into something it’s not minimises actual abuse and makes it harder for women who are actually being abused to recognise it and get help. It’s counter productive and frankly ridiculous.

AND slippers get a bad name.

Hear hear. Grips all round. Glad it's sorted OP

I think it can be a good road to learning what kind of person your DP/DH is.

I used to play fight with my ex at the start of our relationship, I recall one particularly fun set-to over the last packet of Hula Hoops.

We stopped in the end because it got to a point that he ALWAYS had to win, always, and it stopped being fun because I invariably used to end up getting hurt and angry at him hurting me, and then i'd get told off for being a 'spoilsport' and ruining it.

No surprises I left him after years of emotional abuse...

I do still mock/play fight with my older brother though, throwing pillows/cushions at each other, beaning each other with cuddly toys and generally being silly, we usually end up in a laughing brawl with 4 kids trying to get in on it and end up giving up from laughing so much while his DP and our DM shake their heads at the lot of us.

In the OP's case, I think it just went too far in the spirit of the moment, but I would suggest you re-iterate the ground rules about 'quits' and that being the end of it... and perhaps avoid involving footwear in the fight again.