To hate the dog

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We have a 10 week old puppy . I am 8 weeks pregnant with the most horrendous morning day and night sickness and my sense of smell through the roof.
The dog is NOT house trained and seems to be going backwards rather than improving. He is shitting and pissing EVERYWHERE. Pooing in his own bed. Eating his own poo. Vomiting his poo up. Weeing in his own bed. His bed is washed multiple times a day, new beds have been bought.
I can't cope . I am crying everyday with it all it's disgusting. I dread waking up in the morning feeling sick, being sick and then cleaning up all the piss and shit he's left all over the kitchen floor . I can't stand him being near me . I'm at a complete loss st what to do but I'm absolutely miserable and hate living in my house with him. Please help

And because of the lack of care- not the mistake in getting a dog at the wrong time- I doubt they should get a dog at another time. Having got the dog (by the sounds of it from a dodgy backyard breeder who let the puppy be taken away from it's mother too early), they haven't tried to train it, blame it for not being trained and haven't bothered to research even basics of feeding. OP may not be responsible for the buying of the dog and so not have a role in the lack of care taken when choosing a breeder, but the rest she is absolutely partly responsible for.

You’re pregnant. Get rid of the dog. It’s an animal.

stragerhoes newsflash - you are an animal too. So is the OP, the difference being she has some control and choices, poor puppy is entirely at her selfish mercy. Pets are like children - they deserve more consideration because they are vulnerable, not less. Adults must step up to their responsibilities if they want the rewards of pet ownership.

Op, you have quite rightly had a right slating here and I agree with most of it
However, what are you going to do now? Whinge on here some more and then do nothing or actually put this poor pup before yourself and your dick of a partner and find a decent home for it?
The situation will only get worse and you will end up with an untrained and unsocialised dog that is a danger to you and your children. I’m assuming if it was very expensive it’s some designer breed or crossbreed so pronit too big but it could still be very dangerous for a baby

FFS. Hoppinggreen the OP has posted in desperation, she doesn't need replies like yours. How on earth are they helpful to someone already on their knees?

@TheLuminaries feel free to take the pissing shitting dog if you’re such an animal lover! Oh wait newsflash you won’t!

OP, I sympathise with you having HG or even NVP. I've had it - twice - and it's horrendous. But you cannot look after a puppy while you are that sick and your DH is unable (and unwilling) to because he's out of the house at work. You both have NO CHOICE but to rehome the dog - properly and through the right channels.

I'm not sure what you expected to achieve by posting on MN. You don't seem to be open to constructive advice about feeding or training a puppy, or to advice on the kindest way to rehome. If you were expecting to be told 'there, there, it's perfectly natural to hate your dog and you are not mistreating it, you poor thing" them you have most definitely misjudged your audience.

You just need to do the right thing now and rehome the dog so he can be loved and looked after.

This is such a sad thread

Yes, indeed. I just hope that even if OP chooses not to post here again, she is giving serious thought to everything that is being said to her and speaks to the vet tonight for advice and does the right thing for this little animal.

"Get rid of it, it's an animal"

What a horrible way to think.

Puppies are difficult. Mine has reduced me to tears and so close to taking back to the breeders but we battled through it with lots of treats and training and he's a lovely dog now.

Op you need to put in the work...as does your oh.

1...buy a crate. Line it with paper or whatever so when you get up in the morning it an just be picked up and thrown out. Save you cleaning wee up every morning
2...he should still be taken out 1-2 times through the night.

1. Take out before and after eating. After play... every half hour is you need to.if he goes in the house then take him outside straight away.
2. Buy lots of treats or use his food as treats and do bits of training.

If you aren't prepared to do this then think about rehoming. Tell your dp that he must help or rehousing is the only option.

Just to give you an idea we took turns to get up 4 times in the night with our pup. Your breed mine need more frequent opportunities to go. It was a mission but dog was trained to go outside v quickly

It's a statement of fact, though, to be fair.

OP, my advice is take pup to a reputable animal charity/breed rescue ASAP where they will hopefully be able to socialise, train and rehome him while he's still so young and therefore has a good chance.

Please don't take him back to the breeder, they are clearly not reputable selling him so young and so close to Christmas, so don't give them the satisfation of being able to sell it twice. Incidentally, have a read up on how puppy farms use all sorts of tricks to make sellers look decent. One of them is by putting pups in a family home and pretending they were born there. Or pretending that the adult dogs present are the parents when they're just a front.

Also, who told you to only feed twice a day?! A pup that young should be on small regular meals not 2 large ones.

My DP won't let me take him back
Oh really? Well, seeing as you're the one left to struggle I'd suggest ignoring him, taking pup to a rescue centre and telling him "tough shit". It's your present, right? So it's your choice to return it. Let me guess, he'd be miffed to lose all the money he spent?

Wow strangerhoes you know what? When you were 10 weeks old, you pissed and shat everywhere. So did your child if you have one, or have you forgotten that? Just like children need potty training, dogs need to be taught too.

It's not the fault of the dog.

Not sure if you are still around OP but I'm concerned about the attitude of your partner.
Out of curiosity, how does he feel about the the pregnancy?

I feel sorry for you OP really I do.

Ring the breeder and ask for some help. Any breeder worth their salt will help.

I did think puppies were supposed to be on more than 2 meals a day though?

Contact the breed rescue and arrange for rehoming.

Don't ever get another dog.

