To think a 13 year old boy shouldn't use the ladies loo?

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NC for this. Recently I was in a situation where a group of people I was in went to a service station. A boy of 13 was told by his mother to come into the ladies with her rather than use the gents as it was safer.

AIBU to think that’s not OK?

Mens rights - yeah right it was a reasonable discussion until now goodbye OMG

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I'm not sure it was doodle

Oh, is he off now?

"Id have difficulty in female toilets for sure"

What do you mean?

What worries me is how many kids does it happen to and it goes unreported. (Boys and girls)
They are threatened with silence, parent gives them an earful when they get back for taking so long.
Unsure what the fuck has just happened. Child keeps quiet.

I would put money it's many many more than the reported.

Why can’t we have gender fluid toilets? The cubicles have doors. Where do trans people go?

Why can’t we have gender fluid toilets?

Cos gender doesn't exist and toilets are separated by sex.

Love how biys are second ckass citizens just because people stand up for the rights of Girls to not suck it up and deal with teenagers in the ladies loos

mrsBeverleyGoldberg unisex loos, where you get cubicles with full-length doors opening off a short, open corridor (ie you aren't trapped in a room with one exit), are fine in places like hospitals and schools where there is more or less constant supervision, and also in paces like coffee shops, etc, where there's only space for a couple of loos anyway. But my experience with this as a public loo in an unsupervised place (Camden Lock Market) is that some men leave their cubicle doors open, and we all get a lovely view of Stranger Penis whether we like it or not. Now whether they do this because they are lazy, or whether they do this because Camden Lock is full of teenage girls, and it's an easy way for them to expose themselves to these girls with plausible deniability ("I was just having a pee!") I don't know. But it does mean that unisex loos aren't without their own problems.

"Id have difficulty in female toilets for sure"

What do you mean?

He's a man.

Does a gender fluid loo decide every morning whether it's a men's or a women's facility and arrange to be stocked with blue or pink soap as appropriate?

Wonder if the men's would remain the men's too.

Just the women's becoming gender fluid so teenage boys can use them witg their mummys

What do all these 13+ NT males using female spaces with their mother do when they're not with their mother?

Have regular group pissing sessions or wet themselves

Carry on with ur judging!! None of you know if that boy had SN, ur all Assuming!! And exactly in her own words, she didnt feel it was safe so should be free to deal with a situation in the way she sees fit in regard to HER child. The only ppl who get crap on here are the ones who dont agree with the op so carry on attacking the ppl who dont agree!! These posts really should come with a sub title - unless u agree dont comment!! I myself have better things to do than spend my day judging parents & questioning childrens toilet habits!! To those who said im letting Woman down, grow up, people are people and children are children!! Theres no difference to the girls scared of going into toilets to the boys scared of going into the toilets!!

Maybe the toilets could just be non-binary?

Yikes ArcheryAnnie. Yes, they’d need to be supervised. I️ still think children like ds1 can use female toilets with me supervising. But I’m obviously naive as to what some men do. Why aren’t the Police arresting them?

Or it could he like when we had a cross dress party at college and they put on dresses and tried to use the ladies loos in a big group.

I will admit to attempting to throw them out along witg other female students who wanted to use the bathroom.

Pru, we do know because the OP said he is NT. She's known him since birth!

"What do all these 13+ NT males using female spaces with their mother do when they're not with their mother?"
Presumably they never are.......,,

Do only the boys SN matter then pru

If a child is unable to access the toilet alone by the time they are a teenager the can use the accessible toilet. At some point they will have to stop going on there and AN don't go away

In the first post she doesnt mention knowing the boy, just that he doesnt & after many also saying how do u know hes not? Shes obviously now decided to share that. Like i said i dont have time to follow this crap, i just shared many opinion like all of you but like i said, only the ppl who dont agree with op get picked at. Now unfollowing & stand by what i have said.

@Pru24 the OP mentions later in the thread...

If the child has sn then they should be using the disabled toilet if they can’t access the toilets alone

Suggesting AN is irrelevant though as a 13yo with AN should be using the accessible toilets not the ladies

@Pru24 my post stating that the boy is a member of my family is within 5 mins of the OP, it’s very early on. I should have included it I agree but if you’ve not even read as far as 10 posts in then there’s no helping you!

So please, do continue to stand by your point. People are telling you that you are wrong, because you are. I don’t know what to do about that 🤷🏻‍♂️