CF Friend & the antique ram castrator Part 2

[SilverBirchTree]

New thread, will update when I hear from DH of CF

Ah I'm delighted that the fil got it in the end and like what you originally intended - he was delighted and chuffed

I think that's a good outcome, good on DH of CF - the CF didn't get off scot-free - she's down on her handbag fund! It sounds like you and DH are friends with CF and DH of CF so I hope you make up your friendship if she can apologise.

Gosh hasn't CF scored an own goal? OP was prepared to give it to her FIL so if she'd just passed it on as agreed, she would've been £250 better off (or her DH would anyway)

It sounds like her FIL hadn't even seen it, as he was thrilled and got a buddy round to look at it.

TBH silver I'm not sure how your friendship can really recover from this because this episode would always be in the back of my mind. She's lied, she's exaggerated, she's deceived. I'd never feel the same way again

Thank you for the update OP for keeping us updated whilst dealing with your day to day RL. Glad this has been resolved but the cynic in me still thinks that they have sold it for more than this and are paying you 'hush' money. Either way, treat yourselves to something lovely.

I think it is a great ending and I hope FIL sends you a thank you card. Then all 'facts' will be confirmed.

I’m so pleased that the FIL has got his intended present and is happy - that must have almost made all this worthwhile.

Mind you, they are GOOOOD! Payment a done deal with no negotiation, antique ram castrator gifted to DF so you had no option but to accept their cheekily low offer. Gift no doubt couched as a generous and thoughtful gift from them. Nope, I would not want to resume this friendship.

I hope what you've been told is true.

Oh, and I totally agree with you about giving updates in your own time, I'm actually shocked at some of the comments from people on here. Heaven forbid you actually have a life and things to do outside of mumsnet.

These were very compelling threads, Silver. Up there with Mexican House Thief for sheer levels of CF-ery.

Definitely ones for the Classics, too.

That's a great ending. FIL got the item as you wanted and you got a decent chunk of money for it.

CF DH probably felt it was too generous a gift for you to give him, so him giving you money for it overcame this. And proved a point to CF.

Are you sure he gave it to his dad?

I'd still be sceptical about this BUT, all other things being equal and assuming he DID give the item to his dad, it's a good outcome.

The OP has said the Ebay listing is down, for those still asking.

'if it makes you feel any better' is a massive guilt trip, but fuck em.

He said CF will calm down and want to resume our friendship, and he hoped I felt the same way. Again, fuck em. I wouldn't want a 'friend' like this, especially after the abusive email.

But good on you, OP, and thanks for the update.

But I would never be able to trust this CF ever again. As far as friendship goes, that'll be a no from me.

Yay that FIL got it! And you got the guilt money too lol

Sounds a fantastic outcome - FIL has the object, they’ve given you some money in recognition of the generosity and CF has paid a price. Very glad to hear it!

It really is a lesson for CF - if she'd just given the item to FIL, he'd have been happy, she'd still have a 'handbag fund', OP would have been happy...

As it is, CF has lost £250 of her own money.

As it should be. Justice is served.

That's an excellent outcome! FIL gets the item and is chuffed, You get cash you weren't expecting, and CF gets taken down a peg by her DH. Go SilverBirchTree, aha AntiqueRamCastratorWoman :)

Yay that the dad got it in the end and was thrilled with it - that's the main thing!

That's a great ending to a difficult story. Thank you for the update! How nice of the husband to pay you for it, too, and to go out of his way to make things right. I hope the FIL will really enjoy it.

Glad there was an outcome by the time I got to read all this!

If I were you, I'd ask for a pic of the FIL with his gift, as a thank you to you for finding it for him.

It's not that I entirely disbelieve DH of CF's story, but they have rather shortchanged you on the item, without even asking. So there's a chance they will still sell it on, now they've paid you something for it. They'll probably wait til after Christmas and re-list it on ebay.

It would be even nicer if the FIL would get in touch with you directly, but that may never happen - so I'd go for the "could I have a photo of him with it please?" option.

I'd still hold her at arm's length.

Oh!! Forgot to say the most important bit - your "friend" is a lying thieving bitch and I wouldn't have anything to do with her ever again.

Almost a perfect outcome, you get money as if you sold it and it still gets to the intended recipient. Also sounds like the husband is ashamed enough of her behaviour to make her suffer a bit too

Sorry you have to go through this all and hopefully you can get back to enjoying Xmas

You need to speak with FIL in person to see how he liked his gift.