To ask when you started having Xmas at your own home?

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This is first Xmas for us with a baby and I'd quite like to spend it with just DH and DC.

MIL however would be livid - she loves to do the whole shebang (which I am really not into). DH will just go along with what she plans.

So at what point did you stop going to parents/in-laws for Xmas and have your own? How did they take it? When did you tell them? Did anyone's partners/husbands/wives not want to and you had to battle for it?

We alternated my parents and my in laws from when we got engaged. They live 6 hours away from each other so it’s either or! We hosted for 2 years (1 for each side) then went back for 2 years (this being the last) since we’ve had dd so they’ve both hosted their dgd for 1 Xmas. I’m due another next year and we’ve said ours for the forseable and we will host alternatively (though may ask my dad to cook next year when we have a toddler and baby!).

Christmas Day with my family, Boxing Day with in laws (or vice versa) every year until last year when they all came to us for the first time... that was very stressful 😂