AIBU to think it's a bit weird to put your photo as a bride as as your main

[LoveforPGTipsMonkey]

profile picture on FB/Twitter? especially if you haven't just got married!
Isn't it like saying 'I'm a wife first and foremost'?

If you look so much better in your wedding photos then that's different from your everyday look, isn't it? I certainly don't wear a grand of ivory silk and "done" hair to the supermarket And as I tried to explain, I like best the profile pictures which look like people's normal look.

Sometimes you see a wedding photo where the bride is almost unrecognisable - her own beauty and style sort of blurred by wedding fashions. Huge updo on someone who always wears her hair down. Heavy makeup over natural freckles. I'm slightly sad that some women feel they have to conform to a narrow visual definition of "bride" in order to be beautiful - not least because I'm sure the people they're marrying find them beautiful in their pyjamas/greying bra and pants/gardening trousers (not that I'm suggesting that's a good bridal look either ).

I don't know. I guess the only people I know who keep their wedding photo as their profile picture don't look like that photo, so I'm answering the OP from that perspective.

It's weirder on Tinder! So many wedding couple shots.

@LoveForPGTipsMonkey

Isn't it like saying 'I'm a wife first and foremost'?

So what if it is?

I see you are not married, maybe that is why you seem to have such a derogatory view of 'wives?'

You say these women look better on other photos, and the make up looks unnatural. I don't know what it's got to do with you how they look OR what pic they put as their profile pic.

Do you think you may be a bit jealous of these women? And that you may even be a bit bitter???

I think so....................

I am off to change facebook pic to one of me on my wedding day!

People use a photo they like as profile pic. I'm guessing she likes her wedding pic.
Quite a normal thing to do it would say. I wouldn't think nothing of it.
I think it's actually weird that you think it's weird

@MrsHathaway I have no idea what wedding day/bride pics YOU have been looking at, but me AND every women I know personally looked the bleedin' same on their wedding day as they do every other day. Yeah they were made up a little more and had had their hair done professionally, but it was their WEDDING day FFS!

And nobody I know is 'unrecognisable' on their wedding pics. What tosh!

It's weirder on Tinder! So many wedding couple shots.

... what? Tinder, the dating site?!

"Hey, potential date, here's what I could look like if we get married!"

Fair enough, PeiPei.

I'm even sadder about it now.

Maroon face and tiara very much ok i.e. cool&different, tiaras are trendy for parties, but veil and heavy-ish make-up (while other photos used to be quite natural) - I'm just curious why would you.

I guess she is very proud to be a wife! Many of us are. 😀

MrsHathaway I'm sure most brides don't care what you think & don't need you to feel sad for them

It sounds like you're looking for a stick to beat this woman with. Jealousy is not a nice trait OP. What's your connection to her anyway?

Bit confused as to about what you are 'sad' about @MrsHathaway

PeiPei, I'm curious if it's a statement, and used 'weird' light-heartedly, not meant as 'disturbing'. I didn't say it's a bad statement to make but she's a mature woman and used to be quite independent, and I'm not disrespectful of wives, was married before and I wouldn't say no to marriage again!
I'd not put that as my twitter ID photo though, as it's sort of personal and nothing to do with what I tweet to all sorts of people, and they;d keep seeing in that veil haha. I hope you've noticed that most women don't do it, that's why I was curious (it's unusual).

Is she a SIL or an exes new wife by any chance?

Well maybe as a few posters have said, this woman you are deriding is happy and proud to be someone's wife.

Helendee, well again - if that's the statement, I understand. Bit strange that it's been some time after the wedding but again, I sort of just wanted to hear that wedding photo = statement, though not everyone agrees on here.

(I'm going to bed)

I'm delighted when people have happy weddings, and happy memories of their weddings. When people change their profile pictures to wedding pictures for their anniversary or spouse's birthday or something then usually they're celebrating that happy memory and I think that's fabulous.

I'm delighted when people feel good about their appearance. Even better if they're rejoicing in their own features complimented by loving friends/family. A well chosen profile picture can amass a lot of Reactions and boost how we feel about ourselves. We don't need to look telly-perfect for our loved ones to think we look great and say so.

I'm sad if nothing happy ever happens after a wedding which would make a good profile picture.

I'm RAGING about a patriarchy that pretends a woman's wedding day is the pinnacle of her existence. But that's getting off topic.

Sinister, I meant main profile pic, not generally photos on FB especially after those weddings, I get that. On twitter it's very much your ID which comes up next to EVERY comment or 'like' you make.

@MrsHathway

After that last post, I feel sad for YOU.

Sounds like you may have issues @MrsHathaway

Have you spoken to anyone about it?

PeiPei I'm hardly 'deriding' anyone, I was asking opinions as to her motive. As I say this is not just after the wedding, and it's not a very young woman either. If she wants to show that she's proud to be a wife - great, a bit out of character and out of type for a previously indep woman who's not a youngster.

DH and I got married 5 years ago, and soon after we got married my profile pic changed to a wedding one.

I use FB multiple times a day, every day. Still, five years later it's my profile pic, because it was the happiest day of my life.

PeiPei, if someone doesn't agree with you, it doesn't mean they 'have issues' - no need to be rude to MrsHathaway. You are missing the point - it's not about whether women should be proud to be a wife, it's about social media presentation. Most (proud or not) wives don't use their wedding photos to chat to the public as they see it as personal.

I have a picture taken at my 5 year olds kindergarten graduation. Not because my life is defined by him graduating from kindergarten, but because I actually look half decent nice.

WhatToDo fair enough! you wanted to make that statement and you did, absolutely nothing wrong with that - I was wondering if it's always a statement in such cases, especially if changed way after the wedding (at least over a year).