AIBU to think it's a bit weird to put your photo as a bride as as your main

[LoveforPGTipsMonkey]

profile picture on FB/Twitter? especially if you haven't just got married!
Isn't it like saying 'I'm a wife first and foremost'?

whatabreakthrough thank you - my thoughts exactly re 'murdering a puppy', I don't know why posters are determined to see it as a crime to wonder about this choice of pic in context of twitter where it's mainly people you've never met, looking at your profile - and it remains a fact that these are quite unusual as a main profile pic, a small minority.
I saw it, and knowing about the woman's background, WONDERED aloud (not raged about it ) whether she might be making a statement re her role as a wife, or not (hence aibu), and is it a bit weird (bad word for which I apologised) to choose it some time after wedding. It wasn't years and years tbf, but about 2yrs. I 've read some reasonable responses, and accepted that it may not be any particular statement. Fine! Interesting to read others' views and various reasons... that should kind of have been it.

I never thought or said that it was 'unacceptable' or 'bad' or that she's not allowed to do what she likes, as some angry posters accuse me of. I never envisaged a random Sunday eve chat to escalate into many-pages of a battle. I can guarantee, knowing her current situation, that she really wouldn't care about anyone's curiousity, to her face or not.

You are so right what when you say It's strange how the people who think it is odd aren't getting angry with those who didn't think it's odd, but not the other way around. I've learned that it's best to tread on eggshells on these topics, as people can't hear the tone of voice which in RL would make a whole lot of difference - well obviously you are feeling brave now .

just to reply to Sinister - if it was not just after the wedding,, and if it's just the groom rather than couple/friends around, then yes I'd ask the same about a man. Obviously if he just wears a suit and not 'morning dress' it's not always obvious it's him as a groom. Morning dress photo i'd find strange on his own and suddenly used after a year or more post the event. But no I wouldn't block him and it wouldn't affect whether I follow him or not , I'd literally just think 'that's a bit strange'/ nostalgic about his big day? but let's be honest, it's quite rare to see these.

Cinnamus why from Chester? no. Nor is she poor in any way, this wouldn't upset her one bit.

It is rare. It's so interesting (in a depressing way) that advertising that one is married or loved or normal in this way is something that women perceive will give them status on facebook, but men apparently avoid ''advertising'' their married status on facebook. They'd rather not appear as though their identity is spliced or merged. (Some would just rather appear to be single)

My profile picture is a stuffed deer wearing a jaunty hat, it's not even me, so I cant summon the energy to worry about whether other people's profile pictures are a true reflection of what they look like.

Talking of men and whether they use wedding photographs reminded me of a professional colleague, who I didn't know very well, using a photo of him formally dressed for his daughter's wedding, in an advert for his services in a journal.

It looked 'out of place' in my opinion but then unless you're in the wedding business, it would. I also think that if you don't know somebody beforehand, it might be a bit off-putting as it's not a customary professional photo.

I can't think why somebody would suggest that the OP (of any chatty thread), would 'worry' about the subject of a thread when really it's nothing more than idly musing or similar.

Suggesting that posters 'worry' or 'are concerned' or 'fill their heads' or any number of passive aggressive ways to say STFU is really quite obviously an attempt to put them down and silence them.

Wow. Really surprised that this is a thread. Why is it such a problem what anyone has as their profile picture? There could be a number of reasons to her why she used it. It's her profile after all.

Hello parry maybe read the post beneath yours for clarification. No one says it’s “such a problem”, OP said it was “a bit weird”. I also think it’s a bit weird when posters (like you) miss the OP’s question and rewrite it with their own narrative.

Hello parry maybe read the post beneath yours for clarification. No one says it’s “such a problem”, OP said it was “a bit weird”. I also think it’s a bit weird when posters (like you) miss the OP’s question and rewrite it with their own narrative.

Suggesting that posters 'worry' or 'are concerned' or 'fill their heads' or any number of passive aggressive ways to say STFU is really quite obviously an attempt to put them down and silence them.

Either that or the people making that suggestion find using the internet very hard.

I only need to mildly ponder a subject to start a thread on it, because I am very good at clicking buttons and typing sentences.

I agree. It's like when we (although I've never done it) had to start labelling threads "light hearted". It's ridiculous.

I think people have got het up over this thread though because it seems so judgemental over such a trivial thing, it reads like OP is attacking this woman's happiness & her right to do whatever she wants on her own social media.
OP now says she's just 'wondering' what the woman's motives were for using a wedding picture. There's been pages & pages on this thread of everyone else's opinions on why the woman used that picture, but the OP hasn't really told us why SHE thinks she did - she's just said 'no I didn't mean that' and backtracked a bit.
I'll admit this thread riled me, I'm not on Facebook but I use a wedding picture as my profile picture on WhatsApp, because I think I look nice in it. It never occurred to me that it was weird or could be considered smug or me making a statement, so I guess this thread touched a nerve because I assumed when people saw my pic they'd just think 'she looks nice & happy' & it hurts a bit to think they might actually be thinking along the same lines as the OP.

@loveforpgtipsmonkey you could be describing me. I hadn’t changed my profile picture in over a year so was fed up of that one. I spend most of that year being pregnant and being home with my newborn so hadn’t taken any nice up to date photos —and I don’t like when people put a photo of their baby as their PP.— so I changed it to a photo from my wedding day.

I’ve now changed it to a recent one but I just didn’t want a photo of me with a few extra stone and bad pregnancy acne to be my profile photo.

I agree most of all with posters who say that the passive aggressive ways to say stfu are what cross a line.

We can all obviously think what we like and if we all felt the same about everything we'd just shut down mumsnet and the entire internet. So discussion is wanted, with that as a given any post along the lines of get a life, or any accusation that somebody who thinks holds an opinion that differs from your own is prevented somehow from living a life because of their opinion

An opinion takes up the same amount of time whether it's right or left or north or south.

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I use a wedding photo on WhatsApp (not on FB) because I look silly (in that photo) and I think it's funny. No deep wife agenda to it .