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Found a condom in boyfriends jeans pocket

661 replies

bigapplerecords · 22/11/2017 08:54

I've just been through the laundry basket to put a load of washing on and found an unopened condom in the pocket of my boyfriends jeans.

We don't use condoms.

Aibu to think there could be a perfectly innocent reason for it being there??

OP posts:
ProfessorPickles · 23/11/2017 23:58

I agree with Shankarankalina on this one

Chrys2017 · 24/11/2017 02:13

The most logical explanation is that the friends (or a friend) did it for a laugh. Boyfriend hasn't come up with a good explanation because he's telling the truth—he doesn't know how it got there. He doesn't think it's a big deal because he hasn't done anything wrong. I'm glad OP is resisting all the efforts from bitter women to convince her to ditch what sounds like a great relationship.

QueenAmongstMen · 24/11/2017 02:56

People keep mentioning affairs and whether he has time to have one...

A man who takes a condom on a night out doesn't shout to me he's having an affair on his lunch break, it shouts to me that he has condoms with hin in case he "gets lucky" and has the chance to have sex with someone....

Unless of course this man doesn't only have time for a long time partner and a lunchtime mistress but can also stretch his energies into sex with random women too?

BitOutOfPractice · 24/11/2017 05:40

What's odd is the complete lack of explanation. Or curiosity on his part.

If he'd said " oh I haven't worn those since the spring. Must be in there since before we got together" that'd be one thing. "I don't know" is quite another

LineysBum · 24/11/2017 05:53

You'd think by now he'd have managed to come up with, 'My idiot brother must have done it as a joke. Sorry it's not very funny, really, is it?'

But no. Shrugging things off to me normally means 'I don't really care and you don't really matter'.

AuntyElle · 24/11/2017 08:19

I think QueenAmongstMen has it.

Bumbumtaloo · 24/11/2017 08:21

Sorry to say, this thread is now on the Daily Mail online.

happybus28 · 24/11/2017 08:26

Yeah I was just coming on to say the fail have got their grubby mits on it.....

BitOutOfPractice · 24/11/2017 08:30

They really do have no shame do they?

flimp · 24/11/2017 08:35

Oh FUCK OFF DAILY MAIL

Floweroct2 · 24/11/2017 08:36

Seriously it's their second item on the news! Is there nothing else to write about!!

SeraphinaDombegh · 24/11/2017 08:38

The sorry excuse for a journalist who lifted this story needs a proper talking to. Disgraceful.

PollyPerky · 24/11/2017 09:09

Her name is on the article- the journo's.

GladAllOver · 24/11/2017 09:19

Actually the 'journalist' is doing his/her job properly. They are paid to find stories that are attractive to their readership and hopefully will be mentioned on other websites, thus driving more views to the Mail and increasing their income from advertisers.

Also it's useful for Mumsnet, because many Mail readers will want to find other salacious stories on MN. Coming here they earn more cash for MN from its advertisers.

It's actually a profitable symbiotic relationship.

DontDrinkDontSmoke · 24/11/2017 09:22

Mumsnet isn’t your friend. It’s a business with mutually beneficial links to the Daily Stale.

No one gives a fuck about you, the user.

haveacupoftea · 24/11/2017 09:30

OP have you ever watched doctor foster? Bet he has a second phone hidden somewhere

LynseyLeigh · 24/11/2017 09:48

Glad you got it resolved OP
Have a great weekend Wine

Mustang27 · 24/11/2017 09:51

Is the second phone thing common?

PollyPerky · 24/11/2017 09:58

Actually the 'journalist' is doing his/her job properly. They are paid to find stories that are attractive to their readership and hopefully will be mentioned on other websites, thus driving more views to the Mail and increasing their income from advertisers.

That's obvious. But no one holds a gun to their head and tells then WHICH threads to use. They use their own 'judgement' then run the idea by their editors.

In many cases these journos are no more than early 20s, straight out of uni and only want to earn money to pay their rent. I can see why they do it, but they choose which threads to pull.

TheFormidableMrsC · 24/11/2017 12:03

Bloody Daily Fail. Just fuck off!!

lucylouuu · 24/11/2017 12:11

ugh

Found a condom in boyfriends jeans pocket
GoulishGoblinPumpkinSnatcher · 24/11/2017 12:29

Condoms don't just appear in Jean pockets. If he used his brain he could have said It was for a friend or whatever (more believable than the classic 'I don't know) anyway. So, he must have put it in there with intentions of using it. As I can't see his friends planting it on him knowing he's in a happy committed relationship as a joke? Because the chances of that happening is very very slim, because why would they do that? Apart from wanting to ruin his relationship? So, it's very clear to see what the answer is here. But hard at the same time as there is no proof. So, I'd be wary of him from now on, and pay attention to things that might seem out of the ordinary with him. As yes I agree it's not quite enough to finish a relationship over. I would get STI tested on the sly, just to be safe, for yourself. But saying that if he is cheating at least he is putting a rubber on the end of it? I think he had intentions of doing so but didn't happen for him. But who am I to say...

ComedyBoobs · 24/11/2017 12:37

The thing is, with the Daily Mail.... It does get you wondering how many threads are started by journalists. Puts people off posting advice & in turn, people who really need advice are also out off posting.....

ComedyBoobs · 24/11/2017 12:39

'put off'
*disclaimer - I'm not a journo, my grammar & spelling is usually ok

FunLover65 · 24/11/2017 12:47

It's possibly for other girls. It's harsh, I know, but very much possible.