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AIBU?

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AIBU to be annoyed at DH?

153 replies

MrsStinkey · 07/01/2018 10:33

So this morning DH asks our two DDs if they'd like a takeaway breakfast. I wasn't fussed but they all fancied one so we told him what we'd like and he set off. The place is a 20 min drive from us and they stop serving breakfast at 10:30. Had a missed call on my mobile from his which was strange as my phone didn't even ring so tried to call him back and just got his answerphone. Thought that was a bit weird but maybe he'd lost his signal or something. Then a random mobile number calls me. It's DH. He's informed me he's on a busy road with an elderly man that had broken down and has fallen. He now has to wait with him for an ambulance and the AA to come but will miss breakfast at the takeaway. That all is no problem you wouldn't just leave someone like that. But his mobile phone has died and he's calling me from the old man's phone so no way of contacting me after this call. I say to him what will I do about Dc's breakfast? Meaning will I just make something, or wait for him or will he sort something else? He then tells me not to get on at him and that our breakfast doesn't matter this situation is far more important. Try to explain that im asking as I won't get to speak to him again as his own phone has died which isn't ideal. The only reason his phone has died is because he's to lazy to finda charger before bed at night which happens regularly. He has loads of chargers that he leaves lying around the house he just can't be bothered bringing one up to the bedroom. I'm then told again not to get on at him just because I want a takeaway (not true, I didn't want one in the first place). So AIBU to be annoyed not about the situation but about the fact his phone has died which happens a lot, he's made me sound really terribly selfish in front of whoever was there and I'm no further forward really knowing what to tell DC's about breakfast? For context they're 6 & 2 so will just be disappointed they're not getting a takeaway.

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TwitterQueen1 · 07/01/2018 10:35

OMG. Are you for real? Give your DDs some toast or cereal FFS. Do you really need to ask us?

LEMtheoriginal · 07/01/2018 10:37

Oh my fuck! I thought I was lazy

MrsStinkey · 07/01/2018 10:38

That's not why im annoyed honestly I couldn't care less. It's the phone dying as it's a regular occurrence. Plus of I make them breakfast and he comes home with something else he'll go off his head that I've made breakfast as he thinks I have some magical mind reading powers and should've known he would bring something else in! I actually don't have a a clue what he'll do!

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jaseyraex · 07/01/2018 10:38

You're making this an issue for no reason. You have no idea how long DH will be so common sense says just make the kids breakfast yourself!

TwitterQueen1 · 07/01/2018 10:38

Why on earth are you wittering on about phone chargers and whether or not you should feed your DDs? You sound completely unable to function on your own.. I'm not surprised your DH is exasperated with you - it's not his fault - it's not anyone's fault.

GetYourRocksOff · 07/01/2018 10:38

Wtf? Your dh is helping out and being a decent human and you are melting down over breakfast?!

MrsStinkey · 07/01/2018 10:39

And takeaway breakfast (for the third time) was not my idea. I don't really like them. I'd be happy with toast!

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Figrollsnotfatrolls · 07/01/2018 10:39

Feed dc when they get back and tell him to make his own.

Greyponcho · 07/01/2018 10:39

Feed the DC. Tell them that elderly gentleman who is hurt is having a much bigger ‘disappointment’ than they are this morning.
Get DP one of those in-car chargers or a battery backup.

Monoblock67 · 07/01/2018 10:39

Omg. Just feed the kids! He knows you don’t have magical mind reading powers. If they close for breakfast at 10.30 he’s not going to be bringing something back surely.Hmm

Monoblock67 · 07/01/2018 10:41

Also. Even if his phone had a full battery now, he wouldn’t be able to speak to you anyway would he? Far too busy dealing with the poor man

gttia · 07/01/2018 10:41

Yabu.

Penfold007 · 07/01/2018 10:41

Daddy is helping a man who has fallen over. He won't be able to get your breakfast today. Would you like toast or cereal?
YABU

MrsStinkey · 07/01/2018 10:43

He told me he wouldn't be long but I don't know how he could know that if waiting for the AA and the ambulance? This is another reason why I don't know. I can't be bothered with him arguing with me when he comes in with something and we've already had breakfast. It's more that really and the fact he isn't responsible enough to charge his phone. What if he had broken down? What if something is happened and he couldn't get in touch? If the old man hadn't had a phone I'd be calling him, unable to contact him and worried sick something had happened to him. Plus there's a built in charger in our car, you just need a lead so there really isn't an excuse for an uncharged phone.

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UnitedKungdom · 07/01/2018 10:44

Hold on a second, OP why are you so scared/unable to make a decision on this yourself considering the information you have? Will he be a horrible to you if you make the wrong call?

I think what you asked was reasonable enough 'should I go ahead with breakfast here or are you still planning to try and grab the takeaway?' And his reaction was a bit shit to be honest to an innocent question.

So depending on that, op might not be so unreasonable here.

The phone charger thing is a bit ridiculous to get mad about. I'd be mad at being snapped st for an ordinary question when I wasn't at the scene and he was the best person to judge the answer.

pinkbraces · 07/01/2018 10:46

Is this a joke - your DH is helping out an old man and you are wittering on about whether you should feed your children? Seriously, think about how ridiculous your post is. Do you normally rely on DH to do your thinking?
YABU Hmm

Mouseville65 · 07/01/2018 10:47

If this was me I’d be feeling very proud of my DP and explaining to my DC’s what a good man he is whilst pouring their cereal. There is either a lot more to this ‘he’ll go of his head if I feed them’ or you are really reacting to nothing.

dreamingofprairies · 07/01/2018 10:47

OMG YABU.

MrsStinkey · 07/01/2018 10:47

They don't close they stop serving breakfast and there are other places he could go on the way home that he could get something. The DCs have had a banana so not starving but are starting to ask about breakfast. I've explained what's happened obviously I'm not dim but I've kind of just been left hanging here. The man is fine. DH is a fully qualified first aider and there's nothing to "deal" with. He's just waiting for the ambulance as he had a slight fall and is elderly and you obviously wouldn't leave him on his own.

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SoozC · 07/01/2018 10:49

Can't you tell them the truth? That their dad is too busy being kind and helpful to an old man and that they can have takeaway tea later.

UnitedKungdom · 07/01/2018 10:49

I don't know why it was so hard for OPs DH to simply say 'go ahead with breakfast, not sure how long I'll be'. It wouldn't have killed him but instead he snapped at her for asking if she should.

pinkbraces · 07/01/2018 10:49

I don’t mean to be rude, but your post certainly gives the impression that you are dim.
Just get on with your day and let your DH join in when he gets home.

MrsHathaway · 07/01/2018 10:50

So he comes home with more food. Why would that be a problem? Would he be horrible about it?

If he would be horrible, then start a new thread in Relationships about how he treats you (being uncontactable, blowing up when you guess wrong).

If he wouldn't be horrible but laugh it off, then no problem. Meanwhile the DC have had normal breakfast and will be easily distracted from the mild disappointment by toys or CBeebies or a brisk march round the block.

There must be back story. Without it the only explanation is that you're a bit hard work.

jaseyraex · 07/01/2018 10:50

OP if he is really going to have an argument because you've fed the children because you had no idea when he'd be home or if he was still bringing breakfast, then I think that says more about him than you! Would he really rather you all stayed hungry until he came home with or without breakfast? That's not normal.

FlyOnTheWindow · 07/01/2018 10:50

I'd be hoping the elderly man is going to be ok, reassuring my dh that we'll be fine, and making the dc some eggs or whatever is their pleasure. You are sounding somewhat temperamental.

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