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To hate the dog

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gta · 02/01/2018 11:38

We have a 10 week old puppy . I am 8 weeks pregnant with the most horrendous morning day and night sickness and my sense of smell through the roof.
The dog is NOT house trained and seems to be going backwards rather than improving. He is shitting and pissing EVERYWHERE. Pooing in his own bed. Eating his own poo. Vomiting his poo up. Weeing in his own bed. His bed is washed multiple times a day, new beds have been bought.
I can't cope . I am crying everyday with it all it's disgusting. I dread waking up in the morning feeling sick, being sick and then cleaning up all the piss and shit he's left all over the kitchen floor . I can't stand him being near me . I'm at a complete loss st what to do but I'm absolutely miserable and hate living in my house with him. Please help Sad

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BiteyShark · 02/01/2018 15:12

Cannot believe how many people are saying rehome the dog. OP has had the dog for two weeks maximum. Dog is of course not toilet trained. Give it time, it will suddenly click, and you will start to feel better too in a few weeks, and may regret your decision, made in haste when you were unwell. It gets easier!

People are saying rehome because it is obvious that the dog isn't wanted. It would be different if OP had said ok I feel like shit and hate the dog because of these things so how do I fix them. Unless OP has a massive change in her thinking and asks for real training help the dog will get older, still not house trained and then hitting teenager when she gives birth.

I asked earlier but haven't seen a reply. OP what do you want from this thread? Real help in training which will take weeks and be hard work? Help with convincing your DP to rehome?

diddl · 02/01/2018 15:15

Who is expected to look after the puppy?

If it's you then you certainly do get a/the say in keeping it or not!

If your husband wants th pup then the least he does is clean up any overnight mess!

That aside, are you going to be able to regularly walk the dog with a young son & a newborn?

What if one of them is ill?

Wolfiefan · 02/01/2018 15:18

Bitey the OP wanted to moan about how shit she feels and be told "oh poor hun."
There is no desire to sort the problem.
Puppies need house training and lead training and socialising and exercise and obedience training. They are hard work. OP clearly doesn't want advice on how to do this.

WaitrosePigeon · 02/01/2018 15:21

I actually feel sorry for you OP, if the dog was given as a present. That’s not fair. Your DH is a massive arsehole.

BiteyShark · 02/01/2018 15:23

Wolfiefan yes you are probably right. OP needs to do the training or rehome quickly. The worst thing would be to do nothing which is what I expect will happen and then the puppy will be the one that suffers.

Valerrie · 02/01/2018 15:25

The comments from a poster stating they are involved in dog rescue - who on earth would want someone like that to "assist" them

Me? Many people actually. So according to you, the OP who hates their tiny puppy, is underfeeding a baby animal so that it has to eat its own shit and who doesn't want it there is a better person to have the dog than someone involved in dog rescue who has offered to help?

Are you a bit stupid?

Whatsinanameanyway201 · 02/01/2018 15:30

I'm so so jealous. I would absolutely love to have a dog but husband won't let me as I'm a sahm with no income, he doesn't want the financial burden x

Costacoffeeplease · 02/01/2018 15:37

What Glumglowworm said with bells on

Take the poor puppy back and never get another one

Costacoffeeplease · 02/01/2018 15:43

And I’ve just read that he’s only fed twice a day. WTAF?? I hope the Vet sees he’s not being cared for properly and takes control of this ridiculous situation

FrivolouslyFancifulFannie · 02/01/2018 16:09

my ex came in with a staffie puppy he got off a back yard breeder, it was inetrbred and 4 weeks old, i was pregnant and it was a surprise. i was at my wits end at first trying to train it, i left it too long and she ate through 2 doors and ripped the kitchen cupboard doors off, all my fault. She died last year, made it to 13, she loved kids and other dogs, my dc were distraught she had been brought up with them and they loved each other.

You need to train it, if you cant be bothered rehome it

DixieNormas · 02/01/2018 16:09

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FrivolouslyFancifulFannie · 02/01/2018 16:12

*left her

Wolfiefan · 02/01/2018 16:12

Dixie mine would eat her poo as a pup. So I made sure to pick it up as soon as she went. Every time. She couldn't do it so it broke the habit. It's hard work to start with though.

