In all honesty, neither of us could decide whether or not she was BU
Eh, forgive me but in your OP and subsequent posts you seem to have a very clear opinion.
I said I'd put it up for debate/ discussion on here. Most people (including my friend & I) can see that there are two sides of a story and it's interesting to hear how other people react/feel in a similar situations.
Ah, I see. It was a purely intellectual exercise in empathy.
You keep referring to a 'bitchfest' but I wonder if you can quote anything I've said that proves that this ever took place between us?
I'm kind of assuming the conversation between you didn't go:
"My sister got engaged, she told us on Christmas Day!"
"Oh that's wonderful, how exciting, give her my love! What a lovely Christmas surprise!"
"Yeah, we're all so delighted for her, I'm so glad she told us when we were all together."
"You would be. But you know, shall I start a Mumsnet thread to see if anyone else might think it was rude? Purely because I know that that there are two sides of a story and it's interesting to hear how other people react/feel in similar situations?"
"Yes, that's a good idea!"
It's wild speculation, of course.
Genuine question - Have you been in this situation yourself?
I knew this was coming. After the 'you sound angry' drone, there's always 'I must have hit a nerve' and then 'tell me all about your life because I just can't accept that you think this thread is spiteful in its own right'.
I won't deny I'm actually kind of itching to answer that silly question, but it's not relevant and not worthy of a response. You will just have to wonder. At least I am leaving it open for you to believe my response is all because of my inner turmoil and not because this thread is just horrid.