To ask my neighbour opposite to close her curtains?

[Sparklyshoes16]

Last few days we’ve noticed a bit of odd behaviour from our neighbour opposite. She sleeps with her curtains open all night and then gets undressed/dressed with them open in the morning. When she’s going to bed she’s starkers! We’ve resorted to leaving our bedroom curtains closed all day everyday as she’s been naked during the day

My husband opened our curtains this morning after we’d got dressed etc to find her stood staring across butt naked...husband went bright red and nearly ripped the curtains down pulling them shut...we’ve asked our neighbour next door but one if they’ve noticed ...they’ve said yes and asked her to close her curtains or put net curtains up etc she said she didn’t realise but this morning she’s starkers again! Aibu to think she should know better and at least close her curtains when getting dressed?

Does she have kids, OP, that you know of?

Someone I worked with was prosecuted for this. Being naked in his living room. It was 15 plus years ago. Iirc the case against him wasn't proved. He admitted being naked/flashing his penis but said his dressing gown fell open accidentally.

Meant to add, he went to court. Was in all the local press, name dragged through the mud. Media inferrred he was stood at his window flashing at local kids. Now has a reputation has a paedophile.

It’s a weird thing to do. I think she sounds like a flasher.

No point in asking her to stop if other neighbours have already done so. She may enjoy upsetting people (some people do ) or she may get some other kicks from it.

I’d avoid her and wouldn’t engage

Battle - is't it wicker hearts nowadays?

Battle = Battleax

Pretty sure lots of people on the top deck of buses on the bus route near my window have seen me naked while getting dressed in the morning. Hey ho

As someone said, if it was a MAN doing this (making sure people can see him naked in his home,) he would be arrested for indecent exposure.

What rubbish Raven.

www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-kent-38895490

Report to the police to cover yourself. If she’s weird enough to deliberately expose herself then what else could she do.
Reporting could also help her. If she’s ill the police may pick up on this if they pop round for a chat.

There’s a difference between walking round your house naked and standing at the window looking out naked.
Why is she allowed to look out her window and not be called nosey but if the OP does fully clothed she is being nosey.
Why is it ok for a woman to expose herself and not a man.
Some of these replies are idiotic.

I find the responses so odd!

If I am naked I close my bloody blind, regardless of time of day... Nobody wants to see that

RavenBlack. I agree with everything that you say.

My friend had a papershop. A local guy was in looking at magazines, behind a rack, where she could not see him. She noticed a crowd gathering outside and when she went to investigate he was masturbating in her shop window. Apparently he had a habit of standing naked in his bedroom window. He had a mental illness.

Lol at crowd gathering watching 😁

“Report to the Police” and people wonder why our services are overwhelmed

RavenBlack I disagree with everything you said.

it's fucking WEIRD to prance around next to a window that faces out into a public area/other peoples houses, when you're stark bollock naked!!!

She's not prancing.

The ones who actually do think it's OK (and I bet there are very few,) are probably the same ones who prance around 100% naked in communal changing rooms in swimming baths, gyms, and clothes shops, with their tits 2 feet away from people they don't even know, and their fanjo on full show, not caring if that person is feeling awkward, because 'it's only a body!'

Nope. I think it's ok and would just not look but I would be one of the ones in the gym changing room feeling awkward. However, that awkwardness is my problem and no one else's.

It's really quite easy to just not look. There are plenty of other directions to look in that aren't right at the naked woman. Unless you all live in a weird fairground house of mirrors.

Can't believe all the pearl clutching here. It's perfectly normal to walk around naked in your own home. If it offends you to catch a glimpse of a neighbour's naked body, then get some nets or blinds so you can't see.

When I was a kid, we lived in a 3rd floor flat that overlooked some houses. The smallest bedroom was opposite the lav, and if the neighbours opposite had left the bedroom door open, we could see straight through. A lot of the men would just go and piss with the toilet door open, which caused mild amusement in in our house, but there was one lady who NEVER shut it.

My mum intended to tell her when she saw her around, but somehow never got round to it. In the end, it had gone on for so long that mentioning it would have been embarrassing. We used to find it hilarious as kids. The cry would go up "Nora's on the bog again" and fall about laughing. In the end, my mum told us that we were rude to look, it wasn't funny, and Nora almost certainly didn't realise we could see, and that we were invading her privacy by looking.

I think my mum was right. As she was about most things, bless her soul.

Why was your first thought to discuss it with next door neighbour but one but not with the person involved?

It sounds like other neighbour has pissed her off and she's still prancing about in an 'up yours' attititude.

Perhaps have a word with the opposite neighbour themselves and tactfully ask if she realises the whole street can see her?

causing offence and distress

Good God anyone'd think she was streaking across her neighbours lawns.

But I don't want blinds or nets - I want the light to come into my house.
Though I don't really care if my neighbour wanders around naked - just see it as attention seeking behaviour and inappropriate really - it's she that should have her blinds drawn.

Report to the Police?

She could always TALK to the neighbour first instead of gossiping with NDNB1? Before feeling they need to let the police know? They're overstretched as it is, i doubt they're going to do much straight away because someone's husband was offended by the sight of a naked body.

The ones who actually do think it's OK (and I bet there are very few,) are probably the same ones who prance around 100% naked in communal changing rooms in swimming baths, gyms, and clothes shops, with their tits 2 feet away from people they don't even know, and their fanjo on full show, not caring if that person is feeling awkward, because 'it's only a body!'

No I don't prance around in COMMUNAL changing rooms because I'm not at home.

The bloody cheek of some of the people on here accusing you of peeping. You have a right to be able look out of your own windows without someone staring back at you starkers or indeed without worrying that someone will accuse you of ‘peeping’. I imagine if it was Harvey Weinstein doing it people would respond differently.
JonSnow, would you be so dismissive of the feelings of someone’s wife being ‘so offended by the sight of a naked body’ if it was a man?
Of course you can do as you wish in your own home but you have to do it in a way that doesn’t obviously embarrass or distress anyone because that’s how society works.

It's not an offence to be naked in public in England and Wales but it does become an offence if it can be proved the person stripped off with the intention to upset and shock. The complainant has to prove this.

She's naked in her own home not in public.

SO to all the pearl clutches hideously offended and assuming she must be doing it on purpose... what happens when you walk back into a room naked and the blinds are accidentally open? This happens in my house all the time.... I sleep naked. Husband gets up in morning and opens curtains, leaves the room. Now for me to get out of bed, the only option is to do it naked with the curtains open. Or, curtains have been opened while I am in the shower, I return to the room unaware and have to drop to the floor commando style or quickly grab something to cover up so I’m not on display. Not that I actually care all that much that someone might see me.