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To hate the dog

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gta · 02/01/2018 11:38

We have a 10 week old puppy . I am 8 weeks pregnant with the most horrendous morning day and night sickness and my sense of smell through the roof.
The dog is NOT house trained and seems to be going backwards rather than improving. He is shitting and pissing EVERYWHERE. Pooing in his own bed. Eating his own poo. Vomiting his poo up. Weeing in his own bed. His bed is washed multiple times a day, new beds have been bought.
I can't cope . I am crying everyday with it all it's disgusting. I dread waking up in the morning feeling sick, being sick and then cleaning up all the piss and shit he's left all over the kitchen floor . I can't stand him being near me . I'm at a complete loss st what to do but I'm absolutely miserable and hate living in my house with him. Please help Sad

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Trampire · 02/01/2018 14:33

French Bulldogs are very trendy at the moment. Having said that I meet plenty of healthy happy ones on good long proper walks when out with my own dog.

I think because they're desirable at the moment you have no trouble rejoining it with a rescue centre. The breeder sounds shit, sorry.

Trampire · 02/01/2018 14:34

Rehoming not rejoining.

HuskyMcClusky · 02/01/2018 14:36

"feeling a bit poop" Have you ever had hyperemesis?

Oh, whatever - the OP is clearly capable of using the internet and making a phone call, she’s not in a bloody coma. She needs to sort out rehoming the dog. No excuse.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 02/01/2018 14:39

Poor OP. She's obviously feeling very ill and overwhelmed. I hope some of these comments haven't scared you off.

Wolfiefan · 02/01/2018 14:39

You have a backyard bred dog. I doubt health tests were performed on the parents. Get insurance.
You brought it home too soon.
It's not being fed frequently enough.
You're leaving it alone. It is distressed and soiling the house.
How are you actually toilet training or socialising?
Poor bloody dog.
Please contact breed rescue. Never get another dog.
And if your partner won't let you find the dog a home more committed to providing what this puppy needs then maybe he should leave too. Angry

Rebeccaslicker · 02/01/2018 14:39

But goodbyeeeee - that's exactly what the OP is doing!! She says herself she can't stand to have the poor thing near her.

Either she's sick enough that someone must be helping with the other child, in which case the OP and that person need to tackle the partner to get this poor dog sorted out before it's too late, or she's not actually that bad, in which case she can find a charity to help her rehome it herself. It should be a priority, not something that can wait a few months - by then it will be too late for the dog, which will have developed all sorts of issues.

GoReylo · 02/01/2018 14:39

I do not understand supposed animal lovers who would rather put the boot in than give constructive advice that could actually help the puppy!

Do you have any family or friends who would "foster" the dog for you while you rest? Someone who is home all day would be perfect. Of course make it clear he has issues - quite severe ones from the sound of it, and he really should not have been taken from his mother so early, of course the poor love doesn't know what he's doing - but hopefully given time he'll settle.

LaContessaDiPlump · 02/01/2018 14:41

ShatnersWig thanks, I see. I am sure op would have done her appropriate breed research and worked out the best type to get if her DP hadn't presented her with a fait accompli, so am still inclined to feel sympathy. She sounds like she's having a rough time of it and a pile-on won't help.

LouiseBrooks · 02/01/2018 14:42

I do not understand supposed animal lovers who would rather put the boot in than give constructive advice that could actually help the puppy!

We are giving constructive advice - how many times have you read the phrase "rehome your puppy" on this thread today?

WorraLiberty · 02/01/2018 14:42

Jesus Christ OP just take the puppy back.

Is it the money your DP is worried about? At £700+ they're not cheap.

But he's going to have to swallow the fact he's the twat who bought it and 'surprised' you Hmm

Oh and as a PP said, that puppy should be on at least 3 or 4 meals per day.

Trampire · 02/01/2018 14:44

It's not the OO's fault. She didn't buy the puppy and she has enough on her plate at the moment.

Rehoming the puppy is best. It's very young and will not be affected by it. It will find a new home quickly if it goes through a rescue centre.

Coloursthatweremyjoy · 02/01/2018 14:46

Gosh OP, he's come to you very young, that won't have helped matters.

When my pup came to us he was 14 weeks old. We had him on 3 small meals a day, dry food that was soaked in boiling water first to make it more digestible. I gradually decreased the water over time until we weren't doing the soaking anymore. Even then I needed to change his food on advice from the vet as it was upsetting his stomach. Is your pup having loose poos?

In your situation I'd take him back to the breeder though tbh. Any reputable breeder will take a dog back. I hope you have one of those.

Slight derail but perhaps someone can answer...I thought eating their own poo was very unusual and a sign of something wrong? Or am I just lucky that Dog has never done this, cow, horse, sheep, duck poo yes but not his own. (Can you tell he's a lab? Xmas Envy )

midnightmisssuki · 02/01/2018 14:47

HuskyMcClusky Shock

OP - sorry re the hyperemesis - i was on ondensatron and a few others too so i know how zombie like you must feel right now. As an owner of 2 dogs, i must say that this is the wrong time to get such a young puppy - please try to rehome it. Do you have family (or someone you totlaly trust) that can take on the dog? That way you'll get to see the dog when you feel better. Or speak to the vet tonight about re-homing.

