To delete social media (FB) because it’s so bloody depressing..?

[Lovemusic33]

I use Facebook a lot, I like to see what family are doing and talk on groups (both my dc’s have sn’s so some days it’s my only contact with the outside world), but lately it’s been so depressing, everyone seems to be ill, a relative has so called flu and has been posting every detail about how awful she feels for the past week, updates about if she has managed to get out of bed today and if she has eaten , and she’s not the only one, there are 4 or 5 others who are also ill and have to share everything. Then there’s the family member that bought my dc’s a toy from Poundland for Christmas (nothing wrong with this if your skint), a week after Christmas she posted how they had been out and bought themselves a new xbox and a laptop, had to share exactly how much they payed for the items, where they bought them and then updates about how brilliant said x box is. Then there’s the lady who keeps posting about what a awful day she’s having, everyone asks her ‘what’s wrong’ and she replies with ‘I will message you’, FFS, if your not going to tell the whole of Fb what’s wrong why bother posting?

FB just seems to be full of people moaning about being ill, bragging about what they spend their money on. Photos of peoples dinner (plates of vomit) and people posting a couple words without explaining what they actually mean.

And don’t get me started on the one who has to post a photo of every movement their child makes, every new outfit and every new food tried.

If it wasn’t for the support network (the ASD community), I would happily delete it. People need to cheer the fuck up and stop moaning, get out in the real world and stop telling everyone how much they have spent on things.

I’m sure I’m not BU but I’m sure someone will come along and tell me I am

I know exactly what you mean. I was scrolling through last night and remarked to H that at least 75% of the people on my FB annoy me but I'm too nosy to delete it/them!

Highlights on mine include:

Friend 1 and her constant posting of inspirational memes "I'm a warrior, I'm a woman" etc...
Friend 2 and his constant checking in at the gym and all the details of his work out.
Friend 3 and her endless photos of her children with all the accompanying #blessed #family #these2 #babies #precious #memories

I deleted 1st January, so glad I did!

Sounds very silly but it started to get me down, more annoyed.

I deleted my account on New Year's Day and it's the best thing I did. So far January has been ace. Do not miss it at all.

A lot of people will say “Facebook is a case of what you make of it and it all depends who you add” but I think that’s balls and the whole thing is toxic. I’m so glad I got rid of it years ago. I don’t know anyone under 40 who uses it unless they have family abroad.

I really wish I could delete, I run 2 business pages so can’t
It does get me down, I’m checking it far less at the moment, when I do go on there the first few posts are people who are ill. There’s also the friend that has to tell everyone about every hospital appointment she attends and how ill she is, to begin with I had sympathy but now it’s just boring and depressing. I really feel like posing ‘feel amazing and healthy today’ just to piss all the ill people off.

I rarely post anymore unless it’s to ask a question (something I can’t find in google) or to wish someone a happy birthday.

Can you not unfollow these people so they won't appear on your news feed?

If people put happy things, they are accused to be bragging and be cheeky fuckers living in lalaland. If you have friends on Facebook you don't like, they can't win.

If you don't like photos of a baby, stop following her parents. I like to see photos of my nieces and nephews, even when it's mundane. Who cares if some random finds it boring you don't have to see them!

I really feel like posing ‘feel amazing and healthy today’ just to piss all the ill people off.

Nice

I find the hide or unfriend button useful,
I can't be bothered with woe is me attention seeking posts, people that give you a running commentary on everything including illnesses and people that are constantly reposting inane memes constantly.

The final straw for me was when an old school friend posted a picture of a poo in a potty. It was the first time Macy had managed a potty poo apparently. I gagged and deleted the app. I only use it on the laptop now so I’m not checking it every five minutes.

I find fb an easy way to keep friendships going. I'm really introverted and the odd 'like' or comment on someone's post can keep the relationship going without too much effort on my part

I do understand why it can be depressing though and also have annoying friends, but it's easy to hide their posts and just look at their page occasionally.

I have thought about deleting but I don't want to lose all of my posts and photos and I love the 'on this day' feature. I have thousands of photos on there that aren't saved elsewhere and have no idea how to save them all to cloud or my computer without doing each individually.

Facebook isn't the problem people using it are
Solution is to delete people or unfollow them

I really wish I could delete, I run 2 business pages so can’t

So just look at your business pages then surely?

I deleted my FB and Twitter accounts on 1st January and I've felt much better ever since.

I kept getting so many horrendous stories on my feed which were making me really miserable.
I seemed to have a disproportionate number friends who have no idea of the basic rule of grammar.
I kept getting adverts to buy puppies, which made me really sad and anxious.
I kept getting those "Re-post this if you're not a sociopath" messages clogging up my feed.
One of my friends constantly posts far-left messages about wealth inequality, the problem of homelessness etc. Fine but he's very much a rentier, landlord of several houses with off-shore bank accounts.

I realised that I actually don't give a shit about anyone else's life enough to deal with the rest of Facebook. I've honestly been so much happier since I got rid.

I have unfollowed quite a few but these people are close family so I do like seeing the odd photo of their children (my step grandchildren) as I don’t get to see them often in RL.

I unfollowed the friend who has to post picture of herself kissing her new boyfriend and posting when ever they are out eating (food photos, kissing photos), unfollowed the anti vaccination pusher and a few others just seems wrong to unfollow close family and friends.

Someone on mine posted pictures of Selfridges bags, flowers, champagne and a thousand pounds in cash on the table in a fan shape, laid out for the photos. These were all birthday gifts. #blessed #family #friends #spoilt
Urgh

I deleted Fb nearly 3 years ago and never looked back, it’s one of the best things you can do for you mental health

I think it's a bit unreasonable to be annoyed at your relative for spending their own money on themselves rather than on your children. Other than that though YANBU if it's making you miserable, I think social media can have that effect.

Facebook isnt compulsory. So if you dont want it, dont have it. I dislike these threads generally because of the smug brigade who come along who think because they look down on it they are better than people who do like it. Its only another social media page at the end of the day.

The most interesting people I know rarely post, too busy living lives in 3D. That's why it's such mundane narcissistic nonsense!

Delete it. You will not miss it at all. And don't set up Instagram instead just go no social media. With whatsapp these days it's actually fairly unnecessary to even have social media (unless your a business or don't have a way to contact/socialise in any other way)

@Farontothemaddingcrowd I think this has made my week! (my life perhaps). That is so obnoxious it's hilarious! and I even feel jealous just hearing it second hand from you! oh god... the joys of social media

FB is evil pond scum organisation no one should ever even start with it, never

90% of everything posted on Facebook makes me absolutely cringe

I stay out of sheer nosiness if I’m honest 🤭😳

And also because I have a few people as friends that I don’t see in real life (mostly people I’ve met on here!) that are awesome

Look, I know this should be obvious but people don't seem to get it. Your FB looks the way it does because of the people YOU have CHOSEN to be on it. It's not FB, its not social media. It's your friends and family.
My FB is nothing like you describe. Frankly you sound like a moaning person complaining about your moany friends and family whose moans you choose to read.
It's not FB, its you. And them.