AIBU to think it's a bit weird to put your photo as a bride as as your main

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profile picture on FB/Twitter? especially if you haven't just got married!
Isn't it like saying 'I'm a wife first and foremost'?

God what a mean spirited OP. Woman used a profile picture that she likes and makes her happy, has no bearing on anyone else and you rush to the net to try to start a bitch fest. Horrible.

The only thing more tedious than social media these days is people getting judgy and snide about how others use social media.

lyinwitch yes, that's true, since I'm not in DH's profile picture it's not that clearly identifiable as his wedding day.

I think my post above was misinterpreted - I was pretty clear, I though, that I had realised that I was being sexist and unfair in my assumptions about women who use their wedding photos for years afterwards. But it does bring up particular connotations for me that I find hard to shake. I think it's part of my wider dislike for our society's attitudes towards 'the bride', but I should try harder to separate my dislike of the cultural pressures put on women from my feelings towards the women who embrace this.

I think it's a bit naff, however, my Facebook profile photo is of one of my cats which I read is equally naff. One man's poison and all that.......

I find it a bit weird too OP, like nothing else has happened in those intervening years. I think that is often the case actually

Equally I find it quite sad that people spend so much time on social media, regularly cultivating and changing their profile. Makes me wonder if they have much of a real life, or if they are genuine (yes I realise the irony of that coming from someone posting multiple times on an anonymous online forum - might have a word with myself!)

No not at all I love my wedding photos I feel I looked amazing had my hair and makeup done professionally and it’s not something I have done every day or every month plus I love to look back at mine and remember those feelings I had getting ready followed by my honeymoon not weird at all

profile picture on FB/Twitter? especially if you haven't just got married!
Isn't it like saying 'I'm a wife first and foremost'?

Eh? That's some serious over-thinking! Maybe they just like the picture and nothing to do with "now I am only a wife."

Blimey, my profile picture is of a flower. Does that mean I identify as a plant?!

My FB photo is my cat. What does that say about how I identify?

Not worried about using my pic. I am very careful what I post on here!!!

I think it's about saying, "I think this is the best photo of me and I love it because it has such happy memories".

However if it's a professional account, so a work twitter or LinkedIn or something, I would agree it would be weird. Albeit because it's personal not because it prioritises being a wife!

Depends how old the photo is.

If it's fairly recent and was taken in the last couple of years and the person still looks like the same person, then fair enough it's not hurting anybody if that person wants a photo of them looking at their best, but it is kind of tragic ( and weird) to post a profile pic of yourself as a bride if the pic was taken years and years ago and you look completely different now.
Imagine the shock if it were a dating site and the person is expecting to meet up with a bright young thing, only to find themselves face to face with a decrepit, worn out banger!

It's misleading advertising if nothing else.

I have different feelings about Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn.

On Facebook, I want to see YOUR FACE.
Not your child, not your pet, not a group. Your face. The one that is on the front of your head.

On LinkedIn, the same, only I'd also like to not see you looking not-professional. (this is looser than saying "you should look professional") You don't have to be in a suit, but don't be on a beach or obviously drinking or in fancy dress or in a wedding dress.

On Twitter, use a cartoon or a pet or whatever you like.

Your FB profile should surely reflect who you generally are, not who you appeared to be on one day.

What on earth makes you think there are any 'rules' about what a person's FB profile picture 'should' do?

YANBU. I always think it’s a bit pathetic. Acceptable only on your wedding anniversary and then, FFS, not every year.

Auntie, glad to see I'm not the only horrible meanie

YANBU. I always think it’s a bit pathetic. Acceptable only on your wedding anniversary and then, FFS, not every year.

Auntie, glad to see I'm not the only horrible meanie

I am amazed by this. I barely give my friend's profile pictures a thought. But then the post does smack of trying desperately to find fault with someone.

Your FB profile should surely reflect who you generally are, not who you appeared to be on one day.

I have wedding pics on FB , but not as a profile pic, mainly because I look nothing like that anymore I wish

But some people are strange.

DoJo I refer you to Trills who puts it much better than I can. It's literally called FACEbook and it's about linking real people to each other socially.

I was quite an early adopter so I guess I still use FB much the same way it was originally designed - obviously it's moved on significantly but at its heart it's about identifiable people, unlike Twitter or Tumblr or even Instagram. It's not "should" as in "must" but as in "this is the convention".

My profile photo is on my wedding day - i haven't changed it in eight years. I don't give it any thought really. Yes, I don't look like that every day but so what?

I think people who change their profile regularly are often just looking for compliments... my cousin recently put on a new profile photo of herself and it was followed by over a 100 comments of 'you look amazing' variety. Good for her but wouldn't be something I'd do. Hope she's not judging me for my photo!

DH’s profile picture is of him as a groom (mainly because he hasn’t been on Facebook in the 5 years since we got married!). Is that a message that he’s a husband, first and foremost?
My wedding pictures are the only pictures of me that I actually like.

It's not "should" as in "must" but as in "this is the convention".

Thank you MrsHathaway, yes this is what "should" often means. :)

but it is kind of tragic ( and weird) to post a profile pic of yourself as a bride if the pic was taken years and years ago and you look completely different now.

Oh well it's a good thing I look exactly the same as I did when I got married five years ago then, isn't it! Otherwise I'd be "misleading" the people I see on a regular basis

The only people I have as friends on Facebook are friends and family who I see/spend time with regularly. So I don’t think I would be misleading anyone! And what does it matter if I am?! What sort of person sees someone they haven’t seen in a while and their first thought is ‘you look nothing like your Facebook picture, I feel misled’?! Only someone who spends too much time on social media, id guess.

I'm not married but i always thought women chose to use a pic of their wedding day as they look beautiful and glamourous. No other reason!