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To ask what you buy for someone you hate

187 replies

SparkyFire · 24/11/2017 15:43

Ok, hate might be a bit strong but I really dislike my OH's dad.

The problem is that my OH lives at 'home' still (bit of an unusual set up - my OH's dad has tonnes of land and my OH lives in a second house (alone) on that land (he pays rent to his dad), as that's where my OH's business is and the business isn't something that can be moved).

ANYWAY.

At first I could have a laugh (kind of, it was still that fake type of laughing) with his dad but it's gotten to the point I just think he's insufferable.

He treats OH's mum like crap most of the time, he's mean with his words, he doesn't care about any of his sons' emotional well-being (they're men, why would they ever feel sad? Hmm) and he is constantly patronising me in terms of my financial situation (which is perfectly normal, I'm just not driving around in a different car every day like he does...) and every day choices. But of course, it's mostly all said in a joke voice so I can't take offence.

I generally try to spend as little time around him as possible but I told my OH I would spend Christmas with his family and now I'm wondering what the heck to buy his dad.

Any ideas? Blush

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gingergenius · 24/11/2017 16:24

Or a bottle of white lightning cider!!!!

BillyDaveysDaughter · 24/11/2017 16:24

This has me howling too, my FIL is insufferable and vile to his sweet, kind wife.

I can just imagine his big buffoon face if I bought him car cleaning products.

EssentialHummus · 24/11/2017 16:24

Gift pack of sugar free Jelly Babies or Werthers that’ll keep him on the lav until Boxing Day.

MrsMoastyToasty · 24/11/2017 16:25

A mankini
Something from a charity shop

AngelsSins · 24/11/2017 16:28

There's a book on Amazon called "How to not be a dick" by Meghan Doherty....

InvisibleKittenAttack · 24/11/2017 16:29

You need something emotional-less. Trying to be petty or get something he'll hate wno't help you. You need to get something that doesn't mean anything to you at all, and a petty present is still putting emotion and effort into the gift. (you are trying to get something they will hate, you are still hoping for an emotional response from them, even if it's not positive)

So I second the gift set from Next or M&S. Decide a budget, go buy something generic for a man from a chain shop, ask for a gift recipt so they can return it.

Decide his feelings, positive or negative - don't matter to you.

Lweji · 24/11/2017 16:29

Smellies.
Socks.

Ideally something they don't particularly like and in the wrong size. With no gift receipt.

Or this movie

To ask what you buy for someone you hate
wineusuallyhelps · 24/11/2017 16:30

I absolutely love everyone who said the Nick Knowles album. His ad makes my stomach muscles ache from laughing so hard Grin

DancesWithOtters · 24/11/2017 16:31

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bingolittle · 24/11/2017 16:31

Deodorant. A really shit brand which smells (and is) cheap. I'm pretty sure you can get giftboxed versions of crappy body sprays at Xmas.

Not only unpleasant in itself, but carries the implication that his personal hygiene needs some work.

DeepPileTinsel · 24/11/2017 16:31

I am just here to bask in how gloriously passive-aggressive this thread is.

Xmas Grin

I agree with Bit - what would you buy him if you liked him, and a shit version will be found.

Littlebatcalledlucille · 24/11/2017 16:33

I'm with ginger The White Ace/Lightning.
And shit CD!
I'd be soo pissed being gifted that.

MTBMummy · 24/11/2017 16:35

This book of semen based recipes

www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B00ANT5X82/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1&tag=mumsnetforum-21

InvisibleKittenAttack · 24/11/2017 16:37

I cant help but think that Nick Knowles' albumn might end up being the joke gift for a lot of people this year. However, he might not realise this, and I worry the poor man might get his hopes up about a musical career. Sad Bless him, he's trying.

HerOtherHalf · 24/11/2017 16:39

Going by your description of him, how about a bottle of Brut aftershave? If he's going to act like a man stuck in the 1970s he might as well smell like one.

gingergenius · 24/11/2017 16:39

A bottle of White lighting, the Nick Knowles CD and a Brut 33 gift set!!!!!!

gingergenius · 24/11/2017 16:39

X post @HerOtherHalf !

RebeccaBunch · 24/11/2017 16:40

Surely your OH will buy something for his Dad and say it is from both of you?

Alternatively, soap on a rope is made for this man.

KeepServingTheDrinks · 24/11/2017 16:41

Snorted so hard at the mankini suggestions that I woke up the dog!!!

Agree that his wife needs something lovely and thoughtful.

How about a nodding dog for his professionally cleaned car? Or a bumper sticker reading "my other car is a porsche" or "honk if you had it last night"

SweetIcedTea · 24/11/2017 16:41

DD gets a gift for her father, (my exH) we pick something that's related to something he likes, but with an edge to it. So for example he loves Whisky so he gets a gift set for one with one glass (so it's clear the OW/his current partner) isn't included.

This Christmas he's getting something we picked up on our travels that relates to something he likes but is very tacky, it looks thoughtful but it's really a dig.

She's a teenager BTW and he deserves all he gets.

Longhairmightcare · 24/11/2017 16:43

The ‘free’ third item of a boots three for two Christmas gift set offer. Make sure it’s totally generic men’s toiletries that he can’t actually take offence at but strongly suggests ‘afterthought’

whifflesqueak · 24/11/2017 16:43

Are they a farming family? Just a guess based on the lots of land/immovable business details.

FridgeCut · 24/11/2017 16:46

Shaven Quiche or Nut SAK.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/3083188-Anyone-rushing-out-to-buy-this

DesignedForLife · 24/11/2017 16:46

A box of disappointing fudge. You know, the kind that tastes like waxy plastic.

FridgeCut · 24/11/2017 16:48

I'd get him a nice pyrex dish, unless he cooks, then I'd get him a pair of gloves that are a size too small.

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