To ask how old you were when you add your last child?

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I’m 39 next month. Would love another child but need IVF. Send me your stories to give me hope that I’m not too old and it will work!

I had my last at 50 with a donated egg as well as sperm, and have no regrets at all. I currently have a delightful and very happy 6 year old. I also have 4 young adult children who play a big part in the family.

IVF at your age using your own eggs is a very long shot indeed. I haven't found that it's mattered at all that my last baby wasn't from my own egg. He's still very much mine.

Sorry posted too soon, a couple of friends late 30's have had pregnancies through IVF which has been so lovely for them. Good luck OP

5 days before my 44th birthday.

37, my first and last.

Yanbu.

I had my third at 27, but only because I had my first at 20 and decided I wanted babies out of the way so I could focus on career from 30 onwards.

If I hadn’t have become pregnant so young to begin with, I think I’d have waited until 32/33 to start and have 3 in as quick a succession as I could

43 a surprise 3rd after 7 years. Its been fantastic-easiest of the 3 n we all cracked about her! we can forget about early retirement though :)

First at 25 last at 28.

I don’t think anyone in my circle of friends had babies younger than their 30s. Many are still having babies in their early 40s - some natural, some with help. In my NCT group, 4 if us had our 40th birthday before our babies were 1. I hate that so many women are made to feel anxious unnecesarily about their fertility in their late 20s and early 30s. (I know some have a real reason to be concerned) On the other hand don’t leave it too late. Perimenopausal is not a good time to try and conceive your first.

Oh and ivf at 39 using your own eggs is not a long shot. It’s the norm.

@ Almost 42

I had a patient deliver in her 50's a while ago.
Lovely family. :)

Oh wow uterus how wonderful.

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Thank you @Cyclingforcake for the reassurance!

And thanks to everyone who has wished me luck.

I agree with Cyclingforcake
Our IVF consultant (at the Lister if you're interested) said that at my age, 39, with one previous child and decent AMH that I had pretty good chances - about 1 in 3 (that's about as good as it gets in IVF) and that most patients there were well into 40s or older. I was young relatively speaking, for a private ivf patient or so they told me.

3rd and last at 39.

A PP said that being an older mum might mean she won't get to meet her grandchildren.

This is a concern for me as both my mum and maternal grandmother died in their early 60s. It's a massive regret my mum isn't around to know her grandchildren.

A friend had her first at 46. I think having a teenager in your 60s might be tough.....

What's AMH?

It might be easier, more patience, a more laid back view having been there, seen it done it. It all depends on the child and so many other factors, age guarantees nothing.

33 for my first and only so far. One of my closest friends will be 41 with her last-- she is currently pregnant with her 2nd. She was 38 with her first. Good luck!

I was 39 and had IVF, well ICSI actually, it’s got more chance of success. Not a long shot by any means. Good luck OP.

First at just 30, third (a few weeks ago) at just 36. I seem to have had my children earlier than most people I know, though. Many are just starting now in their mid 30s or later. My friend had her last (IVF, donated egg) at 48.

As an aside, my partner is a fair few years older than me and we have been incredibly lucky in conceiving 4 times (had 1 early mc) in a total of 5 months of trying ever. He was 48 the last time.

Good luck, OP.

I had my last child one month before my 40th

I was 26. Dh would like one more but I'm 30 next month and feel my child bearing days are over.

Currently pregnant with second and hopefully last (I find pregnancy a challenge) aged 36 - will be 3 months shy of 37 when s/he arrives.

So I'm not very remarkable - however my gran had her 7th at 40, and her mother had her ninth at 45.

Anecdotally 40+ pregnancies seem to be quite common (my ancestors are extreme examples). Wishing you all the luck in the world