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To ask my neighbour opposite to close her curtains?

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Sparklyshoes16 · 21/11/2017 23:42

Last few days we’ve noticed a bit of odd behaviour from our neighbour opposite. She sleeps with her curtains open all night and then gets undressed/dressed with them open in the morning. When she’s going to bed she’s starkers! We’ve resorted to leaving our bedroom curtains closed all day everyday as she’s been naked during the day Confused

My husband opened our curtains this morning after we’d got dressed etc to find her stood staring across butt naked...husband went bright red and nearly ripped the curtains down pulling them shut...we’ve asked our neighbour next door but one if they’ve noticed ...they’ve said yes and asked her to close her curtains or put net curtains up etc she said she didn’t realise but this morning she’s starkers again! Aibu to think she should know better and at least close her curtains when getting dressed?

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WonderLime · 22/11/2017 12:37

Bluntness That’s literally the 4th time you have taken something I’ve said and misread it/ deliberately ignored parts of it to suit your argument. Try harder.

Bluntness100 · 22/11/2017 12:41

Try harder

I can’t, I’m far too busy working on your last instruction, which is to seek cbt so I can get naked and stand at my window for the neighbours viewing pleasure and my own personal enjoyment.

Unfortunately there doesn’t seem to be cbt for help in flashing. Grin

Dadstheworld · 22/11/2017 12:44

" She never tidies her garden"

Sounds like you are getting a really good view

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SophieLMumsnet · 22/11/2017 16:17

Could we call for some peace and love? We've withdrawn the photos at the OP's request, too.

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Sparklyshoes16 · 22/11/2017 19:26

I have removed the pictures of the window via mnhq, they did not have anyone in the window as someone previously suggested!!!) I am very surprised that people could possibly work out where the house is when it was a pic of a window from a house that could be anywhere in the UK!! I have looked at pics on Rightmove when we were looking for a house and it has the streetview thing on it I’ve seen people on that hanging out washing etc so I’m not sure how I’ve invaded their privacy when it’s just a window (with no one at the window)...also plenty of other people have posted pics of houses, driveways and even car regs etc on various threads!

Ravenblack thank you for making me laugh out loud and the others that have posted along those lines!!

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PiffleandWiffle · 22/11/2017 21:39

I am very surprised that people could possibly work out where the house is when it was a pic of a window from a house that could be anywhere in the UK!!

They can't, they're just point scoring - and that'll tell you that it's pointless engaging with them....

Bluntness100 · 22/11/2017 21:42

Love this thread, had me chortling my way through a conf call today.

Anyways, You didn’t invade anyone’s privacy op, not even slightly, don’t worry. However you proved your point.

I guess the world is divided into those who will happily stand naked at their windows in front of their neighbours and the rest of us, who are the neighbours, and would really prefer you didn’t flash your minge at us.

Hot tub anyone Grin

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Sparklyshoes16 · 22/11/2017 22:28

LOL I’ve just spat my tea out!! Thank you Bluntness100...pretty much what you’ve said! Grin

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Labradoodliedoodoo · 22/11/2017 22:32

Yes it’s indecent exposure. Potentially a police matter

FeedMyFaceWithBabyRuths · 23/11/2017 02:24

I could easily be your neighbour OP.
I spend about 50% of the time I'm in my house naked. The rest of the time just in pants and vest top.
Mainly because that's how I'm comfy..
This is my home and why shouldn't I be comfy in it?

BitOutOfPractice · 23/11/2017 07:11

No reason at all. Unless you're making someone else "uncomfy".

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Sparklyshoes16 · 23/11/2017 07:53

Fair enough to those who think it’s ok to walk round naked of course it is in your own space (I do it, my husband does it only difference we have our curtains closed as it’s our private space)...when I’m at a swimming pool, gym etc I get naked there but prefer to go in a cubicle ofthete isn’t any I just get changed and go I don’t walk around naked for the world to see but that’s just me!!!, what I find uncomfortable is the fact that she could accuse my husband and anyone else of ‘peeping’ on her as it’s happened on more than two occasions (and other neighbours that are opposite to her) when he’s opened the curtains and she’s there in the window naked for about 30 secs then walked off and carried on walking round the room naked at different times of the day and night with the light on!

Yes I am not happy that we had to move to our back room 1. Because our friends started laughing the first time then after the 3rd time it was uncomfortable when she was in the window! When my friends and their kids went to say bye at the door and get in their cars she was there again...naked and then buggered off! 2. It appears to be deliberate...we just unsure of why...anyway looking at a company today that provides a film to put on Windows that lets us see out but people not see in without losing light! Hopefully she’ll just get bored and go back to not standing in the window naked for periods of time!

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Itsonkyme · 23/11/2017 09:42

If it was my neighbour I'd just go over there and tell her that I can see her when she is naked in her bedroom.
See what she has to say!

BitOutOfPractice · 23/11/2017 09:49

She has. She laughed and said she'll get round to not doing it some time.

HeidiGer · 23/11/2017 10:01

You need to arm yourself with heavy duty binliners at 3 am, and a wet cloth.

You paste the binliners to her window with water, so she gets up the next morning and cant see a thing.

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Sparklyshoes16 · 23/11/2017 10:25

Brilliant Heidiger Grin

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JonSnowsWife · 23/11/2017 12:16

I am very surprised that people could possibly work out where the house is

As I said before OP. Your other thread involving the friendship tree. I'm guessing theres not may friendship trees like the photos you posted on there either. It was a friendly warning to err on the side of caution after the bollard photos led to the OPs neighbours (who were also reading the thread) cottoning on.

JonSnowsWife · 23/11/2017 12:17

Hot tub anyone

No thankyou. I'm not a fan of those Chlamydia soup bowls. Wink

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SubparOwl · 02/02/2019 07:32

Honestly if it's sudden and she's been spoken to I think she may be doing it deliberately.

I agree with a cheery wave and grin.

DisgraceToTheYChromosome · 02/02/2019 08:02

Hold up a picture of a Ladyshave captioned ”We can't quite see your VCH". Or perhaps "H2O2: there's a ring round your ring".

But I'm irremediably coarse.

Blockyiursekf · 02/02/2019 08:05

Zombie.

DisgraceToTheYChromosome · 02/02/2019 08:10

Oops

showmeshoyu · 02/02/2019 08:19

For the PP who said "could you try not looking"

I have a neighbour opposite who doesn't have curtains or a blind and with romps around naked with a very bright light on. On a dark night, her bedroom stands out against all the closed curtains along the street like a Christmas tree. What's worse is her house is lower than mine, so during dinner parties my friends would be often treated to an impromptu strip show.

It's the kind of thing that's difficult to ignore.

OneStepSideways · 02/02/2019 09:17

Could she have mental health issues? Disinhibition goes hand in hand with some disorders, like bipolar (if she's manic or chaotic she may not realise she's naked or think there's anything wrong with it). I'd have a chat with her, without mentioning the nude window stuff, and look for signs that she may be unwell. I think it's a bit mean to assume she's doing it deliberately.