You should not invite a vegetarian for Christmas if you have no intention of catering for them?

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You should not invite a vegetarian for Christmas dinner if you have no intention of catering for them?

I am a vegetarian. I went to my MIL's for Christmas dinner and all I could eat was Brussels sprouts, peas, carrots and potatoes. Without gravy!

The stuffing, gravy etc.. all had animal products.

There were 14 of us in total and 3 of us were very disappointed vegetarians.

I usually host and make sure everyone is catered for. I felt quite irritated, as I had offered to bring any part of the meal and if she had told me she was not catering for the vegetarians, I would have done it.

My MIL is very traditional and supports fox hunting. I suspect that she does not agree with being vegetarian and this was her passive aggressive way of showing that.

In every other way she is lovely and a great MIL. She wants us to come again next year. How do I politely make sure this does not happen again?

This thread has gone a bit wonky

So odd that there were
no nibbles
no starter
no butter
no vegetarian-compatible beverages
for pudding only Xmas pudding -- not even cream or ice cream to go with that.
It's not the greatest catering, to be like that, fair enough.

I find that sometimes my dm generation just don't know what to give vegetarians

Eh? Vegetarianism isn't a new-fangled invention.

Positivelyperf - you seem quite cross about my dietary choices and intolerances. I've said on this thread, at least twice, that I don't use the term 'veggan' as I've never heard it until today.

I promise you, from personal experience that it is much easier to tell restaurants that I am vegan, rather than a vegetarian with a dairy intolerance. The amount of times I have had to explain to waiting staff that butter, cheese and sour cream are dairy products!

Why do you care what people call themselves? We're all doing our bit.

Oh and I could absolutely commit to being vegan, but at this time I choose to eat the odd free range egg from a relative's chickens, and maybe some mayo when I go out.

Penny's dropped. Vegan who will eat egg is a v-egg-an.

I know someone who is an ovo-vegetarian, which I think is the same thing as veggan. I think some vegans don’t like the term veggan though. I’m sure I saw some post about it back in the days when I was actually on Facebook (social media-phobic)!

"I find that sometimes my dm generation just don't know what to give vegetarians"

What age is your mother's generation?

halloma I don't have issues with your diet at all. I have issues with people using incorrect definitions which cause misunderstanding amongst meat eaters. You're welcome to call yourself vegan, but please have the curtesy not to order a meal that contains none vegan ingredients. If you use the term vegan and eat none vegan foods then vegans have to put up with the usual "my friends a vegan and eats insert none vegan ingredient " or being served with a meal that contains none vegan ingrediants. I DO have issue with the word VEGGAN as it is simply an ovo vegetarian. It causes confusion as it sounds EXACTLY the same as vegan.

can you not have some wafer thin ham

Mike 😆 Confusing as fuck, isn't it?

Most restaurant staff don't know what a pescatarian is, let alone an ovo-vegetarian!

I'll carry on calling myself a vegan when out (and carry on eating vegan meals when out). If I do have a non-vegan ingredient, such as mayo - I always clarify that mayo isn't vegan, and then go on to explain my diet.

earl are you my sil, who couldn't understand why I wouldn't have some of her lemon meringue pie, as it only has a wee bit of egg in it. 😕🙄😆

Won't eat eggs but Yet you've no issue with holding dogs hostage

What are you on about, mum56?

You have a dog hostage, yes?

Are you in something 56, because I have no clue to what you're rambling about?

Proof, if any were needed, that mum is a massive wind-up merchant 🙄

I think Mumof56 might be running that tedious argument that it is hypocritical of vegetarians to have carnivorous or omnivorous pets.

You got it wrong, 56, the cat is actually the culprit.

Are you in something 56, because I have no clue to what you're rambling about?
You have a dog. You "own" an animal. You are depriving it of the opportunity to engage in their natural behavior. They are restricted to your home, where they must obey commands and can only eat, drink, and even urinate when you allow them to.

Oh yawn. It's Mumof56.

Well I'm sure The Canine Defence League, the SSPCA, the RSPCA, Blue Cross and The Dog Trust would be delighted if all dog owners turfed their dogs out to live in a natural state.

What a ridiculous post.

Are you stalking me 56? Why you little rascal. You've found me out. I really should release that dog I rescued from being beaten and starved and let it out into the wild, with all the other beasties. Of course with the medical problems it has due to its previous mistreatment it won't last long, but at least it won't be held hostage. As for it peeing on command Hahahaha, try telling my floor that! 😆

I've never been stalked before. It's really not as exciting as I thought it would be. disappointed

My Christmas dinner was all veggie this year. Was ace. That said if we’d had some of my vegetable-hating relatives as guests I’d have worked some meat into it somehow, because who’d want guests to go hungry at Christmas dinner? Your MIL is weird.

Of course with the medical problems it has due to its previous mistreatment it won't last long

Is he pumped full of drugs too?