To have only just realised I could be pregnant

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DP and I have only DTD once since DS was born, about 2 months ago due to combination of him working away and cosleeping making it difficult. We didnt use protection as I'm EBF and it was kind of a 'fuck it' moment.

Last two days have had awful gas, bloating and weird metallic taste in my mouth. Was burping endlessly in the car and DP said 'haha wow the only time I've seen you this bad is when you were pregnant'. It was just a passing comment but thinking about it I do feel exactly as I did a year ago when in first trimester.

Oh God I'm pregnant aren't I?! I need to take a test but it's 1am and I'm panicking. 5mo is asleep next to me.

Don't even know what I'd do. I'd love another baby but how the hell would we cope with a just 1 year old and a newborn? Oh lordy.

Congratulations! We had a similar situation with our second, it was a fly away comment by DH as a joke, but as soon as he said it we both just knew that I actually was pregnant. We’ve got 15 months between our eldest two. It wasn’t bad as they were both in the ‘baby’ stage at the same time, we all napped at the same time etc. Harder once nursery started, but we’d had a third by then 😂

Yay!!! It will be great.xxxxx

My MW gave me some advice when I was expecting my 3rd, who was conceived 12 weeks after my 2nd was born.

"Don't worry about how you will cope, look back and see that you did it"

And, once said 3rd child was born, I used a simple idea to be able to get through the day with a 3 year old, a walking 1 year old and a newborn.

"The person who need a me most at any given time get a the attention, it'll all even out in the end" so if the older child had a really messy nappy, and the baby needs fed, the baby waits 2 mins. Also, its so much easier tandem nursing if you can. That way you can keep older baby where you can see em while nursing the baby.

I did the toddle and newborn thing 4 times in total.
1-2 27 months
2-3 12 months and 17 days
3-4 22 months
4-5 23 months

It was hard at times, it all worked out quite well.

Good luck.

Ahhhhh congratulations! I have two little ones and there are 22 months between them. It was hard at first, but so much better now their older xx

I went back to work as a midwife after maternity leave pregnant not planned 15 months between them, I'm sure it must have been a dream shag with me asleep, I was so knackered all the time. Anyway it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be, the end of pregnancy was hard going, now 13 and 12 and very close

This happened to me 4 years ago, I had a five month old at the time, we'd done it once, I was ebf, didn't even occur to me that I might be pregnant until I was already 8 weeks and started to have heightened sense of smell, nausea etc. I cried for about two weeks after finding out, I couldn't get my head around another baby when I still had such a small baby! There's 14 months between my two boys and we've just had our third, a girl. It has been hard going but also incredible, the boys are as thick as thieves and really are best friends (obviously fight too, but ultimately best friends!) You'll be absolutely fine once you've given it a chance to sink in - imo the biggest gift you can give a child is a sibling and this is how it's happened for you. Wishing you all the best. Xx

Congratulations OP!

3 dcd under the age of 4, it happens and a 15/16 year gap before the 4th. Its hard but enjoy xx

Our second happened sooner than planned... we always knew we wanted a second (and third, I am pregnant now) but he definitely surprised us about 6-12 months earlier than we planned. We have a 2 year age gap exactly.... it's honestly been a breeze in comparison to what I thought, and they are the best of friends now, they will play together for hours on end. I definitely think smaller age gaps are the best. There is a 11 year age gap between me and my Sister and we do not get on at all.

Oh how I remember that moment though, nothing quite like the penny dropping and realising 'shit, I think I am pregnant' when you're not expecting it! Rushing home to do a test.. oh God, but I'd do it all again in a heartbeat. The shock doesn't last long.

Congratulations! It may have come as a shock but you will manage!

Congrats, whatever your DP
may think you are in it together.

Happy 2018

OMG!! It’s 17 months between them!! I am so bad 😂🤣

I have taught 3 pairs of sisters at secondary who are in the same year but not twins - most are September then August birthdays! Think the smallest gap is 10 months.

I have 22 months between mine - its chaos, but you do it!

Congratulations! Bit of a surprise I am sure, but once it’s sunk in the positives will show :)

Congrats op

I had 7 in 7 years! Don't know what I was thinking!but I wouldn't change it and is completely possible to remain sane if you have the support of your Dh (and a cleaner, dog walker and part time nanny...)

My youngest is 4 now and breastfeeding did work as contraception for her but that was because we used no dummies, top ups of formula and I let her feed as and when she wanted instead of trying to space them out. With the others they started sleeping through from a couple of months so it didn't work for as long but I didn't have a period until she was 3.(fed til she was nearly 3)

Wow!! Congratulations!!

I agree with a PP that it's easier dealing with pregnancy and a newborn when you have a still largely immobile older child. I'm currently pregnant (difficult pregnancy and all but on bedrest) and have a 3.5yo who is running me ragged. Wish we'd had a smaller gap. You will be fine!

How are you feeling OP?
I had my first three babies really close together then a gap between the rest. The gap was the killer. I found it a lot easier to have the baby years crammed together to power on through.

Congratulations! I hope your OH takes it well and is pleased. I had twins nearly 19 months after my first born. 3 under 2 for nearly 6 months was grim but things are much better now (aged 6, 6 7)

Congratulations OP!

Just adding my voice to the others who've been reassuring you that a small age gap is OK.

DC2 was conceived while EBF after throwing caution to the winds just the once. It was a bit of a shock as it had taken almost a year to get DC1. So we ended up with a 16 month age gap & while it was hard work at first it worked out really well & they've grown up really close.

Good luck, it'll be fine.

Our age gap will be 13 months

I'm very happy now it's sank in a bit but I know DP will be terrified. The first one was unplanned and although DS is a dream I'm pretty sure he didn't want more for another 3 years at least. I'm thinking positively - we'll be out of the nappy phase quickly!

Serious question - double prams, how do you get them in and out of doors?! My front door JUST fits my normal pram!

My mind is very confused right now just wasn't ready or prepared for this. But our baby is absolutely wonderful so I'm sure this one will be too praying

Congratulations OP!

Great news! Happy happy happy new year!

You can get double peaks that are stacked rather than side by side x

Prams not peaks!

Happy new year and sell the fact that you’ll be out of the baby stage quicker and the can’t enjoy a meal out etc x