Excluded from nephew's wedding

[mumwhite]

Feeling really crap as I found out ( when the invite landed) that we've only been invited to the evening do of my only nephew's wedding. I know it's their day and they can do what they like but I feel really upset about it. They've had lots of opportunties to tell us before now. It's caused a whole rift, and my sister's blaming me. My mother on the other hand agrees with me.

Your parents aren't going because they don't know anybody?! They know the groom and the groom's mother!

notreallyarsed it's fine. We are a family of small - but perfect ;) - ones.

So they won't go to their gs's wedding??

Anyone else interested in the sister's "car crash" marriages & how they mean that the bride should have avoided a traditional wedding?

Anyway, how does that then follow that Op shouldn't be invited?

We had a traditional wedding as it was what we wanted & if someone had told us it was a bad idea well then they could just have fucked off, tbh.

What bollocks that families are so complex in this day & age that it makes a traditional wedding difficult.

How could your sisters divorce have any impact on the proceedings? Surely only th father of DN is invited and not a string of Ex-husbands? And she should be fine near his father for one day?

There isn't really a rift as such. The main problem is a bride wanting a big do, but not got the funds to pay for it. The same bride had an affair with my nephews friend yet he still goes ahead with the wedding..

WTF's the bride apparently having an affair got to do with you being invited to the wedding or not?
People are entitled to invite as much or as little people to their wedding as they like, I have no idea why some people go so ridiculous over weddings.
How do you know the funds of what they've got to pay for what when you don't see them that often?

You don’t like the bride to be- that’s why you’ve got an evening invite. It’s not that difficult to figure out.

Yep, this! Comes across as clear as day.

Am I the only cantankerous sod who would be pleased? No boring wedding to sit through on a hard arse numbing chair, plus evening guests don't tend to spend a bomb on the present, so you only have to get them a token gift. Score!

@TakeTheCrown nah, I’d be delighted too!

if the sister's dodgy relationships are going to the wedding and the parents are forced to deal with a man/men who they have previously banged heads with to help sister and nephew, then it's understandable the parents would want some back up around. As for the bride being questionable, that wasn't a wise thing to say but, if She loves her nephew and has helped the family in their darkest hours. It's not her story to tell. Who knows what's Really going on. OP doesn't deserve the roasting that she's getting.

Loving the shit about evening invitations being two tier or rude.

Where I'm from, evening guests are local friends/colleagues invited to the big party with buffet, cake, drinks and dancing. They are definitely not expected to bring presents, let alone be sent any information about gifts. The idea of taking offence would be seen as weird, people do not expect to go to the whole day of a work colleague.

The problem comes when people send evening invitations to far-off folk, send gift info, and don't provide hospitality beyond music. That's rude.

TakeTheCrown me three. I would be beyond surprised to be invited to my niece's wedding, and a bit huffy privately if I was because although an invitation is not a summons yada yada it kind of is when it's family and there are mutual relatives over invested in the whole nonsensical.

This thread doesn't drip. It gushes.