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AIBU?

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AIBU to be annoyed at DH?

153 replies

MrsStinkey · 07/01/2018 10:33

So this morning DH asks our two DDs if they'd like a takeaway breakfast. I wasn't fussed but they all fancied one so we told him what we'd like and he set off. The place is a 20 min drive from us and they stop serving breakfast at 10:30. Had a missed call on my mobile from his which was strange as my phone didn't even ring so tried to call him back and just got his answerphone. Thought that was a bit weird but maybe he'd lost his signal or something. Then a random mobile number calls me. It's DH. He's informed me he's on a busy road with an elderly man that had broken down and has fallen. He now has to wait with him for an ambulance and the AA to come but will miss breakfast at the takeaway. That all is no problem you wouldn't just leave someone like that. But his mobile phone has died and he's calling me from the old man's phone so no way of contacting me after this call. I say to him what will I do about Dc's breakfast? Meaning will I just make something, or wait for him or will he sort something else? He then tells me not to get on at him and that our breakfast doesn't matter this situation is far more important. Try to explain that im asking as I won't get to speak to him again as his own phone has died which isn't ideal. The only reason his phone has died is because he's to lazy to finda charger before bed at night which happens regularly. He has loads of chargers that he leaves lying around the house he just can't be bothered bringing one up to the bedroom. I'm then told again not to get on at him just because I want a takeaway (not true, I didn't want one in the first place). So AIBU to be annoyed not about the situation but about the fact his phone has died which happens a lot, he's made me sound really terribly selfish in front of whoever was there and I'm no further forward really knowing what to tell DC's about breakfast? For context they're 6 & 2 so will just be disappointed they're not getting a takeaway.

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MrsStinkey · 07/01/2018 13:04

Thanks @Unicornfluffycloudsandrainbows I might have needed that biscuit if I hadn't got my breakfast Grin

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Bluntness100 · 07/01/2018 13:09

Op, normally most folk would have said something "ok honey, hope everything is fine, thanks for letting me know, don't worry, I will give the kids breakfast, see you when you get back".

Job done. Honestly. One of you needs to be able to make a decision quickly. Especially over something as ridiculous as breakfast. Arguing at the roadside on will you be able to/won't you be able to is beyond ludicrous.

CheshireChat · 07/01/2018 13:13

Actually I like to know what the heck is the plan for the day so I'd be asking whether I'm making something or we'll wait for DP. Doesn't make me incapable or a stupid woman (nice bit of misogyny there from a PP) as once we've agreed what's happening I'll happily get on with things, just like the OP said she would.

And TBF I expect DP to have his phone charged- we have no support network so if something happens I need to be able to contact him, particularly if something happens to me as I have literally 0 other options.

I'd talk to your partner and say he can't get the huff when he's the one that refused to communicate and I'd also start refusing to answer my phone until he get into the habit of charging his regularly

buckeejit · 07/01/2018 13:17

Glad all's sorted & old man ok & everyone fed.

Just so you know you can still drive if you're deaf. My ex's sis was deaf & my friend once asked 'how did you get to his parents from the station?

Says I 'his sister picked us up?

Oh, I didn't know you could drive if you were deaf.

Yip.

Right, so can you drive if you're blind too?

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MrsKoala · 07/01/2018 13:21

LEM - on Tonbridge high street there are 2 nice cafes that do takeaway breakfasts. Finch House does a 'full english' in an 'artisan' roll - sausage, bacon, field mushroom, omelette and tomato. Basil only does sausage, bacon and tomato but the roll is nicer. They both have special foil lined paper bags to keep it warm. There are also a couple of greasy spoons which just wrap the food in foil. And of course the obligatory McDs.

However, we usually just go to Wethers. Grin

MrsStinkey · 07/01/2018 13:23

Oh I know you can drive of you're deaf it was more added for information. He couldn't call his own breakdown as he'd forgotten to put his hearing aids in and couldn't hear the operator. Was more about that. Sorry I should've said! The other reasons were more apt as to why he shouldn't have been driving. Even if just temporarily. He put himself in a lot of danger and was lucky DH saw him.

