To hate the dog

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We have a 10 week old puppy . I am 8 weeks pregnant with the most horrendous morning day and night sickness and my sense of smell through the roof.
The dog is NOT house trained and seems to be going backwards rather than improving. He is shitting and pissing EVERYWHERE. Pooing in his own bed. Eating his own poo. Vomiting his poo up. Weeing in his own bed. His bed is washed multiple times a day, new beds have been bought.
I can't cope . I am crying everyday with it all it's disgusting. I dread waking up in the morning feeling sick, being sick and then cleaning up all the piss and shit he's left all over the kitchen floor . I can't stand him being near me . I'm at a complete loss st what to do but I'm absolutely miserable and hate living in my house with him. Please help

Right if you really need to rehome him, do it ASAP. In the meantime, keep him on a lead and attached to you at all times. Take him outside at 15 minute intervals and let him wee/ poo and make a fuss of him when he does. It will be hard and all consuming but it needs to be done so he stops soiling your home.

Poor puppy. Yes you are unreasonable to 'hate' him - he is a tiny helpless baby who never asked to be put in this situation.

If you're not able to keep him, please go back to the breeder as the first resort. I suspect the kind of breeder who would sell a six-week-old pup as a surprise present is not the kind who will take responsibility, but it's worth trying.

If that fails, look for a good local rescue who will try to get the poor little thing into a foster home ASAP to work on training and socialisation. Or if you have a dog-experienced family member maybe they would look after him for you. Don't go down the route of selling/giving away on Gumtree etc.

Husky it depends where the poor thing came from. If it was a puppy farm (which I suspect it was) then OP needs to needs to find a breed specific rescue.

You’re not a shit person, but you and DP have fucked up spectacularly. Time to sort it x

Pink, you are right, good point.

Rehome the pup and rehome your DP while you’re at it, he seems like a real delight judging by this and your past threads

It’s not worth trying to return the poor thing to an unreputable breeder BlackBetha, what sort of life is that condemning the poor thing to?

OP do you have the breeders details?
What breed is the dog?

A puppy soiling its own bed is either distressed, sick or neglected. Encouraging OP to work on training is not helpful. This puppy needs rehoming now. The first few weeks in a pup's life shape its behaviour for life. It needs to be in the right home.

Does 'DP won't let me take him back' mean he won't let you return the puppy to the specific breeder, or he won't let you rehome him at all?
Has your DP told you anything about the breeder, about what checks he did, how much the puppy cost was it priced reasonably for the breed?
What kind of dog is it ?

I am finding the idea that he won't let you take the puppy back to the breeder suspicious - like the breeder has said 'no returns' which could mean the puppy has congenital defects or something (or at least hasn;t been certfied as being clear) if it is one of the overbred designer kind of dogs. It;s already ringing alarm bells that the puppy was allowed to leave at 7 weeks.

Good God lay off this woman. This actually makes me furious. She is clearly very ill, op sounds like you may have hyperemesis in which case you need a lot of support. This wasnt your choice to get the dog. Your partner needs to bring the dog back and prepare to support you through this illness because it really is horrendous . Please dont give any headspace to the linchmob. Put yourself and your health first

Your DP is an idiot. What does he expect to happen?

Your DP won't let you take him back?

Then he had better shift his lazy arse to train and walk the dog.

In the meantime, keep him on an area with hard flooring (eg kitchen- sir out there with him to keep him company) and take him out every hour on the hour for a wee. Also when he wakes up, and when he has had a meal. Stay outside with him until he has done something, and tell him what a clever boy he is.
A reputable breeder will take him back - you may lose a bit of the purchase price because

a) they may have to re-advertise, if they don't have a waiting list

b) they may have to keep the pup for a week or two away from their other dogs in case he has picked up a bug at your home (unlikely, but it can happen, and the breeder won't want any young, unvaccinated puppies being exposed to it)

c) every week older he gets, the less likely someone is to be prepared to pay the full initial price for him. (would you pay full price for a second-hand dog?)

