To feel very annoyed about this?

[Purplerain101]

I have a WhatsApp group with 6 of my closest friends who I’ve known since school. One of them posted on it this morning saying

“my name looks a state in her Facebook photos from last night. Why does she feel the need to wear such hideous clothes all the time”.

It was obviously meant to be sent to someone else from the group, and not the whole group. My name is very unusual so she was definitely talking about me, and I also posted some new photos on FB last night.
I sent her a message saying “Thanks for that” and she’s just replied saying “my mistake but don’t start making a song and dance out of it as I was only joking”.

We have been friends for 20 years and I thought we would have grown out of being bitchy by now. I feel really crap knowing one of my best friends has been making fun of me

How fucking awful :(

Look at the positive ( I'd struggle with this ) atleast you know now she was never really a real friend

People like that end up very lonely

You've done the right thing though, an I'd agree with blocking the others who liked her pathetic status and didn't even bother to check on you

X

To be honest, you all sound like your twelve.

Cow

Peng-
woman makes horrid comment.

some people don't read or take it in properly
OP blocks
horrid woman carries on actively minimising and deflecting her horrid behaviour through all channels
OP leaving group is taken as confirming her as being an oversensitive wee flower

Wow how hurtful. And i would also be worried about who she intended on messaging as well. So do they all think of you in that way. At least you can eliminate them by the friend who called and the ones who like her status.

MissP103 has a point

don't let this thread feed paranoia about the others

it's highly unlikely that they have all been bitching about you for 15 years

Holy - while I think you’re being a little harsh I do agree. Sometimes disengaging and taking the higher ground can backfire.
That said, why engage with someone who’s not your friend. Real friends will seek you out and crappy ones will just believe who shouts the loudest.

Saldy it looks like you will be the one left out of this friendship group

Pengwyn - what wouldn't you give a shit about?

Losing your mates? That would bother me a lot
Taking the almighty huff fuelled by a bunch of random folk on here who all trot out "they're not your friends" line because someone else said something horrid about you that they may not even have seen and they didn't immediately denounce her as a mean girl.
I dunno.... something about cutting of your nose to spite your face.....

YANBU.
Better to make new friends than have fake friends.
Clearly messaged about you before. I'd block those who liked her FB post - where was their support of you?

Well done op. What a witch!!

Can't stand 'friends' like this.

You're better off without her imo.

My favourite thing to do when someone tries to minimise something awful by saying "It's just a joke" is to ask them to explain the joke. "I don't get it. Explain it again?"

Remove yourself from that whats app group, defriend this person. What did the others say. The fact she said it to all shows her as who she is...someone not be trusted

What a nasty cow! I hope you screen shotted the message before you blocked and left the group

Holy shet,aren't you just another one of us random folk with an opinion too? Or is it different when you say something. Why am I a keyboard warrior judging people by my so called standards according to you,just because I logically looked at the situation,the information and reactions of those involved and gave my opinion based on what I had in front of me and also possibly from previous personal life experience maybe? How is that judging people by my own standards and by your own definition are you not judging us all by your own standards also then? Let people have opinions. Op seems clued in enough to know what's what and can handle themselves im sure. Why cant anyone give an opinion without being belittled and called a Keyboard warrior.

Op well done

Screenshotted message before I left the group as wanted to show my sister and OH for advice.
I wouldn’t have left the group if the others had tried to defend me. They didn’t so I left. It’s not true friendship if they don’t call someone out in the group for being truly vile.
That might make me a “sensitive wee flower” or whatever it is that Shet called me. But i’d rather be like that and maintain my dignity then try and cling onto a bunch of “friends” who don’t have my back.

Holier-than-thouShet clearly hasn't read the full thread. At least three of the group were in on this (the cow, and the two who liked her Facebook status).

Purplerain isn't desperate and so has done the right thing.

Foggy - fair enough!

Basically "they are not your friends" is very often an instant response on here, short on thought for the impact on the OP's real life. Increasingly on here people fuelling high drama in others lives.

I'm an optimist I suppose.

Were I OP I'd reserve judgement on the others in the group. Just because they are not immediately denouncing Horrid Woman, who will be going all out, you can bet, to cover her tracks, doesn't mean friendship terminated, especially if there is a friendship of years, support, help, fun and sisterhood shared between them.

I think you did the right thing, OP.

Either they are all gossips, or the ones who aren't are spineless and don't stand up for friends. I wouldn't want to be friends with any of them tbh.