To think my weight is no ones buisness but my own

[portolodn]

I'm obese and happy with it but other people seem to have an issue with it. I've, stupidly, confided in a few people that I've been warned that I have a high blood sugar level and my doctor has said I'm classified as having prediabetes. But I'm very happy with my life and my body. Other people are now dropping huge suggestions on things I should change and stop doing. Surely it's my choice what I do with my life and people should just worry about themselves?

portolodn if you find this amongst the outrage, make another appointment with your GP and ask if there's any suggestions they have for you, presumably you'll be amenable to their suggestions? A GPs I was once at had a specialised nurse who'd do her own weight watchers type thing (and didnt cost a penny!). You kept a food diary and got weighed by her once a month. It was quite popular.

Why do you feel quite happy even with the diabetes diagnosis? Are you aware of the complications that results from diabetes? Has it been spelled out to you?

*prediabetes diagnosis sorry.

YABU. If they are true friends then they are concerned for your health and are worried about you.

Instead of getting defensive, I suggest you either listen to them or do not confide in them again.

So to take your OP at face value.

What do you want from the people who you have told you are at risk of a serious illness?

What do you think might spur you into action?

Threads aren't usually deleted on the OP's instruction

If only that were true

Indeed At least, with this one, we'll finally get an answer on whether it's possible to get a thread deleted just because you don't like it ...

At least booze and fags are taxed highly enough to pay for some of the health care people need

It doesn't even come close to covering the costs.
Also what happened to the fat vat and sugar tax then?

I've just been diagnosed with Gestational diabetes and will now be 60% more at risk to develop type 2 diabetes.

I also suffer from psoriasis (linked to type 2 diabetes)

GD should go after pregnancy but I'll be automatically classed as pre-diabetic. I'm frankly terrified. Once my baby is here then I'm going to take ownership of my health.

Yes I'm obese (BMI of 33 at booking appointment hence automatic testing for GD) and yes I was eating way too much shit.

OP, doesn't your diagnosis concern you at all? How do you plan to tackle this?

I don't understand why anyone would ignore this kind of warning. Why would you want to head to a future of hospitals, blood tests, eye people, feet people and have your life dictated by a LOT of medications and being weighed and told off all the time?

This is the husbands world, it controls his life. So be stubborn all you want for now. Crack on.

You've made it other people's business by discussing your health concerns such as high blood pressure and risk of diabetes. So of course they are concerned.

Stop talking about your weight with people.

But seriously, address this, if you can. Google diabetes Google "How does diabetes affect the human body?"

www.diabetes.co.uk/how-does-diabetes-affect-the-body.html

Basically, I am in a boat very similar to your boat, only worse, I have diabetes.

"But I'm very happy with my life and my body." Good for you, me too, but ....

Just a few things to scare you:

Trouble with digestion

Sexual dysfunction

Slow wound healing

Effect of diabetes on the kidneys

The kidneys are another organ that is at particular risk of damage as a result of diabetes and the risk is again increased by poorly controlled diabetes, high blood pressure and cholesterol.

Diabetic nephropathy is the term for kidney disease as a result of diabetes.

Damage to the kidneys takes place over a period of years and can picked up by nephropathy screening before it gets too serious. Treatment includes lifestyle changes and may include medicine to treat high blood pressure and cholesterol.

Diabetes and its effects on the nerves

The effects of diabetes on the nerves can be serious as the nerves are involved in so many of our bodily functions, from movement and digestion through to sex and reproduction.

Diabetes and its effect on digestion

Just stop and think how much of that you would be 'very happy with'.

Just be grateful people care about you and stop thinking that you are an island and it doesn't matter how sick you get because it clearly matters to others!

Actually, scratch what I posted above; OP will probably claim all these replies are affecting her health in themselves

Watching with interest to see what happens re the deletion ...

OP I get where you are coming from. My weight is high and that is none of anybody else's business. BUT my bloods are normal with regard to anything obesity related, so it's purely cosmetic for me. If at anytime that started to change, I would prioritise changing my lifestyle.

My son has type one diabetes, which is very different to the kind that you are in danger of developing, but type two is very serious as well. I see how hard he has to work every single day (and has done from the age of 8), testing his blood, injecting himself, assessing the carbohydrate content in everything he eats, putting in cannulas. If you have the opportunity to avoid diabetes, seize it. Honestly, if a little kid can do all the work he does to try to avoid complications, you can make a few changes to your lifestyle. I know it may seem hard, but really, it's not a millionth as hard as what he has to do. You can do this and I think at some level you know that you should, for your own sake.

