To not want dh to go to on midnight mass this year?

[Jellybellyqueen]

Dh goes to a church group once a week, church on sunday, and on special celebrations. He pretty much always goes to midnight mass on xmas eve, and also wants to go on xmas day, which we are spending at my parents this year. None of the (primary aged) dc are interested in going, nor am i, as he's the only religious one in the house. We've been as a family before, dc bored and me trying to keep them quiet, so im not doing it again.
Im also sick of staying in on my own wrapping presents on xmas eve. AIBU to ask him to give it a miss this once?

Thanks OP, you too. Happy Christmas 🎄

I think @bekabeech had some very helpful advice there @jellybeanqueen.

I can understand that it may be important in the Christian calendar, but does that mean he has to attend every event? I used to go with him but got shunted out when dc were born and he assumes its his right to go while i stay at home with the kids.

It's incredibly unreasonable to expect a practicing Christian to miss an important event in their calendar. It's not like missing the final of a football match or an important episode of coronation street. You can always catch up on those things, you can't catch up on faith.
Of course it is his right to go and practice his faith, just like it's your right not to go.

Ultimately it’s about love and compassion. Respect and understanding.

This ^ - what songbird says.

If you can't be kind and respectful outside of your place of worship, then you don't really have a faith.

YABU to leave wrapping presents until christmas eve then expect your husband to give up an important part of his religion simply because you can't organise things better.
Wrap presents as you buy them (or that evening as soon as kids are asleep) then put them back in hiding place. On christmas eve remove wrapped presents from hiding place, stick pretty bows and ribbons on them and place them under the tree. Pour yourself a nice big baileys and nosh a couple of mince pies while he is at midnight mass. Sorted.

Yabu

@C8H10N4O2 - yes, I am well aware that @Jellybellyqueen’s dh wants to go to church twice over Christmas - my point (obviously not very clearly made) was that one church visit would be a reasonable compromise and, bearing that in mind, that going to Midnight Mass would be the better option for the OP because her dh would be at home for most of the evening, to help her, and would then be at home on Christmas Day.

I was trying to be helpful and constructive, and do not appreciate being accused of ‘piling in’.

Think the debates over ladies! OP away to enjoy the weekend and has it all sorted
Really hoping this is the last page

me too. Though I'd lay bets on a few more YABU...
Sorry gs, couldn't help myself

Wrapped a present today and my thread killing ninja skills appear to have worked at last . Thx all for advice!

How old are your DC ? If they are still expecting Santa I'm guessing they are 10 and under so surely they would be in bed before 9 pm leaving you a good two hours to wrap presents together before he goes to church , seems like you are being very unfair but just don't want to hear that from anyone