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CF Friend & the antique ram castrator Part 2

504 replies

SilverBirchTree · 08/12/2017 23:03

New thread, will update when I hear from DH of CF

OP posts:
diddl · 09/12/2017 13:19

Would you ever be seeing/contacting the FIL, Op to see if he really has it?

RockinHippy · 09/12/2017 13:20

Love the title 😂

yawning801 · 09/12/2017 13:25

How do you nominate for Classics? Grin

BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 09/12/2017 13:38

My understanding of CFDH comment that she will calm down and want to be friends again is that CF is currently incandescently ranting about how awful OP is and hates her guts, but eventually CF will need a favour or will find a use for the OP and at that point all will be forgotten and CF will 'forgive' the OP. If previous MN CFs are anything to go by the 'forgiveness' will take the form of a message from the CF to the OP saying that she will let bygones be bygones if the OP just apologises. Grin

Aeroflotgirl · 09/12/2017 13:39

Ha ha serves CF right, so she will be getting coal for Christmas. No more than she deserves.

Doofletch · 09/12/2017 13:40

So pleased it got where it was supposed to go in the end. Even more pleased that you made some pennies from it AND it came from her handbag fund. That's just the icing on the cake really!
I'm not overly petty but given her attitude to the whole thing I would be happy to have inconvenienced her and wouldn't rush back to picking up that friendship at all.
Well done for sticking to your guns OP and enjoy the new baby.

TammySwansonTwo · 09/12/2017 13:44

Just been reading through everything - I am Shock

I can't get my head round this. Recently I had a clear out of my twins outgrown clothes and listed them on a local twin selling site, arbitrarily sticking what seemed like fair prices on things, not remembering where most stuff came from as I bought loads of mixed lots of clothes etc.

I got a really upsetting message from a woman accusing me of screwing her over by listing things I'd bought from her for substantially more than I'd paid, and how unfair it was to do this to twin mum's who are already struggling. I was so upset - I messaged back apologising profusely as it wasn't intentional, and still got back really upsetting responses.

When I looked into it, she was talking about 4 pairs of dungarees which altogether I was selling for £2 more than I'd paid. Seriously. I was so annoyed. I messaged to tell her this and she responded "thanks for letting me know". No apology.

I was having a really awful day and her first messages had made me cry - for the sake of £2.

No way on earth would I ever behave this way. I have sold gifts that were given to me once I'd gotten use out of them but never trying to make a profit. She is vile and I wouldn't want anything to do with her after this! Her poor FIL

SchadenfreudePersonified · 09/12/2017 13:50

She has a newborn, that in itself is time consuming, and she seems to be having a life too

Oh, come on! She can't have a newborn AND a life believe me I know Grin

I'm glad the ending is one that the OP is happy with. I know a lot of us would have liked to see CF friend dragged naked over broken glass behind a raging hippopotamus, but we can't always have what we want in life.
I choose to believe that CFDH is telling the truth - that he was so incensed that CF had robbed HIS DAD, that he confronted her and threatened to push rabid wombats up her jumper if she didn't take down the listing. And that he then said "Okay, Sheila (because it is well-known FACT that all Aussie women are called Sheila) To make sure that you don't twist me Dad's arm to get this back, I'm giving it to him as a prezzie from the ankle-biters - and to keep it legal, I'm gonna match your top bid of $400,and give that to your bessie mate, and hope that she still is your bezzie mate after all this. And by the way - that posh handbag you were getting for Chrissy - forget it! There's a set of Apostle Teaspoons on E-bay - noticed whenI looked at the bids. They cost $15. Do you want them wrapped individually or inna box?"

And as he's walking off to make the bank transfer "I still think yer bonza - but don't do it again, right?"

Mind, if I was the OP i would never be able to have the same relationship again with this person, even if I decided to let bygones be bygones for the sake the blokes.

notapizzaeater · 09/12/2017 13:57

Good you got resolution, how he expects you to be friends after this ??? Madness .....