For your peace of mind though, you really do need to re-home this poor little soul asap - the younger he is, the more quickly he will adapt.

I'm not surprised you are finding it hard - hyperemesis is awful, and with some women it lasts the duration of the pregnancy. Even when you have your baby, the dog will be only a year old, energetic and demanding walks, and by the sounds of it, very poorly trained.

There is another poster on this forum who has a dog she detests - the poor thing seems to be stuck in the kitchen/ utility all day, with no company and no exercise and is gradually becoming more and more anxious and depressed. She still wees out of stress, chews things up out of boredom and fear, and can't do a thing right for her owner. The dog is a couple of years old I think, now. We have begged her to re-home her or give her to a breed rescue (another expensive and unusual breed) but she won't - just goes quiet and starts another thread after a while. That poor animal will be slowly losing her mind, and may one day become aggressive because she isn't loved and socialised.

Please don't let this happen to your puppy. Re-home him now while he is young enough to adapt, and to be offered a home quickly before he gets into bad habits. You will all be better for it.

The dog is a French bulldog.
He's not from a puppy farm the breeder lives round the corner from us .

I think you've both been irresponsible but that aside, you need to do right by the dog and not just consider yourself which is what your post has focused on. You obviously don't like it and seeing as dogs can live up to and over 10 years old I really think that it should be in a loving home with an owner who is committed to it. Even if you train the puppy and get past this stage, will you get rid of it at the next opportunity when you want a family holiday or when it chews your shoes/gets poorly and needs veterinary care? I think you need to research exactly where it is going to go and not just simply get rid of it - it's not fair on it if it experiences this again from someone else. Please find it a loving home with responsible owners.

First, rehome puppy.

Second, rehome DP!

What is your routine?
Do you have training pads down everywhere?
What are you feeding him?
What's his breed/cross?
Do you cage him?

Tell us what you're doing and we can help!! Be nice people. She can't return the dog so let's advise.

He sounds distressed, as another poster said.

Oh god, this is such a depressing thread and it just got worse.

Your DP needs a serious whack over the head with a clue bat. Insisting on keeping the puppy but leaving his pregnant, sick, inexperienced at dog owning wife at home to shoulder the majority of the early days training is just ridiculous. Rehome. The. Dog. This is completely not the right time for you to be taking on a puppy.

Nanny - I completely disagree that being ill absolves you of responsibility, sorry. The OP may be feeling like shit - but the dog will be feeling worse. She needs to get help training it or stand up to her DP and have it rehomed before she fucks it up.

I nearly said earlier that I bets it's either a pug of a French bulldog

You need to get a grip and teach the poor thing what to do, or let someone who can take it on

Just reading some posts -
Top of your list today op is to get that puppy rehomed. That puppy is miserable - your miserable and there's a whole lot of people out there who would willingly have the love and time for this little fella.
This will get worse and not better op
make arrangements TODAY

You do know that every year there are many stupid people like you and your partner that buy puppies for Xmas. I will assume this puppy is not from a reputable breeder as it was to young to leave it’s mum.
You should be disgusted with yourselves.

They’re not a decenr breeder though if they let him go that young. I feel sorry for that breed anyway as they are the current fashion and they have enough problems without adding to them.

You need to have a serious talk with your partner, he wanted the dog, he needs to take care of it.

Have you spoken to him? What did he say?

Worse case, I'd take the dog back with or without your partner's blessing.

Why haven't you answered any of the relevant questions people have asked you? It's almost as though this is one big wind up.

• what breed is it?
• did he get the puppy from a reputable breeder? (doubtful, since few reputable breeders would let a puppy go just before xmas)
• what work have you both done on house training already?
• have you taken the pup to a vet to get it checked over, wormed etc, and see whether there's anything wrong to cause it to eat its own poo/be vomiting.
• do either of you know fuck all anything about dogs and how to raise a puppy?