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To ask what the worst experience of your life Is??

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K1092902 · 22/12/2017 01:02

Having a fucking awful time right now- just one thing after another. Please someone help me put things in perspective

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Octopus37 · 22/12/2017 20:20

I'm so sorry for everyone having such terrible times.

Watching my Mum die from leukemia, being in the room with her, she was sedated and it didn't work, seeing my Dad talk to her at the end, I'm crying typing this and I never talk about physically watching my Mum die and how we were all round her bed in the hospital, my Aunt and Uncle, Dad, Sister and BIL, it will always break my heart thinking about it nearly 16 years on and its the first time I have ever typed what happened.

When I received a phone call on 21st April 2014 to tell me that one of my best friends had died in her sleep, I didn't know how she had died and spent a few days being scared that she had taken her own life. She had a brain haermorrage.

Receiving a phone call to tell me that the paramedics were with my MIL at her flat, there were five of them and they hadn't managed to bring her round. Driving to the hospital with my DH and being told that she was dead. seeing her dead.

Being told when I was 24 that my Dad had cancer, it turned out they had made a mistake, fucking awful to say the least.

But, my experiences on here have been nothing compared to what a lot of people have been through.

So sorry again to people who have been though terrible things.

TheOtherGirl · 22/12/2017 20:41

In the space of 12 months I had a serious breast cancer scare. My Dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer. I suffered a miscarriage. We suffered a devastating house fire.

Looking back I just don't know how it didn't break me. But I've never sweated the small stuff since.

PortiaCastis · 22/12/2017 20:43

My Dad collapsing and dying in front of me, I couldn't save him

thedevilsmarshmallow · 22/12/2017 20:54

The death of a very close relative in a car crash and the ensuing long and complicated court case that followed.

NooNooHead · 22/12/2017 21:05

Over the past couple of years, I’ve pretty much had the worst experiences of my life one after the other... Having a head injury that fade me a mental breakdown after post concussion syndrome. Then getting an incurable drug induced involuntary movement disorder from an antipsychotic that was given as treatment to help me.

I’m pretty much ok with all of that now but have dealt with some hard stuff this year in the meantime: my DB died at aged 34 of cancer, and I had to watch him slowly waste away to nothing in a hospice bed before he passed away; going to his funeral was very moving but ultimately v crap; I had an ectopic pregnancy and surgery in March; then got told my contract wasn’t going to be renewed in August so have been out of work since.

But I am now 14 weeks pregnant with DC2 and looking forward to some brighter times hopefully.

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger and all that...HmmSad

amusedbush · 22/12/2017 21:07

Being relentlessly bulked by a group of girls from the age of 13 to 16. I was physically attacked several times, I had rumours spread about me and I was terrified to leave my house without my mum. I gained 50lbs in weight and my hair started falling out with the stress. I binge ate, self harmed and was put on antidepressants.

I recently received an invitation to my ten year high school reunion and I locked myself in the toilet at work to sob. I didn't realise I was still so badly affected by it.

amusedbush · 22/12/2017 21:07

BULLIED, not bulked Hmm

chandlersfraud · 22/12/2017 21:11

Hmmm feel pretty lucky so far in terms of massive life events like bereavement, relationship breakdown etc so fear that the worst is probably still to come.... nice thought!!

Still - have had some tough times.
Probably worst so far was slipping a disc in my neck. Such agony and frightening as didn't know what was happening initially. Took about 10 weeks to recover. 3 kids, youngest was 8 months so it was a really tough time but taught me to try not to take my body and health for granted.

NooNooHead · 22/12/2017 21:15

Pizza have a wonderful Christmas and masses of love and hugs, you deserve them so much CakeWineFlowersFlowersFlowers

PenelopeChipShop · 22/12/2017 21:23

After reading these mine doesn’t really compare I don’t think. But this year has been the worst of my life, for me. DH left me. Kids were 4 and just turned 1 at the time. I was heartbroken, shocked and possibly still suffering from PND at the time. We still need to sort out the divorce, I haven’t had the strength yet. I hope things can only get better. Sorry to hear this year has been harsh for you too OP x

Tara336 · 22/12/2017 21:23

Many things have happened but to find out someone who I thought was my friend was truely evil was one of the worst. To ask for her help, while she watched me breaking down and then find out she had in fact been in the background encouraging my abuser...

bigsighall · 22/12/2017 21:24

Flowers pizza.

