To ask my neighbour opposite to close her curtains?

[Sparklyshoes16]

Last few days we’ve noticed a bit of odd behaviour from our neighbour opposite. She sleeps with her curtains open all night and then gets undressed/dressed with them open in the morning. When she’s going to bed she’s starkers! We’ve resorted to leaving our bedroom curtains closed all day everyday as she’s been naked during the day

My husband opened our curtains this morning after we’d got dressed etc to find her stood staring across butt naked...husband went bright red and nearly ripped the curtains down pulling them shut...we’ve asked our neighbour next door but one if they’ve noticed ...they’ve said yes and asked her to close her curtains or put net curtains up etc she said she didn’t realise but this morning she’s starkers again! Aibu to think she should know better and at least close her curtains when getting dressed?

Sorry BitOutOfPractice

FFS. I hate this attitude of 'don't look'. If you want to be naked in your own home fine. But don't inflict it on others you selfish bastards.

Gosh! That is a rather full-on view of her bush, innit!?

She's not daft, she knows full well what she's doing and is probably enjoying it. Maybe she fancies your husband, or one of your neighbours, and is trying to get their attention. Its odd that she's only just started doing it, so something has given her the idea. If she doesn't stop now you've spoken to her then she has no intention of stopping.

Ugh so she knows you can see and is enjoying it. Ugh.

I need that gin now JonSnowsWide

Saucy

@ PiffleandWiffle did you read my post?? Of course I don’t think blinds/curtains open themselves, but by accidentally open I meant that they have been opened by someone else and I then unsuspectingly walk back into my room, and find them open. My husband does this all the bloody time despite me asking him not to open the curtains until I’m out of bed, showered and dressed. But according to this thread that’s makes me a weirdo or an exhibitionist

I’ve been caught out by my husband doing this too!! I’ve been mortified lol and dived to the floor like I was in the Marines

OP it's actually illegal

Even in Britain, the land of stupid nanny state laws, it is NOT illegal to get changed in your own bedroom without closing the curtains.

I think you went too far with her giggling...

You offered to tidy her garden because it was bringing the tone of the neighbourhood down and other neighbors have gossiped about her!?!
There you have it....she doesn't give a flying shit what her gossipy neighbours think. Good for her!!

I think it's obviously totally fine to be naked in your own home. But if you are doing things like standing for a prolonged period of time naked and looking out the window, and the neighbour's tell you it makes them feel a bit uncomfortable, then the decent thing to do would be to cover up in the room that's overlooked. If she wants to sleep naked and have her curtains open then that's her choice and she's not doing anything wrong. But to stand at the window naked for ages when she knows anyone can see her is a bit weird

OP it's actually illegal. If it were a man standing there like that over and over again, then people would call him a flasher

It is NOT illegal. If you are going to diseminate information at least make sure its factual.

Hardly anyone closes their curtains in this country. It's weird. So many people don't even have curtains. Walk down a residential street after dark and you see people in their downstairs living room doing all sorts of things, open to public view. And don't get me started about those pointless shutters that only cover the bottom half of windows so your neighbours on the opposite side of the road can peer through the upper half from their upstairs windows. (I am sure they do...)

Yeah I read it again JonSnow, it makes absolutely no difference to my point.

I'd be careful about putting pictures of her house on here OP.

Leave her alone, ignore and stop gossiping with your neighbours about her.

Also all those suggesting calling the police need to have a word with themselves. No wonder they are struggling with workload of members of the public are so feeble that they resort to the police for any inconsequential annoyance in their lives.

SaucyJack

In fact a more valid police complaint would be her reporting g you for posting pics of her bedroom window on the web. What are you, a pervert?!

Surely your eyes are drawn to a person/ anything moving when you look out a window. I know you can "not look" but it takes a really deliberate effort. To get home I used to walk past a place with floor to ceiling glass for two walls of the lounge. I used to really deliberately not look in but actually takes effort to ignore light/ movement especially when everything else is dark and still.

OP. Were you on Mumsnet with the bollard and driveway thread when someone started posting photos?

I just think you should err on the side of caution with photos especially when bollard lady was immediately outed and her neighbours spotted the thread.

OP is free to look out her curtains whenever she wants, but I think taking pictures of someone else’s window to prove a point is invading her neighbours privacy.

By the sounds of it, she obviously doesn’t care and is perhaps doing it to get a rise, but I don’t really understand why people are so worked up by nudity.

I am another one who walks from room to room naked. The curtains in the room with my clothes are always open (it’s not the room I sleep in) and if anyone was looking they would get a view of me dressing. I abhor net curtains, and have no need for a blind in a room I barely use.

(And NOT in my 40s+ - I just think it’s too much fuss to open and close curtains in a very dark room when dressing).

think you lost any moral high ground when you took pictures of a view into someone's bedroom and posted them on the Internet.

I agree Freudian.