Ordering chips, AIBU?

[LondonHerbivore32]

The local Chinese takeaway does really good chips. Amazing ones. Got to know this when they sent me some by accident a few weeks ago.

So tonight, DH and I order a takeaway and having been ill all week and struggling through it at work, I fancied treating myself to some of those amazing chips as a side to my meal.

DH strongly objected on two grounds; that I won't eat them all and that its not right to have chips as a side to Chinese food. As I was doing the order online, I just ignored him and added the chips.

When the meal arrived he got really would up about the chips being there, going on and on about how it wasn't a right thing to order, how I was wasting food, how it was unhealthy etc.... He wouldn't let it go and made a huge issue of it.

He then said that I'm banned from ever ordering chips with a Chinese takeaway again. He's now sulking in another room.

I accept that it's not in any way traditional, but they're so good, I feel like sh*t and wanted some extra carbs as a treat. I don't do it every time I order Chinese food. Was his reaction OTT or AIBU about the chips?

[BananaThePoet]

I hope this isn't going to be misconstrued. I am autistic and I have close relatives who are autistic. Many of us get to a ripe old age without us realising we are autistic and sometimes an irrational clinging to 'rules' which seem unreasonable can be a characteristic of the autistic personality. In particular what is often called Asperger Syndrome can lead to this. That said it is of course wrong to impose rules on others like this. Obviously this has made you unhappy and by the sound of it your husband is not happy with the argument either. If this is a one off then just carry on as usual. If you feel there may be benefit in exploring the possibility that he may be autistic I would emphasize it isn't the end of the world as many people seem to think. Like most things once you understand them it becomes clear how to make the most of it and ceases to gum up the works. Stress can increase the need to follow rules and exert control as can being overwhelmed. My husband used to get like this when he had tough times at work. Once we understood we were autistic we learned to recognise this tendency to control and micromanage and try not to do it so much any more. It took a while for the penny to drop and we resisted it for years until our child led the way. Even he did not get identified until he was in his twenties so it is easy to miss for decades. Just mentioning this as it would have made our lives much easier if someone had done something like this in the early years of my marriage.

[NutElla5x]

You're a grown woman and should be able to enjoy your chips and anything else you fancy whenever you like.I'd throw the controlling dickhead out pronto if I were you!

[Kamthespork]

We always order chips and bbq sauce to dip them in, yum

[LagunaBubbles]

For the 2 people on this thread who have stated they judge people for eating chips with a Chinese...why? I actually can't get my head around someone judging someone else for this, what another adult eats?!!

[Auldspinster]

The chips from my local Chinese takeaway are so much nicer than chippie chips!

[arrrrghhwinehelpswithteens]

oh god now I’m craving the favourite end to a night out between the ages of 18 - 30 - chips & curry sauce from the chinese takeaway by the bus station in town, with the matriarch of the family effortlessly controlling a (large) queue of drunks of both sexes. I still love chinese chips & curry!

however OP I also agree with the PP who have a) asked if you are ok now and b) there is something deeply concerning about the diktat on what you can/can’t order and the ‘ban’. Once he’s calmed down/stopped sulking you need to have a conversation about why that is unacceptable.

Good luck, and hope you are ok.

[cathyclown]

Where I live a " three in one" is delish. Egg fried rice, chips, and sauce of your choice. Yummy.

Four in one is the above + chicken balls. Yummy too.

If anyone told me I couldn't have chips with my Chinese the whole three in one would land promptly on their head, sauce and all.

[ElephantsandTigers]

SGBDE plenty of people have said the husband is being controlling. It hasn't been missed by everyone. Since the OP hasn't been back I wonder if it matters now.

[SteamTrainsRealAleandOpenFires]

Just had 2 portions of Fish & Chips with a carton each of Curry & Mushy Peas delivered.

[LipstickHandbagCoffee]

The delicious food options has distracted folk from fact her dp is a controlling bully

[Protectingmydaughterfromfilth]

Steam Fish & Chips delivered? 😧

[Protectingmydaughterfromfilth]

🤤

[DrCoconut]

My abusive gas lighting ex was very controlling about food and banned certain things. But he'd change the rules on a whim because presumably he enjoyed kicking off. Unless it was truly said in jest (like DH "isn't allowed" chilli beef after it gave him wind that scared the cat away 😂) it's worrying.

[LipstickHandbagCoffee]

Agreed.unless said in jest I can’t imagine being told food item was banned
Sign of an unstable bully,exerting control and being omnipotent

[notWORKzilla]

OP, are you okay?

But on a completely lighthearted note, pls can we add chippocrite to the Mumsnet dictionary?

[SteamTrainsRealAleandOpenFires]

Steam Fish & Chips delivered? 😧

Of course, but we also kebabs/pizzas/Chinese delivered as well . Doesn't everyone do that?

[DollyMcDolly]

I always get chips with my Chinese takeaway. They are amazing. Chips with duck and mushrooms. Every single time.

[BarbaraofSevillle]

None of the fish and chip shops near us deliver. They probably don't need to, people are happy to go to the shop.

We almost always collect as delivery takes ages and is more expensive. Often get them when we are going out anyway. Eg go to supermarket, order by phone as leaving supermarket then pick Chinese up on way home.

[Bigkingdom]

Next time i would just order a whole load of chips to meet the minimum delivery spend and eat the lot infront of him

[Protectingmydaughterfromfilth]

Steam That was a jealous face! I'm jealous that your chippy deliver! None do round here x

[bertsdinner]

Chinese takeaway chips are the best. I like to do half and half, order a portion of fried rice and one of chips, we share them out.

[SteamTrainsRealAleandOpenFires]

Steam That was a jealous face! I'm jealous that your chippy deliver! None do round here x

sorry didn't realise that that was an face

It's strange that we can get takeaway meals delivered, but the local milkman won't deliver in my street. He'll do the other streets by us, but not ours.

[3nonblondedd78]

Yanbu. Chinese takeaway chips ate the best.

[moobeana]

He needs to come to Northern Ireland. Where it is perfectly normal to order things with ‘a half and half’. Which is a portion of half chips and half fried rice.

I often have a ‘sweet and sour half and half’ for lunch in sixth form!

God I love sweet and sour chips, and Kung Po chips!

[sahknowme]

Growing up, we used to order a portion of fish and chips, a black bean squid and a chow mein, and share the lot. Chips & black bean sauce.... drool