To ask about revenge and break-ups

[Carbohol78]

Not really an AIBU thread, but it arose from one, so most of the contributors of the original thread (AIBU to refuse to stop receiving maintenance) will be in this area

This will offend some people! But it’s anonymous on the internet, and even though the topic or circumstances aren’t light-hearted, I though we could have a giggle and try to see some humour in the pain that we once had!

To be clear, I am not proud of what I did, I handled the break-up very badly, I have never badmouthed my Ex to our DC, but at the time of the break-up (several years ago) I did everything I could to make his life a misery. I will spend the rest of my life secretly making up to my children for not being a bit stronger or more resilient and rising above it.

Basically .... what was your awful break-up or revenge story?

My Ex cheated (a lot!) and when it finally became too much for me to deny it and look the other way, he left me for one of the OW

I was heartbroken and debt-ridden with young children and he gave no financial support at all

In my case, I used his credit card to pay for the outstanding bills - council tax, water, electricity etc. Then after a torrent of abusive emails and texts about how I had “let myself go”, was a crap mum with mental health issues, Ex one day stupidly forwarded me an email in error which one of his OW had written, pretending to be him (for him to send me from his account), again listing all my faults. As the OW sent it from her work account to his work account, I saw red and sent it to both their companies HR Depts claiming they were vicariously liable for their employees’ harassment. They both got suspended and disciplined, his sister tore me apart on social media, so I sent the email to his friends and family also

Obviously I was just as bad in replying with vindictive texts and just as nasty, but he cheated, so I felt justified

Told you I was bad!

Yeah that ex who put paint on the car and the woman who had the work cunt scratched on her car AND the pic of her vag shared AND the email sent round work - they now know who it was. If they read this thread.

If they do I hope they report it to the police tbh. I don't care how long ago it may or may not have been.

@roundthehorn I can’t believe what you have written.

I know it’s a million to one chance, but if the ow is reading this thread, I urge you to go to the police and press charges. The confession is here.

Revenge porn is one of the sickest, nastiest things you can do. The fact you still smile rather than feel any remorse makes it even worse.

roundthehorn you are very lucky to not have been prosecuted for revenge lien and vandalism/malicious damage!
Also, I hadn't realised you'd "tempted" the 5 men with the intimate pictures and thought it was bad enough that you'd disappointed and dragged 5 strangers, who were only looking for a first date, into your plan.

You do sound like you went too far, way way too far, and to be honest you should be thoroughly embarrassed and ashamed of yourself.

To the OP I think what you did was a perfectly measured response- no lies told etc

To the poster with the shower gel- this is possibly the greatest act of revenge I've ever heard!!!

No it wasn't a fucked up relationship she just liked have sex with other people while living off my brother and parents generosity and lying about my brother being the father then continuing the lie and refusing a paternity test.

And making the baby homeless nope she had her parents house to go to or would you rather she stayed in my parents / brothers flat that they owned.

No one on her would let a cheating partner stay in there homes why is it different because she is female with a baby that could go to her parents.

People on here boosted about destorying mens clothes why are mothers expesive not worn often clothes worse?

Lien = porn!

You put that woman at risk. You arranged for 5 random men to meet her by posting a picture of her “lady garden” (so hardly going to be the most pleasant of men). What you did was way out of line and would indicate someone who is a very vicious character

Wishingandwaiting i think Vag pic just went to work colleagues. The 5 OLD men didn't get a Vag pic.

Either way, CherryMaDeara, it was disgraceful behaviour on her part. And put the woman at serious risk of assault. Nasty. And she should have been charged with revenge porn.

I love the OP's actions, though, totally justified IMO.

Bluedoglead

Yeah that ex who put paint on the car and the woman who had the work cunt scratched on her car AND the pic of her vag shared AND the email sent round work - they now know who it was. If they read this thread.

Er, Blue, I'm sure the ex already knew who sent the Vag pic to the office email list. She sent an email saying 'next time you send a Vag pic to my husband...' that's a bit of a giveaway. Pretty sure he would have known who scratched cunt on the car too.

If roundthehorn's story is even true. I doubt it but if it is then what a disgusting thing to do to anybody and you fully deserve to be charged. It's not a 'legend' either, just a bit sad and pathetic.

Even if this thread is deleted, it can be recalled and the posts given to whatever agencies. Revenge is fleeting, stupid lasts forever...

Lego is so expensive. To mix it all up with sand and dump it through the window is really cruel to the child it belongs to. That's dragging children into the whole shitty affair.

roundthehorn has probably slipped into a nice little pleasant name change by now.