ScreamingValenta · 02/01/2018 14:48

A new puppy is very hard work, and horrendously stressful. I researched carefully, but underestimated just how gruelling the sleepless nights would be at first - and the barf moments, such as the first time we wormed him. There were many times when I wondered what I'd been thinking of, although I loved my pup dearly. It is worthwhile in the end. Once he is housetrained, it will be much easier; and the general obedience training is much more fun and rewarding. My dog is 11 now and I wouldn't be without him. I hope you can find a way through this, OP. The Doghouse is a fantastic source of expertise for all things dog-related.

YetAnotherNC2017 · 02/01/2018 14:49

Poor fucking dog.

Wtf did you and your DP expect? A perfectly trained dog at 10 weeks old within 2 weeks of ownership when you don’t even want to take the time training it? Is it even getting walked?

It took me and my dog a full year before he was fully trained and could be trusted with the whole house.

The mind boggles. For the love of god, don’t get another pet.

MagggieMay · 02/01/2018 14:50

Cannot believe how many people are saying rehome the dog. OP has had the dog for two weeks maximum. Dog is of course not toilet trained. Give it time, it will suddenly click, and you will start to feel better too in a few weeks, and may regret your decision, made in haste when you were unwell. It gets easier!

Frequency · 02/01/2018 14:51

The only sensible advice is to rehome the pup. OP is unwell, pregnant and ill prepared for a puppy.

Poop eating is quite normal, although its more common for dogs to eat other animal's waste. Often, a dog eating its own feces is due to illness or something lacking the diet but it could also be habit. On it's own the popp eating, while disgusting wouldn't be a concern in a healthy dog. Messing in the bed/hiding poop along with eating it indicates a very distressed and/or neglected puppy.

My guess would be the pup isn't being taken out often enough and has been punished or scolded for messing in the house.

ElsieMc · 02/01/2018 14:52

Op, you have made a massive mistake which is causing you distress in the early stages of your pregnancy. You are acknowledging that mistake.

Fgs, don't tell verbally abusive posters on here your whereabouts. The comments from a poster stating they are involved in dog rescue - who on earth would want someone like that to "assist" them.

Don't get it moved to Doghouse; for every knowledgeable, considerate poster there are the dog martyrs waiting to flame you again. It doesn't help you move forward.

Please contact a breed specific rescue op. A decent organisation/trust will probably try to assist you with meal plan, toileting advice, exercise, socialising etc. But I think you need to lay your cards on the table and state you cannot cope. Do this sooner rather than later for both your sakes.

I have taken on two rehomes in the past eighteen months op. No dog is perfect and nor are their owners.

Coloursthatweremyjoy · 02/01/2018 14:56

Thanks frequency - Dog is quite frankly a disgusting beast but I've not had to get the dog books/websites out for that one mercifully! Throwing up a rock and then looking very sorry for himself...was only looking that one up this morning!

roundtable · 02/01/2018 14:57

Your dp is coming across badly to me not you op. I sympathise with you.

Who buys a living thing as a surprise? What a fool he is.

Practical steps though now.

Puppy needs feeding 3 or 4 times a day. Take puppy out as soon as he's eaten and wait outside with them until they've been to the toilet. Praise and treat. Do you have a clicker? I found it very effective for puppy training.

Is your dog crated? Have you built up to this by putting in something that smells like mum? Leaving treats in there? Making it safe and cosy?

There's so much you can do to help yourself but puppies are very hard work. Can you afford a behaviourist? Puppy training classes would be very useful too. Don't leave the puppy at the moment - online shopping for now or dp goes. Take it out and socialise it pronto.

Your dp has made me so cross. What a fool he is.

Dragongirl10 · 02/01/2018 15:02

I feel dreadfully sad for this tiny puppy........he is not being cared for well and bringing him into your home was ill thought out..

Why oh why do people not really plan how they are going to accomodate a dog before buying a puppy. People like you make my blood boil.

Rehome him ...bugger what DP thinks.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 02/01/2018 15:02

Maggie I am a dog lover/owner and wouldn't normally cry "rehome" but given the OP didn't actually choose to get a puppy right now AND is extremely ill with morning sickness I think rehoming is the wisest choice. Raising a puppy can be really hard work and can bring the best of us to our knees and the hard work can be very rewarding but in some cases ( this one ) I think it's wrong to carry on.

WorraLiberty · 02/01/2018 15:06

Cannot believe how many people are saying rehome the dog. OP has had the dog for two weeks maximum. Dog is of course not toilet trained. Give it time, it will suddenly click, and you will start to feel better too in a few weeks, and may regret your decision, made in haste when you were unwell. It gets easier!

Because the OP was bought the dog as a 'surprise'

Because she's 8 weeks pregnant, having already suffered a recent miscarriage.

Because she can't cope.

Because she hates the puppy and can't stand being near it.

FFS are those reasons not good enough, to ensure the poor puppy goes to a suitable home and so the OP can concentrate on her pregnancy and baby when it arrives?

misshannah · 02/01/2018 15:06

@goodbyeeee I'm not sure why you're picking up on this? I haven't said anything mean or at all nasty in anyway. The OP is clearly feeling unwell. But that isn't the dogs fault.

I'm 6wks pregnant and have M.E. and ontop of pregnancy symptoms, I have my M.E. symptoms to contend with and would still only consider myself to feel a bit poop.

Wolfiefan · 02/01/2018 15:07

I wouldn't normally say rehome either but the OP has expressed zero desire to train or socialise this dog. She clearly doesn't have a clue about what to do with a puppy (only feeding it twice a day) and shows no inclination to learn.
It will be much better somewhere else.