To think getting quite drunk with a baby is odd??

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NC as could be outing.

So we are suppose to be visiting friends this weekend. They have a 6 month old we have a toddler. They want to go out for dinner and drink then go back to theirs and pop open the champagne. Apparently they have quite a few bottles. My DP friend then said he's going to guzzle the wine and his wife will be drinking too.

Obviously most of the drinking will be when the kids are in bed but AIBU to think you wouldn't do this?? What if something happened like an emergency and you needed to go out or the baby needed something. I wouldn't want to get really drunk while caring for my D'S.

I'm all for having fun and a laugh but a glass or 2 not 3 bottles of champagne and guzzling wine!

AIBU or would other people do this?

If the kids are around I'm not keen on getting really drunk but honestly, I have three children and over the course of these past 11 years I have never suddenly needed to drop everything unexpectedly to drive to a&e. If I knew they were ill I'd not drink, and accidents usually happen when they are not in bed.
If you are uncomfortable drinking then that is your choice not to, other people can parent how they like.

Give them a break, they've got a six month old!

In all likelihood they'll have a couple of glasses of wine with dinner and be out cold on the sofa by 9.30pm.

I'm only regaining my capacity for big nights out now, and my dd is almost three.

Sorry but you did insinuate that the parents were responsible for the death of their dc becuase they had been drinking

I did no such thing. I made it clear in my statement "because there were no ambulances in the area" I never have blamed the parents. It was simply a story which sent a shiver down my spine at the time. I know I would feel horrible if it were me, which is why I make sure someone is sober.

In a real emergency, so a life threatening one, you ring an ambulance. In other cases, you ring a taxi.

You are smug and sanctimonious

Cool, then I'm happy with that and my choices. The opinions of random internet GFs really don't concern me.

I'm actually allowed to have opinions about alcohol. And I'm entitled to them. If that makes me smug, so be it.

Sorry but you did insinuate that the parents were responsible for the death of their dc becuase they had been drinking

I did no such thing. I made it clear in my statement "because there were no ambulances in the area" I never have blamed the parents. It was simply a story which sent a shiver down my spine at the time. I know I would feel horrible if it were me, which is why I make sure someone is sober

Right, okay then!

i agree brasty and the first aid course I did pre-DC advised us to ring an ambulance for serious emergencies as they can get to you faster than you can get to them, nearly all the time!

You do what is MOST likely - if you face a serious emergency, it's by far the best course of action to ring an ambulance because they can get to you faster and driving whilst terrified for your kid's life is NOT RECOMMENDED.

The 999 operators can talk you through interim first aid.

Thank you @EastDulwichWife 😂😂 how funny. Caught out " talking typing" forgot to proof read after always gets me
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*no foo you implied you didn't drink as you read a story about a girl dying due to lack of ambulances and posited not drinking as an obvious response to that story, which it isn't AT ALL.

A more obvious response is to hold the government to better account for why there were no ambulances rather than blaming the parents (victims)*

Again with the "implied" how come people are so quick to assume that how they read something is my responsibility? Others putting two and two together and reaching 5, is not down to me.

It was an obvious response for me. I couldn't care less if it isn't the response you or anyone else would have.

The Government was held to account. There was an inquiry and they were soundly beaten over what happened.

ProfessorCat

Just wanted to add that I don’t think you have come across like that, I also don’t drink caffeine as it gives me anxiety.

in fact foo, getting in your car with a seriously ill DC because you fear the ambulance may not come - that's very likely to be the wrong course of action.

I did no such thing. I made it clear in my statement "because there were no ambulances in the area" I never have blamed the parents. It was simply a story which sent a shiver down my spine at the time. I know I would feel horrible if it were me, which is why I make sure someone is sober.

Come on. Why recount the story on the thread if you weren’t judging the parents?

Foo stop it now. Your post was very clear. We all saw what you meant.
If you didn't think their drinking was relevant you would never have said it on a thread about whether parents should drink.

