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to be annoyed with DH for letting us sleep?

228 replies

IamAporcupine · 13/01/2018 12:19

We got back from holidays on Monday. We were in a different time zone (6 hr behind) and it is proving difficult to get back to normal. DS(5) has really struggled to get up to go to school, and I have been very tired. It did not affect DH so much, as his sleep patterns are always all over the place.

I am not sure what time he woke up today, but he came to us (DS was sleeping in our bed) at some point and said: it's already 10am maybe you should get up otherwise jetlag will get worse.

I finally woke up at 11:45am Shock

I just do not understand why he didn't try to wake us up?! He says he did and that I am ungrateful, and that it is not his responsibility!
I do not care about me, but if he knew it would mess up with DS sleep why didn't he do a bit more?!

OP posts:
AppleAndBlackberry · 13/01/2018 12:32

Maybe he thought DS needed to sleep. He probably assumed after he spoke to you at 10 that you had decided to lie in. YABU

ATeardropExplodes · 13/01/2018 12:33

If you need the sleep sleep. Or reprogramme your sleep patterns using alarms. Don't blame someone else.

notangelinajolie · 13/01/2018 12:34

Blimey massive over reaction. You had an extra hour and a bit in bed that is all! It wasn't even the afternoon when you woke up. If you are that stressy headed over what time you wake up then you should learn to set your own alarm.

mumonashoestring · 13/01/2018 12:35

Poor sod. And if he had prodded you out of bed at 10 I'd not be surprised to find a thread on here complaining that 'DH came to wake me up at 10 and I clearly hadn't had enough sleep but he made me get up'. Could it possibly just be you've got a touch of the post-holiday grumps and need a bit of time to wake up properly and recalibrate yourself?

KungFuEric · 13/01/2018 12:36

I think It's a Saturday morning, your son was clearly tired so he left him to sleep until he naturally woke. It's not a big deal.

notsohippychick · 13/01/2018 12:37

Oh for goodness sake. What a stressful life you do lead.

This is ridiculous.

AllStar14 · 13/01/2018 12:39

Haha! What a ridiculous complaint. As others have said, you should have set an alarm.

supersop60 · 13/01/2018 12:39

YABU. He DID wake you up.

twotired · 13/01/2018 12:40

This morning you actually lived my dream. I'd trade quite a lot for an extended sleep.

Sorry, but your DH did try to wake you. You can't expect him to be responsible for you falling back to sleep. If anything he was being quite thoughtful.

Blackteadrinker77 · 13/01/2018 12:40

One of the best marriage tips I was ever given was from my Mum.

When your partner annoys you think about their intent.

Did he mean to upset you? No, so there is little point in causing an issue over it.

timeisnotaline · 13/01/2018 12:41

He woke you. So your problem is he didn’t physically pull you out of bed? Should he have dressed you as well? YABU obviously, please apologise to him.

notsohippychick · 13/01/2018 12:42

Oh for goodness sake. What a stressful life you do lead.

This is ridiculous.

MakeMisogynyAHateCrime · 13/01/2018 12:42

Hilarious.

Unless you’re 7 and you some how married your dad then YABU.

Raver84 · 13/01/2018 12:42

What? You lied in bed and he is at fault for letting you catch up on sleep when your tired. I don't understand that problem here

gunsandbanjos · 13/01/2018 12:47

YABVU

LockedOutOfMN · 13/01/2018 12:50

YABU.

TileLane · 13/01/2018 12:50

Poor husband...

diddl · 13/01/2018 12:52

But he did try to wake youConfused

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 13/01/2018 12:53

You're probably just grumpy with jet lag? It's not worth arguing over is it?

harrypotternerd · 13/01/2018 12:53

oh geez, can you not take responsibility for yourself?

I had a very bad nights sleep and early afternoon I asked my Dfiancee if he could watch the kids while I went or a nap (I had about an hours sleep for the previous 24 hours) and he asked me what time I wanted to be up and I told him I would set an alarm on my phone. My alarm went off, I was in a deep sleep and didn't wake to the alarm so he came in and nudged me awake a bit and told me the time, I don't remember him coming in very clearly just that he was speaking to me, he asked me if I wanted another half hours sleep and he said I nodded and went back to sleep, he woke me half an hour later and I got up.

I don't think you DH did anything wrong, you may have been in a deep sleep and didn't fully register what was happening. He did try to wake you up but you seem to have ignored his efforts and continued to sleep.

donquixotedelamancha · 13/01/2018 12:54

DS(5) has really struggled to get up to go to school, and I have been very tired.

I just do not understand why he didn't try to wake us up?!

Yep, that's a puzzler. I hope you've suitably punished your STBXH.

Poor bloke. Shhhh, you can't say that on MN :-)

PinkietheElf · 13/01/2018 12:55

It won't really make much difference to the time change.
ime first night after being away you sleep well as are exhausted from travelling, second night you sleep crap due to time change, third night not great but slow improvement, fourth night almost there and that doesn't change much ime so don't worry.

corlan · 13/01/2018 12:57

I spent hours this morning trying to get my daughter up - it's really bloody stressful.
You need to take responsibility for yourself - it's called being 'grown up'.

Taylor22 · 13/01/2018 12:59

Don't be so pathetic. You're an adult with a working device. I assume that device has an alarm. You should've taken some responsibility.
Now go and apologise to him because if I were him I'd be telling you I piss off.

Paperdoll16 · 13/01/2018 13:00

Op has gone back to sleep... 😜

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