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To hate the dog

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gta · 02/01/2018 11:38

We have a 10 week old puppy . I am 8 weeks pregnant with the most horrendous morning day and night sickness and my sense of smell through the roof.
The dog is NOT house trained and seems to be going backwards rather than improving. He is shitting and pissing EVERYWHERE. Pooing in his own bed. Eating his own poo. Vomiting his poo up. Weeing in his own bed. His bed is washed multiple times a day, new beds have been bought.
I can't cope . I am crying everyday with it all it's disgusting. I dread waking up in the morning feeling sick, being sick and then cleaning up all the piss and shit he's left all over the kitchen floor . I can't stand him being near me . I'm at a complete loss st what to do but I'm absolutely miserable and hate living in my house with him. Please help Sad

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Rebeccaslicker · 02/01/2018 14:16

How is she coping with her existing child? Presumably s/he should just be left until OP is feeling better too?! Nobody would sanction that (although you're never quite sure on here).

If she is so genuinely incapacitated that she can't get out of bed, her stupid thoughtless puppy surprise partner needs to step up. That's the point here.

RhiannonOHara · 02/01/2018 14:16

Contessa, I agree the partner is a shit, but the dog wasn't exactly foisted on the OP, if you pay attention to what she has said in the previous thread quoted here.

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LouiseBrooks · 02/01/2018 14:18

Yes some people don't know all the details about how best to obtain and train a puppy.

No but that's why they should research before they get one! The DP may be initially to blame by producing a surprise puppy from a dodgy breeder without doing a jot of research, and then pissing off and leaving a pregnant/vomiting woman to do all the work. However, OP knew she was pregnant so hardly a good time to get a new pet and admits pup gets left alone for ages, isn't fed appropriately, that she can't stand being near him and doesn't seem to have the nous to rehome the animal because DP says she can't? (Unless there's a fear of dv in which case she needs to seek help and is the only excuse I can think of.)

Plenty of people are first time dog owners and still behave with sense, which neither OP nor her DP did. I think the OP knows full well that this poor pup should be rehomed (ethically, not back to a puppy farm or on Gumtree, God forbid). I'm really hoping there'll be an update later saying she has done the right thing and asked the vet for help. However, frankly I feel sorrier for the dog.

And yes Valerie I was wondering where the other dog was?

Jux · 02/01/2018 14:18

take it back. The breeder’s just around the corner. Defy your dh and walk the poor thing round there today.

Stolenchoccies · 02/01/2018 14:20

poor dog. prob eating poo cos he knows it upsets you so it eating it to get rid

goodbyeeee · 02/01/2018 14:20

Yes Rebecca that is the point. And someone else had to look after my existing DC when I had hyperemisis. Luckily for me I had someone around to do that. I have no idea what I would have done otherwise. The OP has been hospitalized with it so I would think it might be assumed that she's not just feeling a bit queasy.

And no-one has said that the pup should just be "left" until she's better.

WhatATimeToBeAlive · 02/01/2018 14:21

Return the poor dog and never, ever get another pet. Did you expect it to be presented housetrained? Just wait till your kid arrives. What the hell were you thinking of getting a dog when you're about to have a baby? Jeez. No more words.

haveacupofteaandamincepie · 02/01/2018 14:21

Find the local breed club for Frenchies and contact them. Ask if they have a waiting list for people interested in pups. Most serious buyers will have been on a waiting list for a reputable breeder for a long time but hopefully the breed club will help you to vet interested parties.

Do not return to breeder. Do not sell on Gumtree. You can rely on the vets advice. Stand up to your husband. This little puppy's life depends on it. Do the right thing OP.

maxthemartian · 02/01/2018 14:22

Complete lack of surprise that it's a French Bulldog.

I assume your partner wants to keep it as he paid over the odds for it, it being so fashionable at present.

What a bloody mess. Please do the right thing and give it to a rescue who can rehome it before it's ruined for life.

JaneEyre70 · 02/01/2018 14:23

You should be feeding a puppy that young 4 days a day not twice. He's probably starving poor little thing. No wonder it is eating its own faeces. Please ask your vet tonight about rehoming options as an emergency OP and don't ever get another pet.