OP I like a drink too- but that means a few glasses of wine, not ‘steaming’- you don’t know that she will be drunk, you are assuming.

I don’t drive and so if my DP has a drink then we would have to get a taxi. I have drank several times since my DC were born and each time I was more than arable of looking after them. TBH you sound a bit sanctimonious- just don’t go if you are that bothered.

I think its odd to dislike your friends so much op. If you no longer like them , cut contact.

i don't know why else foo you'd report the parents were drunk if you weren't criticising them. You're being disingenuous. I also think your reaction is wrong and overly anxious - I'm not implying that, I'm stating it. I've done this too - I'm over-anxious and sometimes my risk assessment is way off. You should investigate recommended emergency procedures.

My mum got so drunk when I was a baby that she thought there were two of me in the cot. She's never consumed alcohol around children under school age since. I personally don't think it's appropriate to have more than a couple in the company of children, let alone while being responsible for them. It's a parent's choice, sure, but it isn't something I'd ever do - or anyone I'd let my children spend time with.

I wouldn't have more than 2 drinks with a child at home..if I'm drinking at all it will usually be one small glass..
But I have a toddler who is not a great sleeper and up most days at 5.30...being drunk and having to tend to him is my idea of a nightmare.

I'm suprised that a couple with a 6 month old is up to a party like that..I'm also suprised you are up to it and your toddler will sleep fine at their house..suprised and a little jealous..mine just wouldn't.

Ps. Nothing AT ALL wrong with ppl saying its irresponsible to get drunk while caring for young DC.

i don't know why else foo you'd report the parents were drunk if you weren't criticising them. You're being disingenuous. I also think your reaction is wrong and overly anxious - I'm not implying that, I'm stating it. I've done this too - I'm over-anxious and sometimes my risk assessment is way off. You should investigate recommended emergency procedures.

Duh - because it is one reason why I want to make sure I'm sober.

And I couldn't give a crap whether you think I am wrong or over anxious. Having a child who right from the word go has been around hospitals both in emergency and non emergency situations, for whom we have already been well trained in how to deal with those emergency situations and for whom we provide training for others, I think it is safe to say we are pretty well versed in how to deal with emergency situations. There are many things I can be accused of but "anxious" is so off the mark it is laughable.

But thanks for your "advice."

Professor ah, I see you've gone the "less intelligent than me" route now by using the word thick. You sound like a grade a cunt, regardless of health issues _ whether you drink or not, if that makes me sound thick so be it. Have a fun festive season, you'll probably be alone knitting or something.

I'd never do it. I just hope they aren't cosleepers.

Bloody hell.
There are a lot of sanctimummies on here who SERIOUSLY need to unclench 😮

Foo stop it now. Your post was very clear. We all saw what you meant.
If you didn't think their drinking was relevant you would never have said it on a thread about whether parents should drink

"stop it now" really? WTF is that about?

I think you are being deliberately obtuse and goady but will say it one more time, just for you, because apparently like my 8 year old you need telling things several times before it sinks in. My comments pertained to what I do and why. I have made absolutely no judgement on whether I think others should or shouldn't do the same. If you want to take my examples and cast blame on those poor parents because of whatever thoughts are in your own mind, you go right ahead. That's on you, not on me.

well foo, that's information that wasn't in any of your previous posts was it now so there was no way to think that you weren't someone that reads newspaper reports of unlikely events and then overly constrains their life on that basis...i'm sorry to hear your DC has been so poorly, if that had been in your first few posts I'd never have engaged or mentioned anxiety.

To me it sounds like they are excited about having a night out and are chatting it up.
I doubt very much the wife will be wanting to get steaming as if her husband is then she’s going to be the one left literally holding the baby in the morning.

Have you seen them since they’ve had their baby? You see you don’t see them often so maybe you’re point of reference is their pre baby days.

To be honest it just sounds like you don’t like him and don’t want to go.
I’m projecting but t seems like he’s your husbands friend more than yours and you’re looking for a way to not visit them.
Just don’t go, why can’t your husband go by himself?