Paid off mortgage

[iwant2know]

DH and I paid off our mortgage in November last year. We love our house, it's the perfect size for us and our 2 DSSs so we don't plan to move again.

We hadn't told anyone because it's no one else's business and we didn't want to come across as smug or up ourselves.

My dsis was over this morning and was in when a delivery person came to the door with flowers. I took them off the delivery person and put them on the coffee table and went back to the door to sign for them.

By the time I turned round Dsis had opened the card, which was from our bank congratulating us on paying off the mortgage. I didn't know they did this sort of thing.

Dsis got really upset, saying we should have told her, we hide this from her etc. For background she is older and has just started her mortgage after buying a house last year. She left shortly after.

I have just got back from lunch with a friend who I mentioned Dsis reaction to. She thinks we we're wrong not to tell people. We have acted like we have something to hide. Apparently everyone announces paying off their mortgages. It's a social niceity.

Aibu to think there is no hard and fast rule about this sort of thing? And we haven't done anything wrong.

Why should anyone care?

We paid ours of last year and told only a very few nearest and dearest. Absolutely nobody else's business!

What nonsense. It’s your business and choice to discuss with whomever you chose to. If she had asked you directly out, say at perhaps the time she was talking about getting a mortgage and you lied to her or avoided answering, she can then accuse you of keeping that away from her. Also, she has no respect, how does anyone open another’s cards/envelopes - who does that type of thing? Waiting after you opened it yourself and asking who it is from or for you to say who it is from is what most polite people do. I’d personally wait to be told who they’re from.

Well done. Can I announce here that we too have paid off a mortgage in December and will be paying off the other next month.

Would never dream of telling anyone in real life. It's boasting isn't it and wouldn't be looked upon favourably. The kids would just think that we are loaded anyway, which we are not. We have worked hard and not had a penny in inheritance or from any other means.

Tell them to mind it anyway!

We could a thread about how we shared the "paying off the mortgage" news and it might become a thing with its own greetings card.

If she's feeling resentful then it's her fault because she opened the card. Tell her that.

Flowers! All I got from Cheltenham & Gloucester was a pro forma receipt with the details handwritten on it. Lovely feeling though, isn't it!

I so wish that the card and flowers had been from your husband with a note reading “thanks for an epic shag last night darling, sex is so much better now we have paid off our mortgage”. That would have taught her not to open other people’s private cards.

Good grief, another celebration I've missed out on. Paid of mortgage a few years ago, no flowers for me. Didn't know I should have made a declaration of going to bank with cheque to clear balance of mortgage. Apologies, should have had the brass band, jugglers and street party to mark event. Also no celebration when I had to take out another mortgage on a new property 3 years later. Anyone know the protocol for that? Some folk are just plain weird.

Bloody didn't get flowers of Nationwide when I paid mine off last year. Your sister is jealous, no other reason for her huffiness and she has deflected her jealousy to you.

we paid off our mortgage a few years ago. It never occurred to me to tell anyone. Let alone publically announce it.. But will rectify that now by erecting a large sign outside the house and putting an announcement on all social networks. sounds to me like jealousy

sex is so much better now we have paid off our mortgage 😂

It's nobody's business and it was bloody rude of your sister to open the card.

I'd text her every time you pay a bill from now on. 'Hi sis, paid the gas bill today, thought you'd want to know'...

:) Vim

Your sister is on another planet. I have never known anyone to announce paying off their Mortgage. I guess it's just a bit of jealousy

Sorry what?!?! Its nobody's fucking business that you have paid off your mortgage. Your sis and friend are arseholes for reacting in such a way. ( well done by the way 😊😊😊)

Completely and utterly bonkers the pair of them. No actually, your sister was bloody rude to open your card!!

I'd have been stotting if any member of my family opened an envelope addressed to me

Ridiculous reaction on both parties. CF your sister opening your card. Well done you. No one else's business.

I'd be blasting my sister for spoiling my surprise gift if she opened my card as yours did. Doesn't matter who the flowers were from.

Send her an invitation to your Paid-Off-Mortgage party, and include a gift list.

BadLad. Fabulous. Love it

Social nicety my foot it's bragging, and leaving yourself open to the, "oh we're really short this month, I don't suppose you could lend X amount to us now that you've not got that massive mortgage to pay..." (maybe cynical but certainly a consideration in some families!). Congratulations, enjoy the not paying and have a word with CF's who go opening things not addressed to them in someone else's home!

I didn’t even announce my pregnancy lol. Hubby told parents and in laws. Only people I told were work