To think getting quite drunk with a baby is odd??

[Choccywoccydoo10]

NC as could be outing.

So we are suppose to be visiting friends this weekend. They have a 6 month old we have a toddler. They want to go out for dinner and drink then go back to theirs and pop open the champagne. Apparently they have quite a few bottles. My DP friend then said he's going to guzzle the wine and his wife will be drinking too.

Obviously most of the drinking will be when the kids are in bed but AIBU to think you wouldn't do this?? What if something happened like an emergency and you needed to go out or the baby needed something. I wouldn't want to get really drunk while caring for my D'S.

I'm all for having fun and a laugh but a glass or 2 not 3 bottles of champagne and guzzling wine!

AIBU or would other people do this?

Sometimes we even take the kids to the local pub for the weekend!
I presume you didn't mean the entire weekend; but I think spending an afternoon at the pub accompanied by your kids is a bit shit, tbh.
I know someone who spends the whole of Christmas morning at the pub and insists that her son (who's about 8) doesn't mind at all leaving his new toys to go and sit in a bar on Christmas day watching adults necking alcohol. Because it's "fun". No, it's scummy.

Your thread title makes it sound like someone is planning to open a bottle of pinot and share it with the baby. They will get giggly together and then talk shit about other people until they both pass out on the sofa

Seriously though, nothing wrong with having a few drinks while your baby is in bed is there?

I’m pretty sure being drunk incharge of a minor is an offence

FGS. No it bloody isn’t.

@Uokbing

Me and my 5 week old prefer a nice stout actually

but I think spending an afternoon at the pub accompanied by your kids is a bit shit, tbh.

Really?! We do it all the time in the summer. Wall through the countryside to the pub with friends, sit in the garden, have many a few drinks whilst all the kids run around, walk home. It's great!

but you still have no evidence that she's going to get incapable. It does sound as though you've not got much business being friends with them.

what do you want from the thread? You've found some likeminded folk, and some people that think you're being unreasonable to demand sobriety from one parent.

So?

I know his wife won't be staying sober as she's said she's looking forward to drinking

I say this when I am going to have 1 or 3 Coors Light beers! Not even pints but the bottles! Still able to be completely in control of myself, I don’t even think I would be over the limit to drive (although I never drive after any alcohol so am not 100% sure of what equates to the limit)

Both parents drunk when they have a 6 month old to look after is stupid.

And, FYI, @Ecureuil, it bloody is an offence to be found drunk in any highway or other public place, whether a building or not, or on any licensed premises, while having the charge of a child apparently under the age of seven years.

*1 or 2 lol!

We don’t actually get drunk as neither of us like it, but DH and I both go over-the-limit a couple of nights a week once the children are in bed. We’re stressed parents who sometimes need to take the edge off - can anyone relate?

If there were an emergency then we would either get a taxi or ask friends who live in our street.

If any of the DCs happen to be out, one of us won’t have a drink in case they need picking up, even if another parent is supposed to be doing the transport.

Are people seriously saying they would never drink a drop the entire time they are in charge of children? For me this would mean 22 years

but I think spending an afternoon at the pub accompanied by your kids is a bit shit, tbh

Bully for you. The odd time we do it, my kids bloody love it! They get fizzy drinks which they are never allowed, crisps, often we get pizzas etc. We play cards or watch the rugby together. It's a fun family afternoon.
Perhaps you just aren't trying?

The amount of worrying comments here prove how normalised our drinking culture has become. It is not remotely acceptable for parents to get drunk when there are children in the house. In fact it's downright disgusting, no wonder ss are so overworked!

well drunk in a public place is a key isn't it - they're not, they're getting drunk at home. Case closed m'lud.

I know someone who spends the whole of Christmas morning at the pub and insists that her son (who's about 8) doesn't mind at all leaving his new toys to go and sit in a bar on Christmas day watching adults necking alcohol. Because it's "fun". No, it's scummy.
That would be my parents since I was little
They want me to bring my DS this year and spend 4 hours in the pub. Not so keen.

Uokbing just read it back. It does! Made me chuckle!

best was just wondering if I was alone in my thoughts. I think that's what this topic is about??

And, FYI, @Ecureuil, it bloody is an offence to be found drunk in any highway or other public place, whether a building or not, or on any licensed premises, while having the charge of a child apparently under the age of seven years

that is DRUNK in public and in charge of a child. Not DRINKING and in charge of a child (and at home is not in public either).

It is called having fun!

sinceyouask

That’s about being out in public, not in your own home so I am assuming it’s not an offence in that situation

I presume you didn't mean the entire weekend; but I think spending an afternoon at the pub accompanied by your kids is a bit shit, tbh.

Local family friendly pub, kids take colouring, a few toys, card games, play with friends kids. It's great fun for everyone - I'm not talking about us sitting getting hammered ignoring the kids. The kids enjoy it and we get to chill a bit at the same time!

If it’s bad enough to need to get to hospital faster than you could get there in a taxi, then it’s time to call an ambulance.

The chances of something bad happening to a six month old or a toddler who are already in bed is small.

It might be wise for at least one of a group to not be absolutely smashed to the point where they can’t do anything at all.

Most sensible grown ups can have a few glasses of whatever and still deal fine with an emergency situation if it happens, adrenaline is quite marvellous in that respect.

Weed is not something I personally use ever, however I’ve known plenty who do and it doesn’t really impair some peoples judgement, but others who would be pretty useless. Hard to say really but not a big deal as you won’t be I guess.

I think your problem is your childhood not the current issue.

YANBU. I agree that a few glasses is fine, but getting really pissed when you have kids isn't on.

I'm pretty laissez faire when it comes to parenting but I wouldn't get drunk when I had responsibility for my kids, as you never know what could happen. Especially at that age, you need to be able to think clearly in case of an emergency...ok an emergency is unlikely to happen, but it's just not worth the risk. I think if a lot of drinking is planned then it's best the kids are staying with someone else for the night.

Jeez unclench

It appears that people are unable to tell the difference between relaxing with a few drinks and being unable to stand, never leave the pub, paralytic.
They should try and understand the difference before being so judgey.

I'm in the minority that thinks it's absolutely disgusting to drink at all when in charge of children. It might be all well and good saying that there are friends, neighbours and ambulances for a reason but why should neighbours be there to help me if I'm pissed and my child needs help?
There's a difference between being pissed ang having a glass or two whilst you have your kids.
You may not have drunk since you've had your kids but i don't see why other parents can't have a glass or two

so this friend is effectively bringing you back to how your parents treated you as kids?

Not quite the same though is it - they're not traipsing their baby around pubs. I agree, dragging small children to the pub on Christmas day wouldn't be my first choice for fun times.

I don't know where you go from here - I reckon you should back out of the event or make sure you make plans to leave before the serious drinking kicks off as it makes you unhappy.