DixieNormas · 02/01/2018 16:14

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maxthemartian · 02/01/2018 16:16

I'm so so jealous. I would absolutely love to have a dog but husband won't let me as I'm a sahm with no income, he doesn't want the financial burden x

What an odd response given the context Confused

Wolfiefan · 02/01/2018 16:16

Ha Dixie I have cats. And a stairgate to stop the dog reaching their food or poo.
Dogs are grim!
I love my dog. Grin

DixieNormas · 02/01/2018 16:19

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Wolfiefan · 02/01/2018 16:26

I can beat that. The dog did a poo. I neglected to pick it up straight away. So the cat murdered a pigeon and left it on top of the poo.
Never mind just dogs. Actually all my animals are grim! Blush

DearMrDilkington · 02/01/2018 16:26

Op, have you got other dogs?

Frequency · 02/01/2018 16:33

I'm lucky. My dog only eats dead, rotting Marine life Hmm

Poo has never tickled his tastebuds. It's strictly for rolling in.

The poo eating itself isn't a major concern but the poo eating coupled with soiling its own bed and hiding poo paints a worrying picture. All of those things together aren't normal. They are signs that the dog is very distressed. It might not be OP who has caused this, it could've been the 'breeder' or it might be OP's partner, it could even be completely accidental. I've looked after a dog who took me sighing at his 'accidents' very badly but the result is the same. OP is ill, pregnant and has a distressed, untrained puppy which she is not equipped to deal with.

Lloyd45 · 02/01/2018 16:34

I think whenever you get a puppy you think what have I done. When i got my puppy he got me up at 5am until he was 9 months old, completely hyper all the time, he's now 2.5 years old and the best dog, he just needs a good run every morning and then sleeps for the rest of the day, it does get better but takes a lot of time and effort

ScreamingValenta · 02/01/2018 16:38

Dogs have a completely different idea of what's nice to eat. I remember the time we went camping, and I had a tad too much wine and woke up in the night to be sick in the awning of our tent. Got up the next morning preparing to clean it up ... found the dog had already done it for me Envy.

jacks11 · 02/01/2018 16:48

Also, have just read that they are only feeding puppy twice a day, as they are worried he will mess at night if they feed him more often! Unbelievably poor behaviour. Angry

Yes, OP may be feeling very unwell but that does not excuse mistreating the dog (however unintentionally). Being pregnant and having HG is NEVER an excuse for mistreatment of an animal in your care. And not feeding a puppy appropriately is mistreatment.

Though I have no doubt someone will come along and say as she didn't buy the puppy, it's not her responsibility. And she's pregnant and feeling unwell, so really it's not her fault or responsibility. Totally ignoring the fact she WANTED THE DOG and CHOSE to keep it after her DH bought it. Thereby choosing to accept co-ownership and shared responsibility for the dog. So yes, she does deserve to be given a hard time. Being unwell or pregnant is not a get out clause.

OP and her DH are either deliberately not feeding correctly, or have not bothered to research how to feed a dog. No excuses for that, not a single one!! That poor puppy needs rehomed ASAP for it's sake.

spinduffy · 02/01/2018 16:48

This is such a sad thread. A puppy needs love, care and a lot of help to teach it. They are very hard work, but worth every second. This isn’t the right home for a puppy- he should be wanted and he is you’d enough to ensure he gets a home that will do that.

Pups eat their own poo. Our job as owners is to ensure they are getting regularly fed (4 feeds per day) to minimise this behaviour. Also we need to be positvely reinforcing good behaviours. Most quickly grow out of this stage. My big pup (9months) is sitting beside me as I type and I have to say those early days are hard, but should be worthwhile.

This wee pup needs a home where his needs can be met and to ensure he doesn’t end up in the pound/ shelter at a later stage when he is less likely to be rehomed.

Please don’t ever think about getting another dog.

ScipioAfricanus · 02/01/2018 16:51

Rehome while it’s still a puppy and will adjust to a new (better) family and is easier to rehome. Then think very seriously about whether you should get a pet again in the future given that the normal amount of care and effort taken to train one is too much for you now (albeit in tricky circumstances).

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