I do object to people quoting the burden of diabetes on the NHS though. Not all types of diabetes are avoidable (including a significant number of type two cases). I take the point that we all have to be responsible for our own health, but please stop referring to the economic burden of medical conditions. Everyone does something everyday which puts them at risk of needing the NHS, whether that be running, getting in a car, etc. It completely undermines the point of the NHS if we are allowed to apply moral judgement to anyone we deem less perfect than ourselves who ends up needing care.

Yup, it pisses me off that people who can't find the will to change their lifestyle will be eating up the "diabetes" budget which could provide exponentially better care for people with non-lifestyle related diabetes, but morally all we can do is support and try to educate, not berate and stigmatise.

I'm obese and happy with it

I'm not sure whether I ever believe that.
Especially if you have young children.
Obese people find it difficult to get down and play with them and they lose out on being able to run around with their children and play (on swings down slides) and lots of activities in general, such as swimming.
How can you 'be happy with that'
Or, even if your children are grown or you don't have children, being obese can make travel difficult.
Even if you manage to travel, you are then limited to what activities you can do when you arrive.
Warm weather is a nightmare.
So, no I don't believe the 'I'm happy to be obese' statement.

Why do you only want half a life? I don't get it. I really don't.

But like you say, it's not really any of my business.

Most Type 2 Diabetes is solely due to obesity, and regaining a normal BMI can put the diabetes in to remission. It is a very avoidable disease.
I think going to your GP and getting tests that show you are at a high risk of developing diabetes and not expecting your GP to comment on the main thing you can change to avoid developing diabetes is bizarre.

Jon - no, you didn't say that, pollyperky did.

I do feel strongly that we should all do what we can to help ourselves, and yes that means putting down the bottle, the fags and the fork. I never let myself have pizza or rice or potatoes (except a few of DP's chips) or toast - any of the things I really liked. And I was very fat with a very addictive personality, so if I can make those changes anyone can, believe me! People should be encouraged to try harder.

Sarahjconnor - I think the doctor said they were powerless to stop the trolley because it came from an outside contractor or something

I am in the same boat as Italiangreyhound, and I do agree with everything she says.

I've struggled with my weight for all of my adult life. I have serious thyroid issues which caused me to gain a lot whilst certainly not regularly overeating, and it has been very difficult to lose.

I was prediabetic for a while. I cut out lots of crap like crisps, chocolate and very much alcohol. I did that some time ago and have been slowly dropping some weight, though I wish I could lose it a bit quicker. I have still just tipped over into the range where I have been diagnosed with type 2 diabetes.

I am currently awaiting the results of my first diabetic retinopathy test and hoping that it shows no insipient damage to my eyes. Diabetes is a major cause of blindness and poor or delayed healing of injuries. Take the threat of it seriously and at least try to do something about it.

I understand people being defensive about their weight and not wanting other people's input, especially as some of them can be ill informed and insensitive. I am like that too, but I would still urge you to consider action. Do it for yourself. Get advice on diet and make changes for yourself. You can do it by yourself if you prefer, so that you don't feel constantly under scrutiny and criticism.

Don't be too blasé about it. If you were to go blind or lose a limb because high glucose levels caused damage and slow/no healing then you would surely look back and regret that you didn't at least try to make changes.

Claims weight is nobody else's business.

Posts about it on popular open internet forum.

Provided that you have health insurance. I don't want to see taxes raised to deal with fat oeople who won't do anything about their health because they are happy as they are.

I think the op is not coming back, and I wouldn’t even bet she’s still reading. I think she wanted people to agree with her, her body her choice and no one should give her suggestions on how to help herself

She moves quickly from people giving suggestions, through to she doesn’t want to be “forced” to lets delete this.

I suspect being pre diabetic has put pressure on her to lose weight and she simply can’t face it, so is trying to blame anyone who mentions it.
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In a country with a publicly funded health service it is everyone's business if you are gorging yourself to expensive medical costs and s slow painful death.

Most adults are overweight or obese in the UK now. Not surprising when you see someone's weekly shop, often it's like they are trying to kill themselves.

Ttb you have s valid point there

Why should we all stay quiet if it's affecting our nhs by people allowing themselves to become disabled because they 'are happy being fat'

Not on

You're not happy, stop kidding yourself. The only diet that has worked for me and I'm not hungry is the ketogenic diet. There is a fabulous beginners group on Facebook that's really active. High insulin will keep you fat so you need to eat to keep insulin low and that means eating fat. Look it up.

Tell them to get stuffed. Concern trolling about health is always going to be something large folks get the brunt of, but you and your body is nobody else's business but your own. Yes you've mentioned you HAVE health issues, but that's also your own business. What you choose to do or not do about them, is entirely up to you.

Wow, Rebeccaslicker, that video is an eye opener. That man is obviously not ready to take personal responsibility and I think he should be sent home until he is so someone else can take his slot. As for the snack trolley visiting a weight loss ward, I am absolutely gob-smacked! Who on earth thinks that's a good idea?!