Buy a home tattooing kit and, while your partner is asleep, tattoo the words "Do not ever sell this dickhead a dog" on his forehead.

You need to get on to breed rescue without your Partner's knowledge and get them to come and collect the pup when Partner is not around.

You both sound like complete idiots. Why get a pup if you intended to get pregnant? Why not read up on puppies? Why get a puppy that was too young to leave it's mum?

Feeding it twice a day is WRONG. A puppy needs small meals at least 4 times a day. I gave my puppy 5 meals a day. He should NOT be having just James Wellbeloved. Is it even puppy food? He should be having a variety of foods. I gave my dog scrambled egg, porridge, cooked fish, goat's milk, yoghurt, chicken, salmon, rice, pasta.

A puppy should not be left while you both go out during the day. You have to slowly teach them to be alone. I would go outside my front door starting literally at 1 minute.

He should not be left alone overnight without you taking him the garden to toilet. Preferably he should be in your bedroom or one of you should be sleeping downstairs with him.

Whatever happens DO NOT KEEP this poor poor puppy.

Here is the charity for French bulldogs - they may be able to help:

www.frenchbulldogrescuegb.co.uk/surrender-a-dog.html

*goodbyeeee I'm not sure why you're picking up on this? I haven't said anything mean or at all nasty in anyway. The OP is clearly feeling unwell. But that isn't the dogs fault.

I'm 6wks pregnant and have M.E. and ontop of pregnancy symptoms, I have my M.E. symptoms to contend with and would still only consider myself to feel a bit poop*

Of course it's not the puppy's fault. think I specifically said that in my post. I picked up on the comment because it's indicative of the minimising on this thread of just how fucking debilitating HG can be and how desperate it can make you feel.

I'm sorry you're coping with an illness too but while you may consider yourself to feel a bit poop managing your pregnancy and your symptoms, that really says nothing about how the OP feels about hers. As I posted earlier I think she and her DP should re home the dog asap.

I appreciate your post wasn't meant unkindly though - unlike many other posters for whom it appears difficult to be able to show compassion for both the puppy AND the sick OP who is clearly in a desperate place.

Our puppy is now 5 months old and had just wee'd on the floor. They are very very hard work and will be for at least the fist year. The young puppy stage is full-on but so is the adolescent stage. I am not pregnant, we have had a dog previously and frankly, even to me the level of commitment seems ridiculous at times - and we were ready to make it, realistic about it and able to meet the dogs needs; it still sometimes feels just too much (DH just had to take her out for a car ride to pick up DD2 as she's manic after two walks and a lots of interactive play; it's all stimulation and might buy us a bit of peace!)

Bottom line is, as other posters have said, this sounds like too big a commitment for you right now, even before the baby is born. You're looking at having a newborn and an adolescent dog; very difficult for anyone but impossible without a deep affection and commitment to the dog. You'll all end up unhappy.

Do yourselves and the puppy a favor and take him/her to a shelter to be rehomed.

Good luck.

The more I think about this thread the more upsetting I find it.

Op, I really think you have bigger problems than in incontinent puppy. You do not sound supported by your partner, he sounds controlling, inconsiderate and, at least as far as dogs go, totally ignorant.

I do hope you find a solution.
You've had Frenchie rescue now linked to twice - will you contact them tomorrow?

Is the puppy being crate trained? If not I'd highly recommend doing so. Crate training is painful to begin with and feels very mean, but the puppy will get used to it and it'll become their little sanctuary.
Also really recommend toilet training pads - when my dog was a pup, I had one pad in the front room which is where we spend most of our time and where her crate is. When I caught her starting to go to the toilet, I'd pick her up and move her on to the pad, letting her finish on the pad. Took only a few times before she was starting to take herself on to the pad to go to the toilet. I also had a second folded pad in her crate which she would use during the night if she needed to go before I took her halfway through the night.
It wasn't long before I learned her routine and could take her out when I knew she would need to go. When she went to the toilet outside she was rewarded with a small treat. When she was a few months old she could hold it during the night and I didn't need to do the midnight toilet run.
Now, she wouldn't dream of going to the toilet inside and sits by the door to let me know she needs to go.
Things will get better OP. The puppy is still so young and you've plenty of time to train it

Well done everyone, looks like your over zealous beating up of the OP has sent her scurrying away from any help that was available.
Great job, I'm sure both her and the poor puppy have benefitted greatly from your 'input'

OP - on the off chance that you are still reading, there are some things that could help. If your partner could take 2 weeks holiday and totally take over, the pup could be pretty much housetrained with a dedicated program at that point, with just an occasional accident.
It must be said though, that training a dog to adulthood is a 2 year job with many ups and downs along the way. You had this youngster foisted on you at a time when you were emotionally all over the place (miscarriage) and now have pregnancy, resulting hormones and sickness to contend with. You need to think VERY hard about whether this is something you are prepared to deal with. And deal with WHOLEHEAREDLY, because anything less is unfair to you, your family and most especially, to the puppy
OH will have to suck it up if you decide to rehome quite frankly. He isn't there doing the work, so his opinion is very much secondary
This is not your fault and you didn't choose any of it. However you are where you are, and carrying on as you are is simply not an option.
Good luck with whatever you decide

Oh and for the record, your puppy should definitely be having a minimum of 3 meals a day, possibly 4 at its young age .........trust me, I'm a dog trainer