AIBU to want my kids back??

[RoseNarene]

Just before Christmas my ex and I agreed at court to a child arrangement order whereby the kids (5 and 1) live with me roughly 65% of the time. The court order also stipulated Christmas arrangements as being shared 50/50, and were more specific for this Christmas - he was to have them from 9am Boxing Day and then I pick them up at 6pm on the 2nd January.

He has taken them to a holiday home in Wales and is demanding that I make the 5 hour journey to collect them on the 2nd. If I can't then he will bring them back on the 4th.

It may only seem like a couple of days but they have already been away from me for 7 days and my baby is only 1. This is all about control for him. He isn't technically breaking the court order because it says I have to collect them but it doesn't state a location, but we live 10 minutes from each other so the assumption would naturally be that I collect from his house.

What do I do?

Just adding my support, in hoping your first day in new job went well, and you’ll have your girls back soon.

Keep calm, and doing exactly what you’re doing. Remember everything he has done will go in your favour in the courts. Hold your head high, and don’t be drawn in by him.

My ex would ruin anything. If I had an exam to study for, he’d cause an argument. New day at work, cause an argument. Want to go out with my friends, cause an argument...

He knew you were starting a new job. All this bullshit was to unsettle you.

Good luck Rose - cheering you on here

Hi Rose - I hope the first day at your new job went well. Fingers crossed that you're picking up the girls right now

Hi everyone

My girls are back home and I have just tucked them into bed.

When I collected them at 4:30, my ex was trying to be nice to me, completely patronising and goading me, trying to get a reaction. "How was your first day?" "Oh, don't you want to talk to me?" "Have a really safe drive home!"

I didn't look at him and I didn't talk to him. Not once.

Yes, my first day was good thank you! Just an inset, the real work starts tomorrow. If I'm honest I have no idea what I'm doing!! But I'll work it out along the way!

Well done OP. KOKO.

So pleased for you OP!

Good. Hope tomorrow goes well.

So glad that it's ended well. Hope it continues!

so pleased they are back home, i had a feeling you might come on saying he had bothered you at work all day so thats good

So pleased to see your update, OP.

Lovely update OP

Fantastic update. Well done on not engaging, superb 👏🏼👏🏼

How lovely your girls are back 😊

Great news OP, pleased you've got them back and well done for being so calm throughout.

Bravo!

I'm so pleased that you had a good first day in your new job and that you have your girls back with you.

Bravo you for not responding to him! That would have been just what he wanted!

Fingers crossed you can take it back to court soon and I think things will go heavily in your favour

Well done. You rose above his poop perfectly. You're one classy lady

YAY!! So happy to hear your girls are back home with you Rose

Twat showed his cards - it was all done to upset you on your first day. Hope you still will go back to court to sort him out.

I would've been lovely to him and told him how fantastic your first day was! To prove he hasn't messed anything up for you.
Glad you have them back though x

So pleased to hear this. Best of luck to you Rose.

Fantastically played you've really pissed on his chips!

Well done Op.

What a twat!

Glad to hear you have got them home.

Well played, OP. I'm in awe of you!

What an idiot. I’m so glad they’re home.