Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To ask what you buy for someone you hate

187 replies

SparkyFire · 24/11/2017 15:43

Ok, hate might be a bit strong but I really dislike my OH's dad.

The problem is that my OH lives at 'home' still (bit of an unusual set up - my OH's dad has tonnes of land and my OH lives in a second house (alone) on that land (he pays rent to his dad), as that's where my OH's business is and the business isn't something that can be moved).

ANYWAY.

At first I could have a laugh (kind of, it was still that fake type of laughing) with his dad but it's gotten to the point I just think he's insufferable.

He treats OH's mum like crap most of the time, he's mean with his words, he doesn't care about any of his sons' emotional well-being (they're men, why would they ever feel sad? Hmm) and he is constantly patronising me in terms of my financial situation (which is perfectly normal, I'm just not driving around in a different car every day like he does...) and every day choices. But of course, it's mostly all said in a joke voice so I can't take offence.

I generally try to spend as little time around him as possible but I told my OH I would spend Christmas with his family and now I'm wondering what the heck to buy his dad.

Any ideas? Blush

OP posts:
ProseccoMamam · 24/11/2017 16:04

I'm in the same boat with my MIL, although I refuse contact and she isn't allowed to see our children so spending Christmas wouldn't be an option. I'd leave it to your DH to get his dad a present, I guarantee whatever you buy would be mocked anyway, so there is no point giving him more fuel to take the piss out of you

PurpleAlerts · 24/11/2017 16:04

Cross post Toohardtofindaproperusername great minds and all that!

glitterbiscuits · 24/11/2017 16:04

Go to Oxfam and buy him one of those gift cards where you pay for a toilet or herd of goats or something
Then you have bought something he gets no benefit from but not wasted your money.
If he needs something to open a box of YOUR favourite chocolates which you suggest you all share over coffee

ILoveMillhousesDad · 24/11/2017 16:04

The Nick Knowles album Grin

Allabitmuchisntit · 24/11/2017 16:07

Just get him something really dull and ordinary. But get your oh,s mum something absolutely fucking amazing.

Sounds like she could do with it.

JoJoSM2 · 24/11/2017 16:07

Well, your other half could get a present and label as being from both of you. That's what I've always done. DH buys for his side of the family, I buy for mine but we label everything as joint presents. I did the same with ex-boyfriends too.

hollowtree · 24/11/2017 16:10

Coal. That's what Santa would do

Cottongusset · 24/11/2017 16:10

Nothing?

Gingernaut · 24/11/2017 16:11

Some own brand men's toiletries gift set from Boots, M&S or Next.

Not the new Nick Knowles album. He'd have to play it and you risk inflicting it on the rest of the family.

demirose87 · 24/11/2017 16:11

The latest Cliff Richard calendar.

RiskIt4Biscuit · 24/11/2017 16:11

A pile of poo:
www.oxfam.org.uk/shop/oxfam-unwrapped/grow-vegetables/pile-of-poo-ou1007ml

SparkyFire · 24/11/2017 16:14

"If he needs something to open a box of YOUR favourite chocolates which you suggest you all share over coffee"

"Some own brand men's toiletries gift set from Boots, M&S or Next."

Grin
OP posts:
Cornettoninja · 24/11/2017 16:15

*Cornetto - my dad loves those bloody jars. He wheels them out every time we stay over.

I've been his daughter for several decades and he's never seen me eat jam yet. But he still persists!*

What did you do? Huh? Must've been something terrible! Wink

Booboobooboo84 · 24/11/2017 16:15

Nick knowles album gets a vote from me. Or if there is an animal he hates adopt an animal it at the local zoo. Likewise if there is something he loves buy a nonsense gift related to it. My df once bought me a annual pass to a butterfly farm.... in Ohio. I love butterflies but I had no intention of going to America that year nor did I have the finances. 😂

SparkyFire · 24/11/2017 16:15

The shit car cleaning products is even funnier because he has his cars professionally cleaned at home once a week and he knows I know this.

OP posts:
BitOutOfPractice · 24/11/2017 16:16

What would you buy him if you liked him?

THen we can think of a shit version

Cornettoninja · 24/11/2017 16:17

Oh I know - does he like a certain brand of alcohol.

Get it just slightly wrong, so say southern comfort instead of bells whiskey..... so near, yet so so far.

And completely innocent.

SootSprite · 24/11/2017 16:18

Well then, it’ll be a lovely gift to get him, so he can do it himself instead of wasting his money paying someone else to, seeing as he’s so clever with money. Practice your wide eyed look.

LaughingLlama · 24/11/2017 16:19

Some shit manure for the garden.

Rebeccaslicker · 24/11/2017 16:20

Cornetto - I may have bought him various small jars of jam and pickle over the years 🙈

Nettletheelf · 24/11/2017 16:21

If that Nick Knowles album makes it into the charts then we will know how many people in Britain dislike their older male relatives.

gingergenius · 24/11/2017 16:21

Deffo the Nick knowles album! PLease!!!!!! Grin

Littlebatcalledlucille · 24/11/2017 16:22

Daniel O'Donnell's sings Christmas is out today.
Just saying.

gingergenius · 24/11/2017 16:23

Or say you've bought a goat for him, in a remote village in Tanzania!!!

Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

This thread is closed and is no longer accepting replies. Click here to start a new thread.

Swipe left for the next trending thread