Oh dear gawd. Where to start?
Would you be happy for your male colleagues in the “beauty industry” to be paid more than you, just because they are men? If not, then you believe in feminism.
Would you be happy to wear your pretty hair and makeup and clothes and shoes simply because your male colleagues/boss/husband told you that’s what you had to wear. If not, then you believe in feminism.
Would you be happy to be passed over for promotion just because you are of child bearing age or have a family? If not then you believe in feminism.
Do you think it is right that the very industry you work in is low paid and considered unskilled, and it’s workers assumed to be uneducated and shallow, simply because primarily the jobs are done by women and the businesses owned by men? If not, then you believe in feminism.
Do you think it is right for a husband to decide his wife will stay at home with the children, if she would rather go out and work? If not then you believe in feminism.
Feminism has fuck all to do with compliments and wearing pink and liking barbie and working in a female dominated industry. It is not about the loss of chivalry and respect and it certainly is not about man-hating.
Feminism is about choice. It is about equality. It is about parity in opportunity. There is nothing wrong with working as a hairdresser. There is everything wrong in becoming a hairdresser because you did not have the same choices and opportunities as your male peers so your options were limited. It is not about avoiding or refusing to do traditionally female roles, it is about choosing the role you prefer because it is what you WANT to do it, rather than because of expectation or lack of opportunity.
There is nothing wrong with being flattered by compliments or offered a seat by a male stranger. There is everything wrong with that stranger deciding that he has the right to touch you inappropriately or repeatedly bother you when you have asked him not to.
The whole narrative, that “these days you can’t even.....” is utter bullshit. Millions of men find it perfectly straightforward to understand and not to cross the line from friendly to inappropriate. To know the difference between banter and sexual harassment. And frankly, yes, if they don’t know the difference, you should stay away from women.
The ultimate irony is, however, that because I am a feminist, I totally support your choice to not be one, if that is what you want to do.