To ask my neighbour opposite to close her curtains?

[Sparklyshoes16]

Last few days we’ve noticed a bit of odd behaviour from our neighbour opposite. She sleeps with her curtains open all night and then gets undressed/dressed with them open in the morning. When she’s going to bed she’s starkers! We’ve resorted to leaving our bedroom curtains closed all day everyday as she’s been naked during the day

My husband opened our curtains this morning after we’d got dressed etc to find her stood staring across butt naked...husband went bright red and nearly ripped the curtains down pulling them shut...we’ve asked our neighbour next door but one if they’ve noticed ...they’ve said yes and asked her to close her curtains or put net curtains up etc she said she didn’t realise but this morning she’s starkers again! Aibu to think she should know better and at least close her curtains when getting dressed?

OP is free to look out her curtains whenever she wants, but I think taking pictures of someone else’s window to prove a point is invading her neighbours privacy.

Give it a minute wonderlime you'll have someone telling you its fine to invade her privacy because she was naked one too many times. Doublestandards indeed eh?

Op her reaction says she knows and is doing it on purpose. In addition the fact she is Standing naked staring out the window and that she’s been told before by another neighbour also indicates strongly she’s doing it on purpose., for reasons only she knows.

I think taking pictures of someone else’s window to prove a point is invading her neighbours privacy

It’s not a competition. Ones actions does not negate the others. These are not children saying “well she started it”.

Seriously, grow the fuck up. You don’t stand naked at your window flashing your neighbours, their guests and their kids repeatedly.

And you don’t take pictures of your neighbours window! Seriously, what the hell is wrong with a person to think that’s okay?

And way to drop the rest of my comment. I already said that I think the neighbour probably is doing it to get a rise (personally I don’t have a solution), and I think it’s perfectly fine for the OP to look at out her window when she wants rather than close her curtains, but it absolutely not okay to take pictures of the neighbours window and post them on a public site like this.

We used to live in a fourth floor flat opposite a man who would stand full-frontal naked in his window, gazing out. It was awful. We couldn’t relax about looking out our windows at our otherwise lovely rooftop view at all, because it felt like he was really alert to us being there and was getting off on even the possibility of being seen. I mean we didn’t have to look at him but he wouldn’t be able to tell, would he? He would see me standing in my window and looking out - whether or not my eyes were specifically directed at him would be kind of irrelevant. I felt forced into participation in his kink and it was hard not to feel like he was watching us, too. I hated it.

Okkokie I don’t understand!

Rollmopsrule we offered to help because we were out doing our garden one day as she was struggling to get up her path with her shopping.

I would get vertical blinds installed because the chances are she's looking right into your windows too!

Seriously, it’s just a window, hardly identifiable, and people take pics of houses and post them all the time, even the bloody media do it.

What’s not ok is purposefully and repeatedly displaying your genitalia to your neighbours their guests and their kids.

Jonsnowswife no that is not me about the bollard thing!

Whizzbang I have not said ANYTHING about calling the police!!! And won’t be as they have far too much on their plates.

So being naked in the window negates the pictures of the house being taken? I thought it wasn’t a competition

Seriously, it’s just a window, hardly identifiable, and people take pics of houses and post them all the time, even the bloody media do it.

Exactly, Google images probably provides more.
Probably has her naked at her window

Wondeline i took a pic because a few people back through the thread have said I’m making it up window doesn’t exist opposite etc! She is not in the window and I wouldn’t if she was!!

I have asked one neighbour who is opposite (there are more that can see) if she thought/knew anything ie mental health etc and she is not aware of...we just find it odd as she’s started doing it since Sunday!

OP if any media outlets pick up this thread I hope you are reported and named and shamed for posting photos of your neighbours house on here. She sounds like she might need help. And you're stressing about her garden.

Google images probably provides more

Exactly. The mind set of you can flash your muff to your neighbours for as long as you wish, as long as you’re doing it inside your home up against your window but fuck you cant take a pic of an empty window is beyond mind boggling.

I hope you are reported and named and shamed for posting photos of your neighbours house on here

Yeah, her and google earth eh?

Where did I say that?

And Google Earth probably does provide more - but none of us know the address to search so it’s irrelevant.

@sparklyshoes16 you might want to read my post again. I didn't say or infer you was the bollard lady! I asked if you were on mumsnet at the time when it happened and saw it unfold as the thread went on.

I don't think it's too far a leap to jump to to kindly tell you to ere on the side of caution it may be identifying, especially with your other friendship tree thread.

*err even not ere.

Fair enough OP, it is other posters who have suggested involving the police, not you

Actually she could get in bother. If it were a man the answers here would be different from those defending her.

Before the October hols a boy left my dd school after an after school club and a man was stood totally naked at his living room window. The police and school took it very seriously. An email was sent to all parents and the police said if it happened again the man would be charged with breach of the peace, public indecency and possibly be put on the sex offenders register.

Thanks Bluntness100 and those that are thinking along the same lines!!

Wonderlime I’m confused I haven’t given out my address!!

Chinarose I’m not bothered about her garden I’m more concerned with somebody unsavoury walking past, seeing her at night time and doing something awful and so is my neighbour!! in addition to my family and guests feeling uncomfortable!

Sorry jonsnowswife misread your post!

fucksake It depends entirely on the circumstances if an offence has been committed. Wandering around your house naked? No offence committed and if there was I would have got the jail years ago.

Standing in front of a living room window naked knowing school kids walking by? Different circumstances and offence committed.