SchadenfreudePersonified · 09/12/2017 14:00

I'm a bit disappointed that the item hasn't been donated to a museum

As a founder member of the Salford Ram Castrators Guild (and Allied Trades) I am also disappointed about this. Our planned tour of the antipodes to exchange Ram Castrating Tips with our Aussie Brethren and - er - Sistren would have been greatly enriched if we had had the opportunity to view this in all it's glory, perhaps with a set of wax test-icicles in situ to show it in use.

Never mind. I suppose we'll just have to do what we originally intended - get ratted every night and sing bawdy songs.

hollowtree · 09/12/2017 14:02

Hooray!! I can resume my life again hahaha well done OP so glad of this outcome for you

DownTheChimney · 09/12/2017 14:02

your "friend" is a lying thieving bitch and I wouldn't have anything to do with her ever again

Hear, hear.
I just hope the fil did get it though I very much doubt it

MillennialFalcon · 09/12/2017 14:03

I'm glad there's been some resolution. Hopefully since CF told you herself that her DH is upset with her behaviour, he did actually give the item to his father, which would be a good outcome because it's reached the intended recipient and you're not out of pocket. Of course there is a chance it had already been sold and he was covering her tracks but I can see why you don't want to pursue that. At the end of the day this has already taken up a lot of your time and energy. At least you have received some money for the item, although I know it's not about the money it's the principle but you shouldn't be left out of pocket for doing something nice. It's hard to be 100% sure what happened given the history but I hope her DH was sincere in his desire to make things right. I think he's naïve to expect you to be friends again though. Being cordial is fine and frankly more than CF deserves.

treacletoffee23 · 09/12/2017 14:05

Ive read both threads whilst my house decays around me! So pleased OP. I hope FiL is thrilled.
I cannot get the image out of my head as CF being Gollum , but instead of The Ring, she is clutching an antique castrator as "My Precious"Grin

expatinscotland · 09/12/2017 14:05

Yeah, take the money and run. Glad the scales have fallen from your eyes, though, because she's a career pisstaker. Next time you get someone telling you about how they get their h to fake propose to get a freebie from a restaurant, you know to keep them at arm's length because this isn't how normal people behave, how cringeworthy.

sizenines · 09/12/2017 14:09

You may have been played once again, OP. CF would not have been able to go on with her schemes without CGDH at least turning a blind eye to her activities. I think you have been bought off. Nothing less that handing FIL the device as a present from you would ensure that he actually receives it.

If you still care by now Grin

PhuntSox · 09/12/2017 14:27

She has sold it!

strawberrisc · 09/12/2017 14:30

Yet again another thread that I come to late and have gorged on like a Netflix box-set!

MiddleClassProblem · 09/12/2017 14:30

I don’t think she’s sold it. She would have put a higher reserve on.

scotchpie · 09/12/2017 14:35

They have absolutely sold this for a
higher price and think they are doing you a favour by offering a payment.

I'd be surprised if DFIL has any knowledge of this item!

CF definitely done a number on her DH and talked him round.

MiddleClassProblem · 09/12/2017 14:37

But wouldn’t they think OP might mention it to FIL at some point “once they’ve made up”?

TammySwansonTwo · 09/12/2017 14:40

Just make sure you ask FIL about it when you see him (if they ever let you near him again that is) - i have a horrible feeling he still doesn't even know it exists.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 09/12/2017 14:52

Brilliant, Schadenfreude - though actually I'd have preferred her to be dragged behind one of those trusty, offroad outback vehicles. They go so much faster than hippopotami, you see

Come to think of it, why is a fancy instrument need to castrate rams, antique or otherwise? I'd have thought you only needed a pair of shears ... Wink

Cagliostro · 09/12/2017 14:58

I hope you can ask FIL if he got it. Really hope it's true that they gave him it :) nice that you got some money anyway.

MillennialFalcon · 09/12/2017 15:01

MiddleClassProblem

Yes, that's what confused me. I was thinking CF might have sold the item but in that case they'd keep OP at arm's length to avoid her ever interacting with FIL again so the offer of continuing the friendship in the future made me unsure. It's so hard to tell what people like that are thinking or what they really mean!