To hate the dog

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We have a 10 week old puppy . I am 8 weeks pregnant with the most horrendous morning day and night sickness and my sense of smell through the roof.
The dog is NOT house trained and seems to be going backwards rather than improving. He is shitting and pissing EVERYWHERE. Pooing in his own bed. Eating his own poo. Vomiting his poo up. Weeing in his own bed. His bed is washed multiple times a day, new beds have been bought.
I can't cope . I am crying everyday with it all it's disgusting. I dread waking up in the morning feeling sick, being sick and then cleaning up all the piss and shit he's left all over the kitchen floor . I can't stand him being near me . I'm at a complete loss st what to do but I'm absolutely miserable and hate living in my house with him. Please help

babigail Oh read the full thread, seriously.

Thanks for coming back OP. Good luck with the chat with your partner, I hope to goodness he shows you some compassion.

Ok OP so it sounds like you want DP to agree to rehome.

You need to let him know that despite all the articles on the internet saying you can toilet train in 7 days a lot of the time (as you have found out) puppies can take weeks and months to be dry even with consistent training. If he isn't around and you can't do this the dog will continue to pee and poo in the house.

He is coming to the stage where

Mine took 6 months to be reliably house trained. I was tearing my hair out by the end with toddler and constant wee I must admit. I did sign up for it though so was committed to solving the issues.

I would say expecting it to be clean in days is a pipe dream sadly.

Hit post too soon.

He is coming to the stage where he will be very bitey with his mouthing. He needs to be socialised lots by taking him out and getting him used to the world. Again your DP isn't around and you cannot do it.

At the time you will be giving birth, the dog will be in his teenage period and will be pushing the boundaries. Again someone will need to provide constant and consistent training.

If your DP says you can't rehome he needs to come up with a plan to do all of the above.

Good luck with speaking to your DP tonight OP. I really, really hope he sees sense and agrees to rehome the puppy.

As others have said though, please, please do not sell him through Gum Tree/Trade It/FB selling group. Please contact a reputable breed specific rescue who can help the puppy find a suitable home.

If you are going to keep him (which I seriously hope you don't), then please get him vet checked. Although many dogs do eat their own faeces, it can be a sign of an underlying health condition.

Good luck

Sorry I haven't read all of the posts.
I have a French Bulldog who is 5, I've had dogs before her (mainly crossbreeds) and never had any trouble. But she has been an absolute pain to train. She was still only partially toilet trained at 12 months and despite visiting a really good dog trainer for the past four years she still barks st every other dog, eats everything and anything, steals food from the children and chases our very feisty cat. She also loves to wee in her bed and is also fond of regurgitating whatever she has stolen and eaten on any soft furnishings. Luckily we love her to bits but she has driven me to tears although she has lots of good points but be warned anything with bulldog in their name is going to be just about impossible to train.

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Op you do know that babies aren’t housetrained by 10 weeks don’t you, they also piss, vomit and crap everywhere, how will you deal with that when the time comes? Zero sympathy here...... take that little pup to a reputable rehoming centre, do not rehome using Facebook, preloved or advertised on a card in your local post office. Never buy another dog.

Take care. Lay down the law to your partner and take control of this situation. A plan will help you.

The choices some people make. I despair.

The baby cannot be sent back - as others have also said.

Aw thanks, that's nice. You too

Wouldn’t be quite so bad for me, I love labradors. Dogs give us so much in terms of guide dogs, dogs for the disabled, hospital visiting dogs, search and rescue dogs, not to mention police dogs and army dogs. To call them revolting is pretty grim really.

This is my 18 week old pup who when I was pregnant throughout October and half of November (sadly I miscarrried) was pooping, peeing and chewing things up if I wasn’t quick enough to spot her. I also felt rather pukey most of the time, you put a bit of vick under your nose and deal with it. She’s now pretty much housetrained and an absolute joy. It breaks my heart when people get animals and don’t understand the work involved.

Dealing with your own flesh and blood is completely different to dealing with a dog, I have to say. I suffer from hyperemesis and cannot deal with being on the same floor as the cat box if the cat’s had a shit - it can set off DAYS of copious vomiting. Luckily my DH deals with it quickly for me, but I cannot imagine having to deal with a puppy eating its own shit while I feel like this. I do think the OP and their partner have been completely irresponsible in acquiring/caring for this puppy, but it’s really not always a case of ‘stick Vicks under your nose and get on with it’.

The ignorance displayed in this thread as to the impact of HG is quite astounding.

Your sickness is generally over when you clean up baby vom/nuclear turds due to you being NOT PREGNANT ANY MORE. Dogs and newborn babies are not comparable.

Just popping on to wish you luck OP. Although some posts are robustly phrased (!) what they all have in common is a wish for you to do what is best for you and your puppy. If your DP is concerned about what the puppy cost him, you can remind him how much it will continue to cost if you keep him. (The puppy I mean, although...) Hope you are feeling better this evening

Drainedandconfused After watching a family member suffer with HG, a bit of Vicks is really not going to cut it. My family member was hospitalised and unable to look after her own children, never mind a puppy.

@Wolfiefan I didn't find crate training hard; I did say it was painful and felt mean, yes - listening to my puppy cry while it's in its crate in the early stages did indeed feel a bit mean. I understand that pads aren't usually recommended, but they worked for me to learn my pups toilet routine. And for now, the puppy shitting and pissing in just the one spot on a waterproof pad would be better than it going all over the OP's house imo. Oh well, hopefully the OP will sort this out and the puppy can live a happy life with or without them

No one is disputing the OP is ill goodbyeeee, more pointing out how irresponsible the OP and her DP are. OP went on about wanting a puppy, DP stupidly gets a puppy from a backyard breeder, OP realises a puppy is a lot of work and doesn’t want it, DP says they have to keep it.

I can’t decide one is the most irresponsible out of the pair of them.

If only it was as simple as a bit of Vick! Duchess Kate should be informed.

OP realises a puppy is a lot of work and doesn’t want it

You've just proved my point pink. You've completely ignored the fact of her HG right there. It also completely misrepresents the context of her post.

I haven't suffered with HG but did have bad morning sickness, however a relative of mine did and from what I witnessed it wasn't anything like what I had. She was in and out of hospital for months, lost weight, couldn't keep a sip of water down. Horrible to see. She only had one baby because she couldn't bear the thought of going through it again.