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Myheartbelongsto · 07/01/2018 13:40

I find it highly unlikely that a frail elderly gentleman that has just had an op would be sent on his way with AA by paramedics.

MrsStinkey · 07/01/2018 13:49

He was checked over by them obviously and was sent home as he was fine. Don't know the details about his op or anything. He was in his 80s. Why are there so many people in here nowadays that look for any tiny little detail to suggest a thread may not be true? Do what I do and if you don't believe move onto something else.

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LEMtheoriginal · 07/01/2018 14:23

MrsKoala - that explains it. That's posh Kent!!

MrsKoala · 07/01/2018 14:31

Yup, us poshos are right lazy bastards! Grin

They've opened a cafe in the old fire station where they serve the sugar in mini fire buckets!

JustHereForThePooStories · 07/01/2018 14:44

OP, I think if I lived with you, I’d like to be completely uncontactable at times too!

Standing at the side of a busy, icy road with a potentially injured elderly man and he’s getting it in the ear with “but what about the McMuffin for the weains????”

Faking · 07/01/2018 15:08

Keep a phone lead in the car compartment from now on.

Make your children breakfast.

Stop being melodramatic.

MrsStinkey · 07/01/2018 15:13

@JustHereForThePooStories and @Faking you clearly haven't read the OP properly or any of the following posts. Not what this was about at all. Also where I'm from we have bairns not weans. We also have an extensive number of amazing breakfast takeaways!

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BlondeB83 · 07/01/2018 15:17

Stop making a drama and instead think of the poor bloke who has fallen and how he’s lucky to have your DH there.

MrsStinkey · 07/01/2018 15:20

To everyone still commenting on this. It all ended quite a while ago as a previous poster has said. We've moved on and have enjoyed our day so far. No need to use this post as an excuse to mean to someone as some of you seem to like doing. Thank you to those who took the time to actually read my post and respond in a fair way and for those who stuck up for me!

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JesusInTheCabbageVan · 07/01/2018 15:34

MrsStinkey never mind the breakfasts, I have been jealous of Scots ever since I heard about munchie boxes Envy

BitOutOfPractice · 07/01/2018 15:35

I'd forgotten the original issue and was focusing on the fry up chat

BitOutOfPractice · 07/01/2018 15:36

Bloody hell! I've just googled Munchy Box (sounds a bit rude?) and OMG where have they been all my life?!

MrsStinkey · 07/01/2018 15:37

Oh I love a munchie box! Indians, Chinese and chippy's do them here. Have a look at driftwood. It's a bar in Glasgow that do munchie boxes, as well as other very Scottish things. They look amazing! Also, haggis pakora is the absolute shizzle.

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Eltonjohnssyrup · 07/01/2018 15:40

I had a takeaway sausage sandwich this morning. Was lovely.

MrsStinkey · 07/01/2018 15:41

Scotland takes a bow Grin. We get a breakfast munchie box at our local takeaway. So much deep fried breakfasty loveliness. Sweet shops here do munchie boxes too.

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JesusInTheCabbageVan · 07/01/2018 15:44

Oh my GOD

If Scotland experiences a sudden influx of middle class mums with a certain haircut, you'll know why.

BashStreetKid · 07/01/2018 16:02

OP, I hope your husband ultimately accepted that your question was perfectly reasonable and he really should keep his phone charged?

73kittycat73 · 07/01/2018 16:22

Wow, just read the first page-Poor OP is being ripped to shreds! She's obviously exasperated at her husbands lack of planning. She still needs to plan so the kids get some breakfast.

BitOutOfPractice · 07/01/2018 16:25

Free prescriptions, free care for the elderly, no tuition fees AND munchy boxes. You lucky Celtic sods Sad you've got it all.

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