HisBetterHalf · 02/01/2018 14:23

To hate the dog
Hate is a strong emotion, please return the puppy so that he can have the home he deserves and before it is too late that he ends up as an untrained adult being passed on from pillar to post in the future

LaContessaDiPlump · 02/01/2018 14:24

Rhiannon I thought her DP presented it to her as a surprise? Maybe I've misunderstood. To me that would sit firmly in the 'foisted' category....

JaneEyre70 · 02/01/2018 14:25

4 times a day sorry. So bloody angry I can't type!

ShatnersWig · 02/01/2018 14:25

LaContessa I posted earlier from a previous thread the OP had on exactly the same subject two weeks ago in which she made it clear that while her DP went and got this "expensive" puppy, she'd been saying for ages that she would love to have a dog. They'd had a miscarriage and now here we are...

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JulyAphrodite · 02/01/2018 14:26

I had our puppy two years ago and had to stand outside every half and hour and say go to wee wee and when she went gave her a treat and same for poo!
It took a while to train her 100 percent but she went in her crate at bedtime and never had an accident in there. It is hard work but the end result is worth it she has made such a difference to our family and we love her so much. If you really think you cannot cope with the dog it is the kindest option to let him go to a good rehoming centre as soon as possible if the breeder is not reputable

LouiseBrooks · 02/01/2018 14:27

FFS I just had a quick look on the internet (NOT on Gumtree).

French bulldog puppies for sale at £1200 each! One "lilac" which I believe is not an approved colour is up for £3000.

Just heartbreaking.

misshannah · 02/01/2018 14:27

I had 2 rescue puppies (one 9 months and one 4 months old) last year and was diagnosed with CFS/M.E. I didn't give up on them, it was up to me and my DP to train them and teach them. The puppy isn't to blame as it doesn't know any better without training.

I appreciate you're feeling a bit poop, but give the pup a chance to learn or take it back now before it's too late for the dog. Perhaps an older, house trained dog is more suitable.

goodbyeeee · 02/01/2018 14:29

"feeling a bit poop" Have you ever had hyperemisis?

Trampire · 02/01/2018 14:29

Please rehome the puppy.

I have a nearly 3 year old terrier. I've had him from a tiny pup. Even now I spend way more time with him than my children! (Although my children are teens).
I know it's a cliche but having a dog really is like having a child in terms of effort, time, patience, love, responsibility etc.

My BIL bought a high energy/working dog breed puppy once. He had no time for it and the dog was utterly miserable. Luckily after a few months he saw his mistake and rehomed it with a farmer.

Please, the puppy is a tiny baby.

SilverySurfer · 02/01/2018 14:29

So your partner bought you a seven week old puppy a week before Christmas from a crap breeder. No decent breeder would sell a puppy younger than eight weeks and definitely would not sell one a week before Christmas.

It sounds like your DP has been cleaning up after the pup but it's unlikely that he has undertaken any training at all.

Take the puppy back to the crap breede, for its sake and please do not get another dog.

Pearlsaringer · 02/01/2018 14:31

Oh God, French bulldog = fashion accessory to me. (Sorry, genuine owners, not you!). What was your DP thinking of? You know you aren’t going to grow to love this poor creature, so take steps to rehome TODAY, so puppy has a chance to bond with a new owner who can cope with him.

HuskyMcClusky · 02/01/2018 14:32

OP I think you have to insist that DP seeks professional advice about rehoming.

And how exactly is she supposed to ‘insist’ on this? Her DP doesn’t want to, he wants to keep it. And he doesn’t sound exactly helpful/responsible. Hmm

The OP needs to step up and sort this out herself. The dog’s at the vets for shots - she needs to get advice re: rehoming, and act. ASAP.

Lookingforadvice123 · 02/01/2018 14:32

Please return him to the breeder. DH and I planned on getting a puppy before I fell pregnant with DS. I’m so glad we didn’t, I hadn’t realised how hard they are (DPs have recently got a puppy and I know they regret it as they’re both recently retired and should be enjoying the freedom; and they’ve had puppies before so know what it involves!).

Those comparing the puppy to a baby are being harsh, your unconditional love for your child gets you through those early weeks of hell.

Return him now though, and it won’t do him any harm. My DPs puppy has always been house trained but he’s about 9 months old and still such hard work, jumping all the time, chewing everything etc. It doesn’t necessarily get easier.

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