LokiBear · 22/12/2017 21:40

A miscarriage at 13 weeks leafing to PTSD, quickly followed by my husband having an emotional affair. We had councilling, we put our marriage back together but there are times when I still really hate him for what her put me through.

Corcory · 22/12/2017 21:45

When I got the phone call to say that my brother and best friend had been killed in a motorbike accident. His wife was abroad on business, only he had know what fight she was coming in on the next day. Her sister had to sit all night in Heathrow meeting ever flight from that destination until she came off the flight as the airlines wouldn't tell her which flight she was on for security reasons!

Greensleeves · 22/12/2017 21:45

amusedbush :( bullying does so much damage, it makes my blood boil

SleepingBooty · 22/12/2017 21:46

My overdose and devastation of still being alive afterwards at the hospital.

20 years ago and it feels like it happened to someone else.

Allwashedup · 22/12/2017 21:47

Two times I have been on the verge of taking my own life and both times only divine intervention stopped me going through with it. Suicidal thoughts came back for a while recently but have now gone.
Many years ago I nearly went to prison for a stupid mistake which destroyed the promising career I once had.
And it may sound minor but having my elderly cat pts after a long battle with cancer and other illnesses. She was my best friend and I still cry for her.

Dontsayyouloveme · 22/12/2017 21:50

Visiting my mum in hospital when I was 11, not knowing she was going to die. The day she died i remember looking through the lounge door at the back of my dads head wondering why he didn’t come out to hug his children.

Watching my brother die three weeks from diagnosis of pancreatic cancer when he was just 46. The first visit, I just didn’t know what to say to him, the last one I told him I loved him and knew I’d never see him again. June 2013, just six weeks after my then husband buried his mum.

Jan 2016 finding out my then husband had had an affair, then August 2016, hearing that my sisters wife had fallen off her bike and the hospital then went on to discovere that she had a massive brain tumour in the entire right side of her brain. Waiting for the surgery and the results, to learn it was grade 3. She’s only 36 but is doing well but my heart breaks for my little sister 💔

Learning that same month my husband had returned to his gambling addiction because I was stressed.....

Ending the marriage in jan 2017 and having to deal with his vile narcisstic ways.... moving house, divorce and finding a new job....and still having to deal with vile ex due to DS.. how I’ve not had a mental breakdown I’m not sure..

Alexindisguise · 22/12/2017 21:52

Living with dh whilst he had a complete mental breakdown out of nowhere. He was seeing and hearing things, severe paranoia. It was truly terrifying. He doesn't remember most of it, I remember every minute.

Flowers to all those who have suffered and are still suffering.

youvegottobekidding · 22/12/2017 22:07

Being told by the police my 25 yr old brother had died in an RTA. I was 18, that was 26 yrs ago.

GlitterGlassEye · 22/12/2017 22:49

Oh pizza Sad. Not meaning to sound like a patronising arsehole but sometimes miracles do happen.

I think this thread is therapeutic in a way for the op as whilst the stories are heartbreaking, when you’re in a god awful time in your life, it’s easy to feel like life has purely singled you out and it’s a lonely punishment.

Flowers to each and everyone of you.

TabbyTigger · 22/12/2017 22:56

Such a sad thread, but also as OP said - helpful for perspective.

I would say mine was, age 9, losing both parents in a fire, and my best friend to cancer in the space of about a month and having to be split from all my siblings and moved about regularly for the few years that followed. It wasn’t long before Christmas either and that meant it was a long time before I could truly celebrate the holiday again.

On a positive - I like to think I at least got my low point out of the way early Smile would just have done anything for few more years with my parents and friend.

TabbyTigger · 22/12/2017 22:57

Flowers to everyone on this thread. So many brave people.

thegreylady · 22/12/2017 22:57

In order
My mum’s death
Dh2’s death (aged 45)
Dh1 having an affair with my best friend
Being diagnosed with breast cancer
However
My third marriage (nearly 30 years now) is happier than I ever dreamed
I have amazing children, stepchildren and grandchildren
I have some wonderful friends
After 11 years the cancer hasn’t recurred

Accountant222 · 22/12/2017 23:02

Tears are running down my face, I've been reading this thread for an hour unable to switch it off.

My heart goes out to you all xx