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Original poster

Anyone remember the Flexi-time CF?

885 replies

Abouttoblow · 09/12/2017 20:12

Thought I'd heard the last of her but unfortunately not. Colleague who left her job due to cheeky fuckery with her flexi-time for those of you who missed the first instalment.

I'm moving between fuming, embarrassed and incredulous at the moment. I've also laughed but I think that's shock more than anything Smile
DH and I were out for the afternoon at a Christmas market. Had a lovely day and stopped at an coffee shop with tables outside before coming home.
We'd been there about 10 minutes when I noticed a group of ladies in their 60's a few tables away and one of them was staring straight at me. I didn't recognise her and carried on with chatting with DH. I noticed her again when all her friends started turning round to have a look. I didn't know any of them.
I'm starting to think she may be someone I'd been in contact with in a work capacity as she is looking quite angry. As I said in the original thread I work with children/families and I have been approached by people previously who have been angry and upset. Only a couple of times though.
I continue to ignore it and we're getting ready to leave. DH goes inside to pay and use the loo and the minute he does this lady gets up and comes over, with her takeaway coffee cup in her hand. I can tell by her face it's not going to be a pleasant chat.
She asks if I'm pleased with myself and I say "I'm sorry, I don't know who you are". She says she's FTCF's mother and who do I think I am to refuse her daughter a reference! Do I realise I've ruined her career and I should be ashamed of myself. Everyone is looking now and I don't want to get into it so I just say she really doesn't have all the information.
She then takes the lid off her coffee and empties it into my fucking handbag on the table and walks off!!!!
I'm absolutely gobsmacked Shock
I'm home now and want to call FTCF and give her a mouthful but DH is trying to talk me out of it.
Maybe I should just have a large G&T Gin

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3023633-To-make-an-official-complaint-about-colleague

OP posts:
StrangeLookingParasite · 09/12/2017 21:57

"Actions have consequences. I'm so angry right now. My mum was out for a day with her friends and it was ruined because of you. You think you're always right but I wish you'd think about how your actions affect other people. My mother is upset which upsets me and that is having an effect on my DC. How dare you!"

Jeez Louise, the whole family's unhinged.

MarmiteandToast · 09/12/2017 21:58

I feel furious on your behalf OP! I hope it gets sorted

I'd go to police too I think

Original poster
Abouttoblow · 09/12/2017 22:00

OtherClass It's a black Kipling so it's all soaked in Smile

OP posts:
LavenderDoll · 09/12/2017 22:00

Definitely the right thing to do reporting
They sound bloody awful

Geepee71 · 09/12/2017 22:01

Wow, not only would I report this, I'd throw in about the text from ftcf too!

justbinthefeckinbyebyebox · 09/12/2017 22:01

Wow, isn't she a moron leaving an email trial!

Report, report, report.

Good on cafe owner with cctv and pcso too!!!

GinFlowersCake for all of this stress op

CheshireChat · 09/12/2017 22:04

clicky link

DeathByMascara · 09/12/2017 22:06

Report! You poor thing, I know it’s not exactly physical assault but I’d be really shaken! Glad you’ve reported.

butterfly56 · 09/12/2017 22:07

Hi OP
I remember reading your other thread and was new to MN and lost the thread so never saw the latest updates regarding her leaving...so just been through and read it all again!

So glad that you and your colleagues no longer have to put up with her.

I am really sorry that you have had to go through this with her bat shit crazy mother and daughter.

You are doing absolutely the right thing in reporting it and the fact that there is CCTV footage...they have both shot themselves in the foot.
They deserve everything that's coming their way.

Flowers
fairgame84 · 09/12/2017 22:09

The pair of them are batshit.
Hope you're ok OP it must have been a shock Flowers

reallyorange · 09/12/2017 22:09

I can't believe i missed the original thread, just read the whole thing Shock
One thing stuck with me from it (sorry, not really relevant any more) but I can't believe the amount of 'tracking' that was potentially available (re 'auditing' the flexi time) which would indicate the org really did care about people working when they said they were - which is quite at odds with her/her manager's attitude?!

As for this latest mad situation, how did she know what you looked like?!

GreenTulips · 09/12/2017 22:10

Dear me!!

Yes report her - people like her and her family just won't take any responsibility for their own lives/actions

Both equally unhinged

CatsCatsCats11 · 09/12/2017 22:11

Report her they are batshit crazy.

AndersArms · 09/12/2017 22:11

Another vote for report OP. Batshit, the pair of them.

londonrach · 09/12/2017 22:11

Report to pokice in case something else happens and small claims for your bag. Enjoy the gin

londonrach · 09/12/2017 22:12

Police

reallyorange · 09/12/2017 22:12

sorry just read your updates -she's unhinged! Can you tell her this is affecting mumsnetters which is affecting thousands of poor children?!

Original poster
Abouttoblow · 09/12/2017 22:15

Really Without going into too much detail the tracking facility is relatively recent so she's probably one of the first people that have been outed by it.
Her mum has been in the office a couple of times but we live in a large town rather than a city so she could have seen me in Tesco or something and pointed me out to her.

OP posts:
HotelEuphoria · 09/12/2017 22:16

What if she had poured the coffee on your head instead of the bag. You could have been scarred for life.

dentalplanlisaneedsbraces · 09/12/2017 22:17

Fucking hell. The police need to tell her and her mother to leave you alone and never contact you again! They are harassing you. They are both completely unhinged!

MyOtherProfile · 09/12/2017 22:19

Wow that's horrible. She needs stopping before she causes more damage.

MrsMotherHen · 09/12/2017 22:19

What a cheeky mare! I just read the other thread aswell Shock

WasDoingFine · 09/12/2017 22:20

Are you reporting it tonight? I also think it needs to be on record even if charges are not brought against her - simply to safe guard yourself against any future issues in your professional life.

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Hippobottymus · 09/12/2017 22:24

Just RTFT's. Batshit crazy family. I've met families like this, they will never believe they are in the wrong.