Feet on my new sofa - AIBU?

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This is going to make sound v precious and house proud, which I'm not, but this is a real bugbear for me and I'd like to know if AIBU or WWYD?

I had a playdate at my house today for a few mums and their daughters. One of the mums I've known for about 6 months, and she is lovely, but during the playdate kept climbing on my new sofa and putting her feet on it. It was really annoying me but I didn't say anything as I though I would sound anal. It's not the first time she has done it, and I honestly don't think she believes she is doing anything wrong. We don't put our feet on the sofa, it's just our thing, and I find it really rude when people come to me house and do so.

AIBU? Would you have said something to her?

I really welcome people being comfortable in my house. I had a brand new friend from a baby class come over and she was very easy about sprawling on my sofa with her child and I actually found it wonderful as she was so comfortable in my home! I love people being free enough to help themselves to my cupboards etc. But I feel so awkward in other people's houses and keep my feet to myself unless I know them well!

Am I the only one imagining the couch looks like a climbing wall?

I can't sit for long without my feet up, they are always on the sofa and if I could fit them up on the chairs at uni I'd do that too!

It's automatic and I wouldn't notice I was doing it. Also would never have considered it rude, but I'm not great with etiquette.

I just say to guests treat my house like a home, I really don’t care if they take their bra off or help themselves to tea and coffee (as long as they offer me one too)

I don’t tend to go into homes of people I don’t know very well but when I’m at friends houses it’s bra off, feet up!

Like many pp I can’t sit with my feet on the floor because normally they don’t reach, work I sit perched like a strange bird and in restaurants, if I can’t reach the floor, im sitting cross legged. Deal with it.

The climbing is a bit weird though

I'm old-fashioned, I would think it impolite of someone to put feet up on sofa, chair etc when visiting, especially if they were not close acquaintances.

Sostenueto - so you want your guests to be uncomfortable? Plenty of people have said on this thread that they find sitting rigidly on a sofa uncomfortable.

Most people say 'make yourself at home'.

If it were shoes YANBU but, feet? That’s very weird. Feel free to tel them it’s a rule, it’s U to expect them to just know. However, I would think you were being insulting and thought my feet were gross or something.

You can make people comfortable in other ways. My home is relaxed and people feel relaxed when they enter. My friends sprall out if they so choose to. But politeness and good manners are important. Its a generational thing. For instance I would not dream of helping myself to anything in someone else's home, best friends are different, acquaintance's a no no. Even my besties would never go through my drawers as I would not go through theirs. As I said, its a generational thing. We were strict and hot on etiquette in my day. Conversation and atmosphere should help to make your visitors comfortable without them taking over your house!

The feet would bother rme because I hate feet but I get that that's my hang up and would say nothing.
Climbing over the sofa however is absurd. Why? Just sit on it normally. My kids get moved when they sit on the sofa arm. I'd find it odd and very annoying if an adult guest did it, especially if I didn't know them all that well.

I want my guests to feel comfortable in my home but not at the expense of my furnishings. The climbing on your sofa is just plain bad mannered. When I visit other people I'd not usually put my feet on their sofa unless they specifically said it was OK. When people are at mine I always say 'please feel free to put your feet up if you're more comfortable' I always put my feet up and have elderly but mighty expensive sofas, they've not been damaged or made smelly by this! I do understand people having different 'rules' in their home but is strikes me as firstly strange to have cream sofas and children and secondly to not allow the people who sit on the sofa daily to sit how they'd choose

Can't see a problem with bare or socked feet on a sofa. With shoes on,well that's definitely not on. It makes me cringe when on TV programmes,especially on soaps,you see people putting their shoe clad feet on sofas and armchairs,or worse still,on beds!