Feet on my new sofa - AIBU?

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This is going to make sound v precious and house proud, which I'm not, but this is a real bugbear for me and I'd like to know if AIBU or WWYD?

I had a playdate at my house today for a few mums and their daughters. One of the mums I've known for about 6 months, and she is lovely, but during the playdate kept climbing on my new sofa and putting her feet on it. It was really annoying me but I didn't say anything as I though I would sound anal. It's not the first time she has done it, and I honestly don't think she believes she is doing anything wrong. We don't put our feet on the sofa, it's just our thing, and I find it really rude when people come to me house and do so.

AIBU? Would you have said something to her?

If you have rules then you need to tell people when they come in.

I sit cross legged or tuck my feet under me, without shoes though.

If you don't tell people they won't know.

Why was she climbing? Is this the childnor the mother?

Just tell the child to stop doing it 'We don't do X is our house'

With shoes on? That's weird. Without shoes, assuming your friend changes her socks daily, her feet are probably cleaner than her trousers!

Is this the child or the mother climbing on your sofa?

With shoes YANBU, without shoes YABU (but she should be sitting, not climbing).

Shoes rude, socks fine. Which was it?

It was the mum not the child. She climbed over the armrest of the chair to sit on the sofa, no particular reason why (ie there was nothing in front of the sofa blocking it). She didn't have shoes on, and your comment about the jeans makes me feel better. I just felt awkward saying something to her. I'd like to invite her again but just don't know how to say something nicely without causing an atmosphere.

People do different things in their homes you cannot expect her to know the rules in yours unless you say.
If you want people to abide by your house rules then you should at least tell them what they are.
Like shoes off at the door.
No feet on furniture.
Downstairs loo for wees only
No cups on the table without a coaster
And so on.

An adult climbing on the sofa, that's odd.

If you make guests take off their shoes then maybe her feet were cold?

What's wrong with socks/bare feet on the sofa?

Bit over familiar in someone else's house

I was all for YANBU until I realised this was WITHOUT shoes!

What’s wrong with feet on the sofa?! So you never ever put your feet up on the sofa?!

Mil put her feet up on my new sofa at Christmas. I think she felt my look as she put them back on floor. Why she felt the need I have no idea. Maybe just jokingly say ‘hey monkey stop climbing!’

Well, technically she isn't doing anything wrong. Sounds a very depressing way to live, never being able to put your feet up on your sofa.
I don't think you can really go about reprimanding guests for what would - to most people - be perfectly normal behaviour. She didn't have shoes on, get over yourself.

I never realised people had issues with feet on the sofa until this thread!

I don't find it remotely comfortable to sit and watch TV sat upright - I always sit with my feet curled up under me or sprawled across DP!

The woman was CLIMBING!

Why would you want to make your mil feel uncomfortable Fluffy?

Why do so many people buy furniture anf flooring which is not intended for nkrmal use?

I don't find it remotely comfortable to sit and watch TV sat upright - I always sit with my feet curled up under me or sprawled across DP! Me too, but not on a bloody play date.

I really can't think of a way to say this nicely. I would definitely be v put off by someone saying that to me.. I'm a bit of a precious cow in my home and people know so no shoes on, no walking on the coffee table (kids!), no eating other than in kitchen/dining room and generally no doing anything that could damage my furniture (other than normal wear and tear).. But even I wouldn't go to the extend of banning socks on sofas... Is there a particular reason for this?

Could you put a blanket or something on the sofa to protect it from feet? It is pretty strange not to allow bare or socked feet on the sofa and I don't think you can ask her not to do it without making her uncomfortable.

Mil put her feet up on my new sofa at Christmas. I think she felt my look as she put them back on floor. Why she felt the need I have no idea.
Maybe because it's comfortable to tuck your legs up? Maybe to keep her feet warm? Maybe because she could lean against the arm of the sofa better? I never realised people could be quite so anal.

I would suit on the floor in a house with that rule...

For goodness sake, I thought I’d heard it all when people on mn were saying they go to the bathroom just to break wind or upstairs to change a nappy. Now you can’t even put you feet on the sofa with no shoes