That won't help her if she's caught out, Worra, MNHQ will know.

Expect you're right though, we won't know... and another cowardly, goady fucker slips off into the sunset to spread crap on the boards another day... oh well.

True Lying. That's one post I would like to see in the Daily Mail.

From other posts it sounds like round 's kids are grown up so this may been before revenge porn was a thing? Still unacceptable though. If it had been a dick pic of the ex that would have been more just.

Looks like she has 4 dds and I'm sure she would be fuming if someone did that to them.

My own revenge was to go NC. My NPD hated that. He still asks my friend about me, and hates that I have no social media presence.

“*TheHungryDonkey

Lego is so expensive. To mix it all up with sand and dump it through the window is really cruel to the child it belongs to. That's dragging children into the whole shitty affair.*”

I think I quite clearly said that the children were away for a few days and absolutely everything got replaced with brand new and more they had absolutely no idea, whatsoever

Shower gel! Yes, that is whole new passive aggressive goals 😹

I can see this thread getting zapped, just like the other. Which is a shame!

I'll add my own though.

Back when I was training to be a hairdresser, I was also learning the barbering side of it. My friend one night called me asking me a few questions about clippers and the guards and numbers etc. What number does it look like he uses on his hair because he can't remember.

After explaining it all, I asked why. She said her boyfriend had asked her to do his hair. I think no more of it.

Turns out, he hadn't asked her to do his hair . She had found out he cheated and had decided to shave his hair whilst sleeping. Not completely bald, just a few patches thinner than the rest of his hair, but enough so it was noticeable.

He wasnt happy, and I ended up sorting out for him the poor soul, she apologised and guess what. Still together now ten years on!

Well it's threads like this that will appeal to the gutter presses so I think roundthehorn will get her wish for fame and accolade before too long. Too bad that it would come with some 'karma' that many posters are so fond of.

I hope OP doesn't mind a bit of that too nor anyone else who's posted less-than legal 'funnies' on this thread. Still, 'freedom of speech' and all that...

I don't think paying household bills with his credit card after he left you for ONE of his OW was all that bad?

And as for his new gf slagging you off and their carelessness resulting in you READING their bitching, I'm not surprised you were angry enough to raise it with their work!

Some people want to walk all over you, re-write history casting you as insane, and then they feel genuine indignation if you just defend yourself.

Looking forward to reading some REAL revenge stories now. Was just marking my place! But OP you will have to go a lot further than this to be 'bad'.

No one on her would let a cheating partner stay in there homes why is it different because she is female with a baby that could go to her parents.

It is entirely different if they have primary care for a small baby. Get a grip of yourself. It's never nice to be cheated on but forcing a small child to leave his/her home is not on.

Courts in divorce cases do not give a shit if someone has cheated on someone else when dealing with finances. It should not have an impact on housing needs and rights. People cheat for various reasons and it does not always mean that they are monsters and that the person they cheat on is an angel. Life is not that black and white.

Turns out, he hadn't asked her to do his hair . She had found out he cheated and had decided to shave his hair whilst sleeping. Not completely bald, just a few patches thinner than the rest of his hair, but enough so it was noticeable.

Cutting off someone's hair when they are sleeping is a form of physical assault, no matter how funny it seems. Seems in this case no real harm was done as they are still together. however, if a partner cut my hair off because I cheated on them, I would report them to the police because no matter how badly I had behaved, I do not deserve to have my hair cut off and nor do I deserve to have a picture of my genitals shared among work colleagues.

I just wonder what people would say if a bunch of men were on this thread talking about the 'revenge' they took on cheating girlfriends. I think most people would find it stomach-turning, as this thread is.

Some of these were well justified and actually genius.

ha ha the shower gel is hilarious, multi-grey did you write 'The Good Place'' with Ted Danson??

I used to harbor fantasies of somehow getting imaac in to an x's conditioner bottle

Roundthehorn already said she felt driven by years of lies, gas lighting it was a woman she had trusted and entertained and that she was not proud of it. I think there was little doubt that it who it was. She would have been charged there and then. Now that they live on different continents and the children no longer see see him implies it was a long time ago. I know that doesn't make it right but it perhaps it was before revenge porn laws.

I think its unfair to hope she will be outed and saying she deserved to be cheated on and left. The woman was in a bad place and it was a one off (hopefully).

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Absolutely agree and that's what I said too her. That's why I sorted his hair, because I felt guilty that she had used my advice to achieve the plan. She's never done anything like that again, they look back and laugh about it now.