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To Be Delighted for Harry and Meghan?

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JustHavinABreak · 27/11/2017 10:43

I know there are lots who have no time for the Royals but as a mother I'm delighted that Harry has found his match. I'm also quite thrilled that he's gone against the grain for his atypical princess! Think Diana would have been proud to see him follow his heart.

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shivermytimbers · 27/11/2017 19:21

As a mother, I would like to see the wedding cash be channelled into children's services... Schools, Surestart centres, children and adolescent mental health services etc. etc. I don't frankly give a toss that some posh people are organising a wedding but I certainly don't want to pay for it or to pay for their and their future children's upkeep. Harry has certainly had an expensive enough education to be able to find a job.

Monny1 · 27/11/2017 19:22

I am happy for them both. I wasnt a fan of Harry, but l am now.

PepsiPolarBear · 27/11/2017 19:23

Yabu I don't care what they do but I'm sick of hearing and seeing them in the news already and I see why she should be added to our royal benefits claimant list. There are many more people who need help in this country and the royals have enough already.

I would respect them if they quit the royal family and lived as commoners, preferably in another country.

blueskypink · 27/11/2017 19:28

Have just watched their interview on Sky and it made me cry. They're obviously so much in love, she's obviously so much in tune with his feelings (lots of arm stroking at difficult points in the interview) and it's so unbelievably sad that Diana isn't around to share in the excitement.

Whatever your views on the Royal Family, you'd have to be really hard not to be moved by such a clearly genuine display of love and emotion.

SouthWestmom · 27/11/2017 19:29

Nice for them but it's tipped me from benign 'prefer to have a monarch than eg President Blair' to hmm Kate and Wills don't do much to actually what do they do? No merit and no 'specialness' so erm maybe I'm not so keen on the idea.

AlmaSedgewick · 27/11/2017 20:00

Are we allowed to bitch about her outfit? I didn't care for the bare legs and bathrobe look. Not to mention the silly shoes.

BertrandRussell · 27/11/2017 20:06

Her coat was horrible. And so was his suit. And why were they shouting to reporters over the Hellespont? Either do a photo call or don't.

Oh, and if he really did surprise her, it's pretty bloody arrogant to have a kick ass ring all ready..........

WitchesHatRim · 27/11/2017 20:47

Oh, and if he really did surprise her, it's pretty bloody arrogant to have a kick ass ring all ready

Well they have been engaged for a month so with his connections it isn't beyond the realms of possibility it could have been made in that time.

Rinoachicken · 27/11/2017 20:55

Maybe just me but I took the ‘surprises her’ bit to mean that he surprised her with when and where (at home on a normal evening as opposed to taking her somewhere special).

He said they had lots of serious conversations, preparing her, so it’s obviously something that was on the cards and that they'd discussed, which does take away the element of surprise somewhat hence his pleasure in managing to surprise her just a little bit.

LuluJakey1 · 27/11/2017 20:56

Kim Kardashion next time and no one will bat an eyelid.

formerbabe · 27/11/2017 20:59

Kim Kardashion next time and no one will bat an eyelid

What is this supposed to mean?

LuluJakey1 · 27/11/2017 21:01

What it says.

LondonGirl83 · 27/11/2017 21:03

I'm always happy to hear when two people fall in love. I also think it shows some modernity in the royal family given she is and isn't an aristocrat, is divorced, American, Catholic and biracial.

formerbabe · 27/11/2017 21:04

Well 'what it says' is not obvious is it?

Why don't you back up that comment and explain what you meant?

Creambun2 · 27/11/2017 21:05

I hate harry shitting on about teenage mental health. Saying he got help, please don't be afraid to ask for help etc. Do idiots like harry William and kate understand that however much teenagers ask for help the wait and recourses for all nhs mental health services is scandalous. Not a problem if you can pay I guess

GaucheCaviar · 27/11/2017 21:07

President Blair is such a shit argument anyway noeuf , we could end up with King Tony or King Boris. For sixty years.

formerbabe · 27/11/2017 21:09

I hate harry shitting on about teenage mental health. Saying he got help, please don't be afraid to ask for help etc. Do idiots like harry William and kate understand that however much teenagers ask for help the wait and recourses for all nhs mental health services is scandalous. Not a problem if you can pay I guess

Very unfair comment.

My DM died when I was the same age as Harry...I never got help..neither NHS or private which my family could have afforded. So, actually, part of it is being able to ask for it. People are very mean spirited on these threads. The Royals are dammed if they do and dammed if they don't.

Battleax · 27/11/2017 21:11

Confining Blair to a figure head role and ceremonial duties and not giving him the chance to start any wars would have been a much better plan, TBH.

I also think almost all royals (born on married in) eventually become spoilt monsters in private. It's unavoidable when you're surrounded by obsequesiness, have huge wealth and millions of public dribbling over you.

It also sets a bad tone in terms of social inequality.

So, overall I don't really understand the fear of a presidential system.

HadronCollider · 27/11/2017 21:17

They are not responsible for the state of the NHS though are they. Do you really believe that if the Monarchy was abolished tomorrow they'd suddenly be a flush of money pouring into the welfare system and mental health services for teens? He can only give practical advice, that is all. And it might have helped someone.

HadronCollider · 27/11/2017 21:20

They have a presidential system in America. As it stands now its enough to give anyone pause about adopting the same approach.

LuluJakey1 · 27/11/2017 21:21

I have said what I mean. It is perfectly clear. We are at the point now where there is no difference between being a talentless celeb who makes a living from self-publicity and sellng themselves , and a member of the Royal family. It is time we got rid of them. We might as well have Kim Kartrashion or whatever Jordan calls herself these days in there. It is the first time I have watched the news headlines and just switched off. Not interested. I don’t wish them unhappiness but it is the end of the Royal family as far as I am concerned. They can no longer pretend to be somehow special to Britain. It might as well be Kimmy in there or Kerry Kantona.

Battleax · 27/11/2017 21:22

Funding or fundraising for a charitable trust or an NHS wing or something that actually provides substantial adolescent mental healthcare would be more solid and impressive.

blueskypink · 27/11/2017 21:24

Wow - some really nasty comments on here. Can't you be happy for a young man who has lived his life in the public gaze, lost his mother in tragic circumstances, comes from a very dysfunctional family and has now found someone he can be close to?

What does privilege and wealth have to do with it?

formerbabe · 27/11/2017 21:25

LuluJakey1

So who exactly are you comparing Kim Kardashian to?

LuluJakey1 · 27/11/2017 21:32

I am saying that any talentless celeb who earns a living sellng their image and body through publicity and social media can now become a member of the British Royal family. At this point there is now no difference between them. When HM the Queen dies the country will move to becoming a Republic. It won’t happen overnight but the remnants of the RF will just be celeb figures rather than having any real national standing or role.