Mothers with enormous toddlers in slings...

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AIBU to wonder how the feck they manage?

My neighbour has just walked past my window with her son dangling in front of her like a bloody giant in a harness!

He's almost 4! No SEN and very sturdy/capable.

We live in a tiny town/village and she can drive etc....she's probably just going to the shop down the road.

Why??

With 4 year olds, the sling is kept in your handbag and comes out when your child is tired after walking a long way and starts shuffling and sitting down. A sling is far more comfortable and secure than carrying the toddler on your shoulders. Also handy for when you've spent the day sightseeing and your 4 year old is exhausted and the bus doesn't turn up on time and you realise you need to walk for half an hour at a brisk pace for an adult in order to catch the only train back to other side of the country for which your ticket is valid.

I sold my sling when my toddler turned 2, wish I hadn’t now- I carry him allot and my ergo would’ve been a much better option! I know allot of people still use prams at 4 ( I don’t mind- I seem to just do the carry like pop eye instead) so no different to a pram- just easier to get around shops I suppose and prob quicker!

I work full time and have to get my 4 year old to nursery in the mornings. He often refuses to walk and I don’t have time to argue. I therefore put him on my back and carry him. Not ideal, but I do it out of necessity. I think it’s a case of minding your own business.

There are some serious bitches on this website. Get lives and stop bitchin about what other people do with their kids. Or maybe your jealous of their lives.

You massive twat jakeyboy

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I remember an old man coming up to my mother when she had my sister wrapped like this, grabbing her arm and saying -

'Nice to see someone still doing it Welsh fashion bach! Not like all those bloody PRAMS, lying them down like fish in a bucket!!!'

This would have been in about 1972 or 1973

That lady would have been used to gradual weight increases. She's not just suddenly decided to carry her 4 year old in a wrap. FYI, in a good wrap, in a good tie ie moby wrap, the child would be virtually weightless. It's not damaging her back at all, strengthening her stomach muscles yes, but not hurting her at all.

loveyoutimminchin I was referring to houseworkisasin who was carping on about how it 'looks', as if that has anything to do with it, and it seeming that there's a lot of people preoccupied with keeping up appearances on this thread. I do judge people, I'm only human, but generally for behaviour (eg smacking or screaming at a child), not for something loving and harmless and not for how someone looks! It baffles me!

I would say that 4 is too old for such mollycoddling but perhaps there was a good reason, maybe the child was under the weather. Walking is good exercise, too many children today are obese. But why all the nasty negative responses to what was just an observation for discussion? The OP didn’t shout at the mother to put him down.

I haven't been able to put my boy in a baby carrier since he was 11 months lol, he was too big and heavy, I have a photo of us last time I tried it, he's like goliath. Wouldn't even attempt it now he's 4

Yes seriously why?? Back breaking and as you say a4 year old should be walking encouraging independence and excercise . Ridiculous

'mollycoddling'

I wear mine on my back (2 but big for his age) quite often. It means that I can walk quicker than if he were walking but without the inconvenience of the buggy.

No it's not bad for their back. And usefully much better for the pelvic floor then pushing a buggy.
HTH

This thread actually made me want to put my 2.5yo up on my back while I finished making tea today. :)

She'd missed me when I was at work and was getting upset at me being busy.

So instead we had a nice cuddle and she was happy.

She's a tiny one and only about 11kg, but I did the same with my older dc who is in the opposite end of the charts.

Makes my life easier + extra cuddles. What's not to like?

I still carry my son if it's a long walk and he's 2 1/2. I'm currently in the best shape I've ever been.

Ah, why not? It's snuggly and easy and something I think the child remembers when they're older and way too heavy to carry. I stuck my second son in a sling until he was five (he's fairly diddly) and because I used a sling regularly from when he was tiny, it wasn't as much of an effort as you'd think - like weight training! He has ASD and liked the tight pressure, plus frankly he was safer up there than down on the pavement. He's 7 now and I really miss being able to chuck him on my back and get on with things, rather than manacle myself to his wrist and attempt to walk down the pavement with him making sudden lunges towards moving buses/open doors/piles of dog poo etc

fuckit you can choose it as an activity on My Fitness Pal.

I'm sure it's totally inaccurate mind you, and I think it's stated as carrying an infant not a toddler 😏

Bloody hell, everything wrong and awful in the world, and you choose to get hyped up over someone doing something that isn’t hurting anyone and doesn’t affect you? Yes, YABSU. Go find a hobby instead of judging a stranger.

I'm astonished at the number of people who don't think they can carry 4 year olds. Seriously, unless you have an injury or condition, this should be easy, no matter what the size of the 4 year old.

I was speaking to someone last week who walks her twins to Reception. One scoots and the other is in a carrier and half way they swap. I honestly couldn't believe it when she told me!!

Why Headintheproverbial? What couldn’t you believe?

I had no problem carrying my children at that age and I'm a small female.
Not sure why so many people think carrying 35-40lbs is going to give you back problems.
In activity and being over weight are far more likely to do that.