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Anyone remember the Flexi-time CF?

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Abouttoblow · 09/12/2017 20:12

Thought I'd heard the last of her but unfortunately not. Colleague who left her job due to cheeky fuckery with her flexi-time for those of you who missed the first instalment.

I'm moving between fuming, embarrassed and incredulous at the moment. I've also laughed but I think that's shock more than anything Smile
DH and I were out for the afternoon at a Christmas market. Had a lovely day and stopped at an coffee shop with tables outside before coming home.
We'd been there about 10 minutes when I noticed a group of ladies in their 60's a few tables away and one of them was staring straight at me. I didn't recognise her and carried on with chatting with DH. I noticed her again when all her friends started turning round to have a look. I didn't know any of them.
I'm starting to think she may be someone I'd been in contact with in a work capacity as she is looking quite angry. As I said in the original thread I work with children/families and I have been approached by people previously who have been angry and upset. Only a couple of times though.
I continue to ignore it and we're getting ready to leave. DH goes inside to pay and use the loo and the minute he does this lady gets up and comes over, with her takeaway coffee cup in her hand. I can tell by her face it's not going to be a pleasant chat.
She asks if I'm pleased with myself and I say "I'm sorry, I don't know who you are". She says she's FTCF's mother and who do I think I am to refuse her daughter a reference! Do I realise I've ruined her career and I should be ashamed of myself. Everyone is looking now and I don't want to get into it so I just say she really doesn't have all the information.
She then takes the lid off her coffee and empties it into my fucking handbag on the table and walks off!!!!
I'm absolutely gobsmacked Shock
I'm home now and want to call FTCF and give her a mouthful but DH is trying to talk me out of it.
Maybe I should just have a large G&T Gin

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3023633-To-make-an-official-complaint-about-colleague

OP posts:
HotelEuphoria · 09/12/2017 20:58

You must report if only for the police to go round and have a word tomorrow. She can't get away with this.

BettyBooJustDoinTheDoo · 09/12/2017 21:01

Agree with Amatree

ny20005 · 09/12/2017 21:02

I would report it to police just in case she tries anything else !!!

Enjoy your gin Ginx

ItsNachoCheese · 09/12/2017 21:03

Holy christ shes crazy Xmas Shock

dentalplanlisaneedsbraces · 09/12/2017 21:04

Yes definitely report it. She's probably all happy with herself. She won't be for long if she gets a visit from police.

Geepee71 · 09/12/2017 21:06

Another one agreeing that you need to report this, if for no other reason for it to be recorded, esp if anything else happens. (Which is hopefully unlikely).

dingdongdigeridoo · 09/12/2017 21:08

She must have got her entitled CF behaviour from her mother. What a cow. I hope you take this further!

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 09/12/2017 21:09

How on earth did CFs mother know who you were? Shock Has CF been surreptitiously taking photos of you or something?

NoSquirrels · 09/12/2017 21:10

Poor you, OP! Have another Gin on me.

I think report too. You can always say you don’t wish to take it further but I bet police would pay a visit even if no further action taken. Tell your employer too.

Original poster
Abouttoblow · 09/12/2017 21:15

ItsAll Her mother had been in the office a couple of times. I'm surprised she recognised me as I hadn't a clue who she was. Unless FTCF has maybe pointed me out to her I have no idea how would know who I am.

OP posts:
Fluffycloudland77 · 09/12/2017 21:18

I'd report it to the police. And I'd press charges.

SpaghettiAlphabetti · 09/12/2017 21:18

How awful OP. She sounds completely bonkers.

Trouble is she will have believed everything her daughter has said and has probably given the impression that everyone was taking time off for personal appointments without making the time up etc.

Ravenesque · 09/12/2017 21:20

I agree with everyone who says report it to the police. What she did was outrageous.

BewareOfDragons · 09/12/2017 21:23

Well, the sense of cheeky fuckery is strong in that family!

I'd report it to the police. Let them have a word with her.

Jaxhog · 09/12/2017 21:24

Do report it to the police, on the basis that they will then have a record should things go further.

No question though, it was totally outrageous, quite bonkers and not a little aggressive.

AnathemaPulsifer · 09/12/2017 21:25

Lucky there wasn't a smartphone in your bag Shock

tampinfuminragin · 09/12/2017 21:27

Does anyone have a link to the original thread?

greenlanes · 09/12/2017 21:27

please report it to the police but you should also let your employer know.

FruitCider · 09/12/2017 21:30

DEFINITELY report this to the police and your employer, I don’t know the back story but this in itself is bad enough! X

Original poster
Abouttoblow · 09/12/2017 21:35

Decision made to report it for 2 reasons.
DH just got a call from a friend. Owner of coffee shop had contacted him as one of the staff recognised my DH and knew they were friends. My DH runs a business so is known locally. Coffee shop owner has said staff reported it to him and he has it all on CCTV and will save it. He also mentioned it to community police officer who was there at the market. They made a note of it apparently.
Other, and most important reason, FTCF has text my work phone 10 minutes ago.
"Actions have consequences. I'm so angry right now. My mum was out for a day with her friends and it was ruined because of you. You think you're always right but I wish you'd think about how your actions affect other people. My mother is upset which upsets me and that is having an effect on my DC. How dare you!"
Jesus Christ!!!

OP posts:
Foxysoxy01 · 09/12/2017 21:36

You really should report this.

What awful behaviour! how can she think that it's ok to behave in that way Shock

If you feel like you can I think it would be worth teaching her a lesson that she cannot behave in that way by reporting her and pressing charges.

AnathemaPulsifer · 09/12/2017 21:38

How terrible for her poor mum, being forced to attack you in front of her friends like that ShockShockShock

HashiAsLarry · 09/12/2017 21:38

Probably time to show her that actions do have consequences.

Seems like the crazy runs deep in that family.

PPs have suggested bringing this up with your company, as that text came on your work number it would be wise to make a point with them too. You may not be the only one.

oldmums · 09/12/2017 21:39

i think you should report this to the police xxx Then have a large G+t xx

MyrandaRoyce · 09/12/2017 21:39

You are absolutely making the right decision to report it.
Can you also report the contact to your work phone to HR / your line manager? And block her number so she can’t contact you again!