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To Be Delighted for Harry and Meghan?

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JustHavinABreak · 27/11/2017 10:43

I know there are lots who have no time for the Royals but as a mother I'm delighted that Harry has found his match. I'm also quite thrilled that he's gone against the grain for his atypical princess! Think Diana would have been proud to see him follow his heart.

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Geordie1944 · 28/11/2017 18:38

Dear GOD: people must have very empty lives to get excited about the marriage of an overbred pea-brain and a fourth rate actress.

Scarriff · 28/11/2017 18:45

Good looking happy couple. Delightful. I look forward to endless trivia about the wedding. Sucks to the moaners and killjoys.

Strongmummy · 28/11/2017 18:51

I give it 6 months

RJnomore1 · 28/11/2017 19:14

Cynic!

MissEliza · 28/11/2017 19:17

Meghan is very elegant, classy and apparently hard working but I really don't think she knows what she's got into. Chelsea Davy clearly loves Harry but having lived in the UK, she knew she couldn't hack the life. MM will get a shock. There'll be a honeymoon period with the press then they'll start finding fault.

Viviennemary · 28/11/2017 19:18

She's not exactly got form for giving things a good try. Her first marriage lasted two years. That's a bit pathetic IMHO. I give this around the same give or take a year or two. Might not even happen. Which wouldn't surprise me in the least. Face on the teatowels. Don't think that would bother her too much.

KarlosKKrinkelbeim · 28/11/2017 19:24

I note the word “ intelligent” gets used quite a lot. Perhaps she is but in that case how does she end up engaged to a man who scraped two a levels despite attending probably the best school in the entire world?

QueenAmongstMen · 28/11/2017 19:41

I want to be happy but I can't help but feel the relationship is doomed - although I have no idea why. I'm not a Royalist by any stretch of the imagination but something just doesn't feel right about this. I just can't picture Meghan sitting in a Palace and twiddling her thumbs after having had a successful career in her own right before marriage. Plus I imagine that moving away from her friends and family will certainly take its toll.

I hope it can be a happy marriage but I have a feeling that for reasons outside of their control that it will not end well.

My nan (who is Diana's biggest fan) is absolutely outraged that this is being "allowed" to happen Confused

simiisme · 28/11/2017 19:48

Two people in love is always a happy situation. I'm happy for them.

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 28/11/2017 19:57

I do find it fascinating some of the language being used. The implication being that she is her own woman and will do things her own way and differently.

However it seems she has given up her job, is changing her religion and is going to become a British citizen.

All of which seems very much like conforming and doing everything the old way.

AlmaSedgewick · 28/11/2017 19:59

It's all a thrilling adventure to her now. She's positively fizzing with the elation of her new exciting life as a princess. I doubt she'd still giddy about the engagement itself if it happened a while ago, which is likely. Very happy obviously but the exuberance stems from sheer dizziness of the circus that has enveloped her. She bloody loves it. I sort of wish she'd restrain herself a bit and not act quite so cockahoop about her prize.

They remind me of Andrew and Fergie... she was good fun, a breath of fresh air etc but she couldn't handle it in the end, couldn't toe the party line. To know she will never act again (when that's been her passion for a long time), no more social media when updating her Instagram was a daily habit to her, no more popping off to hang out with her friends whenever she feels like it, no more shopping with abandon at high end stores.

Her whole life will change.

They have known each other 16/17 months. It's enough to be mad about someone and feel sure they are the one, of course. But it's not long enough to understand the life she's taking on, she doesn't know his family or his world we'll enough. She doesn't know how the royals operate - even less than many of us do - simply because she's not British and has no link to his heritage - a heritage which has mapped his life and future. She has no clue.

WitchesHatRim · 28/11/2017 20:03

I doubt she'd still giddy about the engagement itself if it happened a while ago, which is likely

It was the beginning of the month.

no more social media when updating her Instagram was a daily habit to her

Unless there has been some quick deleting going on nothing has been posted on Instagram or Twitter since March/April

questsabelletreetop · 28/11/2017 20:05

As a mother, I don't really care that two stranger are getting married

^^^

THIS!!

chicaguapa · 28/11/2017 20:11

However it seems she has given up her job, is changing her religion and is going to become a British citizen.

She has changed her job as is her right, is joining the C of E (she is Protestant not Catholic) and becoming a dual citizen (she is retaining her US citizenship).

LaurieF · 28/11/2017 20:11

I am very happy for them! I am also a massive softy and cried over the way she was looking at him during the interview last night! My husband was looking at me like I was mental.. please tell me I'm not the only one??

LaurieMarlow · 28/11/2017 20:14

Has she said she's giving up acting for good then? I know she wrapping up on suits, which makes sense in the circs, but has she actually said 'never again'?

WitchesHatRim · 28/11/2017 20:19

She has changed her job as is her right, is joining the C of E (she is Protestant not Catholic) and becoming a dual citizen (she is retaining her US citizenship).

Fully aware of that. Still makes it very much like the old way. Fully aware that she isn't Catholic in fact it was me that posted confirmation of it from the BBC. That was her exH.

Don't remember having to get baptised and confirmed before marriage myself or my DH having to become a dual citizen.

Doing things differently or their own way would have been to not do these things imo.

BishBoshBashBop · 28/11/2017 20:20

Has she said she's giving up acting for good then?

It would be extremly difficult for her to carry on.

ciele · 28/11/2017 20:21

If William abdicated then George would be King.

BonnesVacances · 28/11/2017 20:23

If William abdicated then George would be King

That's not true. If William abdicated, the whole line forfeits. Then Harry would be King. If Charles abdicated, Andrew would be King.

Battleax · 28/11/2017 20:25

I don't think it's ever been established whether William has the right to relinquish succession rights on behalf of his minor children (as, for example, Tsar Nicholas II did on behalf of Tsarevich Alexei, admittedly in tetchy circumstances).

HadronCollider · 28/11/2017 20:30

She doesn't know how the royals operate - even less than many of us do - simply because she's not British and has no link to his heritage - a heritage which has mapped his life and future. She has no clue

Harry did say in the interview that they had some serious conversations. I think people are being especially negative about them on MN for some reason, but having said that, yes I think the question mark arises because of the level of independence she had before.

Perhaps we're acknowledging that worldly wise women aren't made to fit in boxes easily. I wonder if she had at least been European if that question mark would prevail? I mean is it the fact that she's American?

HousefulOfBoysNow · 28/11/2017 20:35

as a mother I'm delighted that Harry has found his match

I don't understand why being a mother is relevant? I'm a mother and I'm no more or less delighted than I was when I found out Bob-from-upstairs in work was getting engaged Hmm

HousefulOfBoysNow · 28/11/2017 20:40

I would love to know what 'legal' rights the RF have over the marry-inners and kids...I have no real idea.

I mean, hypothetically, if in 10 years MM wants to bugger off back to the states with hers and Harry's offspring, what's to stop her?

Or for that matter, what if KM decided to up and leave William - would she be 'allowed' to take the dc with her?

Battleax · 28/11/2017 20:41

I think people are being especially negative about them on MN for some reason, but having said that,

It's no surprise. MN is snob central sometimes and there are a few racists hanging around too.

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