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To ask what the worst experience of your life Is??

269 replies

K1092902 · 22/12/2017 01:02

Having a fucking awful time right now- just one thing after another. Please someone help me put things in perspective

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Stickstickstick · 22/12/2017 01:04

Currently going through what I perceive to be the worst experience in my life so far, lost my grandfather and my partner left within a week of each other! Hope you are ok OP

StillMedusa · 22/12/2017 01:11

The horrific suicidal depression that descended when DC4 was born and wasn't ok. Wanting to have him adopted, convinced I could never cope(He has autism and Learning disability and phsyical disability) Him not smiling until he was over a year old...
The depression and sheer panic, lasted well over a year and it was a dark time in my life. Every other thing... losing my Dad etc pales into insignificance compared to how I felt back then.

I survived...and love him to bits ... 20 years on!

My Mantra was 'This too shall Pass' Because... it always does. Even of your world is never quite the same again...

RemainOptimistic · 22/12/2017 01:11

Thinking about sub Saharan Africa usually works for me. I feel damn lucky to have safe running water.

RedPandaMama · 22/12/2017 01:17

Probably this time last year.

Just found out I was pregnant at 20, still living with friends at uni and had only been with DP 6 months. Had never particularly liked kids and wanted to travel. My baby cousin was born very premature and died, I attended their memorial while I was about a month pregnant myself and no one knew. It was heartbreaking.
My family wouldn't be supportive (and barely spoke to me for 6 months after I told them) and I knew I'd have to work as well as finishing my degree in order to be able to afford to get a house to bring up my child in.
DP and I spent a weekend trying to work out what to do and decided to keep the baby. Can't even explain how glad I am we did.

A year on I have a 4 month old daughter and she has brought me happiness I never knew I could feel. Not every day is easy but every day is filled with tiny moments of wonder and amazement at how I could make such a perfect little thing. She's so funny and just amazing and I feel so so lucky and will never take her for granted.
Still haven't seen my auntie since DD was born and I still feel guilty that I have my child while my cousin passed away, but I won't forget her and think about her every day.

RedPandaMama · 22/12/2017 01:18

Mine is ultimately a happy story but it really was an awful time, I've never felt so confused or alone or scared.

Hope you're okay OP and so sorry for the time you're going through Stick. X

Original poster
K1092902 · 22/12/2017 01:21

Thank you everyone one

2017 has been a tough year here. What makes it worse is that even at my age (33) I still don't know who my true friends are 😣

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Queenofthedrivensnow · 22/12/2017 01:33

2 crash c sections. Ok so the second one wasn't as bad but by that time I had left abusive exh. I was scared of having another section with dd2 because the first one made me so weak I didn't think I could physically protect myself or the kids. Safeguarding mw didn't want to discharge me she was so worried.

TheHodgeHeg · 22/12/2017 01:33

My mother in law dying. She didn't get to see us get married, won't meet her grandchildren, FIL is heartbroken etc. I miss her terribly but know there's literally nothing we can do to change our situation. It just feels so hopeless.

Twinkleheth · 22/12/2017 01:41

Saturday morning 9th November 2013 having a lie in - around 9am my husband waking me to say he couldn’t get my 19 year old son to wake up. Andrew had passed away in his sleep due to an undiagnosed heart condition. His 3 younger sisters were all right there as paramedics confirmed he was dead, police and funeral director arrived etc. So that was the absolute worst day of my life, and every day since has changed forever. I do hope you are ok OP. I’ve been very badly hurt by so called friends too - it’s crushing.

PomBearWithAnOFRS · 22/12/2017 01:43

I died. On my living room floor, while my husband and 4 of my 5 children watched and cried.
I got lucky, I am one of the pretty small percentage of people who have a heart attack and cardiac arrest and get zapped back to life with the defibrilator and recover with minimal effects.

TheFormidableMrsC · 22/12/2017 01:44

Losing my mum relatively young (60) was horrendous. I hate what she's missed out on, DD was only four. There have been more grandchildren since. She has left a gaping hole in our lives and my family has never been the same since. Following that, my husband leaving me with an autistic two year old for the only person I've met in my entire life that I actually hated immediately. Sixth sense? Who knows. Four years on, the scars of the cruelty they put us through run so deep, I wonder if I will ever be the same person I was before. I realise many suffer much much worse things, awful tragedies but we all have experiences that cause immense distress.

I hope things improve for you OP Flowers

DeathByMascara · 22/12/2017 01:44

My darling Dad being diagnosed with leukaemia last summer. His relapse in September after a bone marrow transplant. His death two days ago.

I don’t know what I’m going to do without him. He was so wonderful.

harrypotternerd · 22/12/2017 01:46

I live in Australia and yesterday in Melbourne, a man ran down 16 people including a preschool aged child in the city. It is horrendous.

PointlessUsername · 22/12/2017 01:47

Twinkleheth Flowers

TheFormidableMrsC · 22/12/2017 01:47

Twinkleheth I can't even begin to imagine how horrific that must have been. I shall give my little lad an extra kiss before sleep in a minute. How life can change in the blink of an eye. I am so sorry for your loss Flowers

DaisysStew · 22/12/2017 01:47

Finding my beautiful sister after she hung herself. Having to call my mum and tell her and then going back and having to formally id her the next day. It haunts me.

BulletFox · 22/12/2017 01:51

DeathbyMascara yeah it's shit. Hope you're getting on ok.

yorkshireyummymummy · 22/12/2017 01:57

I can't decide if it was burying my son or when I realised my best friend of thirty years had stolen tens of thousands off me through a joint business venture and dragged me and mine round the world to do it. She left us penniless and homeless . The hurt from both never leaves me and I feel utterly alone.

GypsieQueen · 22/12/2017 02:02

The worst experience of my life was infertility and having to deal with the fact I might never had a child. I had blocked tubes, suffered several ectopic pregnancies and my only hope was ivf. I suffered years of intense emotional pain and suffering as i was so desparate for a baby. At age 39 and my partner having poor sperm, the chances of ivf working weren't very good to say the least. By some total miracle it worked first time and I now have a beautiful, happy, loving and healthy two and a half year old daughter.

CheeseyToast · 22/12/2017 02:15

K10 I'm not convinced that competitive tales of suffering will be helpful to you. Usually what people need, no matter the cause of their pain, is time and support. With firm and longstanding support, a person can get through an awful lot. Without any, the plainest day can be hard to bear.

Do you want to tell us more?

GuiltyandHeartbrokenmum · 22/12/2017 02:19

The stories here are so sad. My heart particularly goes out to Twinkleheth, Daisystew and yorkshireyummymummy. Sending everyone Flowers

tobee · 22/12/2017 02:35

Waking up at 2a.m at 37 weeks pregnant, blue light to hospital, giving birth to my still born daughter at 7 that morning, 20 years ago.

But, it's unlikely I would have had my 28 year old ds. Which I can't imagine. Sometimes I'm greedy and think I would have been fine having all three of my children here right now.

Still love you Hermione. X

tobee · 22/12/2017 02:36

18 year old ds. Not 28.

endofthelinefinally · 22/12/2017 02:39

When the police came to tell me my son had been found dead.

NKFell · 22/12/2017 02:39

I agree with a PP I don't think it will be perspective you need as such because we all know deep down that someone else will have it worse than us- putting a news channel on can provide that. However that doesn't necessarily make you feel better or hurt any less. If you're hurt, you're hurt if you know what I mean.

Talking and being supported is usually what you need. If you don't have that irl then I'm sure plenty of MNers would be happy to help, they've helped me in the past.